Why should we respect privacy and keep secrets?

In order to respect the privacy of others and prevent others from exploring in any way, Jews resort to the height of law.

In daily life, Jews pay great attention to keeping their mouths shut to show respect for the privacy of others. They think that people who can keep their mouths shut are the masters of life.

Keeping a secret is the touchstone of whether a person can be trusted or not. Jews often measure a person's value by the degree of keeping secrets.

Jews believe that as long as the secret is in your hands, you are its master; But when you tell a secret, you will become its slave. When a person knows a secret, he will be impatient to expose it and think it is human nature.

Because when a person has a secret, he can attract others' attention-everyone likes to explore other people's secrets and wants to attract others' attention. When the secret is revealed, it will certainly attract the attention of the public and make people feel superior.

Once, Balaam, the soothsayer, went to curse the Israelites, but when he saw their camp, he prayed for them.

It turned out that Balaam saw that the tents of the Israelites were not face to face. He thinks they respect each other's privacy, so he prays for them.

In the Jewish nation, based on respect for the privacy of others, no one can go to other people's homes without saying hello. Even if a person lends money to a neighbor, he can't break into someone else's house to get a mortgage. But wait outside until the other party takes out the collateral.

Although Jewish rabbis realize how difficult it is to keep secrets, they emphasize respect and trust, both personally and professionally. As Hasidic Rabbi Aptat pointed out, even if it is mentioned privately among people who are familiar with secrets, it is a sign of low quality.

No matter friends or enemies, don't tell their stories. Never reveal other people's secrets, even if silence oppresses you. Because once others know that the secret is out, they will no longer trust you, and they will seize every opportunity to hate you.

The best trick is to let it die in your heart. Don't be afraid, you won't explode. Otherwise, a fool with a secret is as miserable as a woman in childbirth.

It is said that one of Rabbi Amy's students leaked a secret lecture in class 24 years in advance.

So Rabbi Amy drove him away and accused him of "revealing secrets".

Suppose a judge walks out of the court and says, "I advocate that the prisoner is innocent, but my colleague thinks he is guilty." They are the majority. What can I do? "

You should say to such people: "Don't gossip in the crowd!" "

A noble woman went to seek the advice of Rabbi Aptat. At the sight of her intuitive rabbi, she cried:

"Adultery! You just committed a crime and now you dare to come into my house! "

The woman said excitedly:

"God is patient with sinners. He doesn't punish them at once, and he doesn't reveal his secrets, lest they be ashamed when they face him. He didn't turn away from them. However, the rabbi sitting in the room couldn't bear it for a while and had to reveal the secret hidden by God.

Because of this, Rabbi Aptat often said, "No one has defeated me except a woman."

Jews have many secret proverbs about how to respect the privacy of others and keep secrets for others:

"News that more than three people know cannot be called' secret'."

"It's easy to listen to a secret, but difficult to keep it."

"Fools and children can't keep secrets."

"If you drink secret wine, your tongue will dance, so you should be very careful."