The ex has a new lover? Don't be afraid, the calmer you are, the more you can save it.

The ex has a new lover? Don't be afraid, the calmer you are, the more you can save it.

In fact, breaking up is not the biggest harm to you. The biggest injury should be that you hear that your predecessor has a new blow. Some people will simply give up saving their predecessors and feel sorry for themselves. When he has a new love, he also explains it on the side.

1. He wants to look forward and stop dwelling on the past.

I want to get rid of my last relationship quickly.

After the ex has a new lover, it is necessary to comprehensively judge the situation of the ex and the new lover in order to make a better judgment. There are three common situations, which you can compare and analyze.

1. The breakup continues.

Some people break up and have a new love within a few days. Maybe it's not that he likes this new blow. Maybe it's just that this new blow just happened in his life, and he is used to being accompanied by individuals. Now that you have broken up, he hasn't come out yet. This is a kind of thinking inertia, which needs company.

In this case, even better. After all, he doesn't love his new lover, or his new lover is your substitute. He is trying to find another person to fill the psychological or physical vacancy you once brought him. It's just that he is mentally retarded now and can't let this person become you. Don't be afraid, because it reflects from the side that he still misses you very much. He has you in his heart and he hasn't completely forgotten you.

2. Emotional transfer.

This situation is usually that you broke up for a while, but he really put you down completely, ready to start a new life, and really has feelings for a new lover, so this situation is a bit complicated, but this kind of person won't have a new lover at first, and he must draw a clear line with you completely and distance himself from you before entering the next relationship. Generally speaking, such people have strong self-cultivation and resolving ability. They know how to relax and calm their hearts. The new feelings developed in this situation probably have nothing to do with you.

He betrayed me.

When you met love rat, it was a mistake of principle. He already has a mistress, but this mistress is really superior after your relationship broke up. However, if a man has a mistress, either the man himself is a playboy or there is something wrong with your relationship.

The new blow of the "small three winds" usually appears after the cracks in your feelings. This is usually caused by your long-term contradiction, and most of your emotional problems are because of you, or you didn't solve the problem in time at first, which made him start to be disappointed and tired of you. Naturally, he will want to find hope and passion in others to meet his own needs. So, how to save the ex who has a new love?

0 1. Seize the opportunity and attack in time.

At the beginning of their relationship, the new lover and the ex will definitely have a relationship. During the period of love, he can tolerate every little mistake, so all you have to do during this period is wait. Otherwise, if you try to save him in the meantime, he will only hate you more. Generally, after getting along for a month, two people will have conflicts in most cases. When you pass others or what you have observed, you can start to contact your predecessor appropriately. Here I provide a reference template, which should be adjusted according to your situation. Doing these three things well will help you get back together.

The first thing: contact once every 7 to 8 days.

The second thing: the reason for mutual contact should be the connection when two people get along together, and then talk about life when chatting and asking for help.

The third thing: get to know the situation of the ex and the new lover for a month through the side, and don't let him feel too much.

In this month, you need to calm down, and you need to start to know how you get along with your predecessor, the degree of resistance of the other party, and why. The degree of resistance is divided; Mild, moderate and severe. In a slight case, you can show your feelings for him and seek his comfort within one month of his new blow.

Under moderate circumstances, you can't talk about feelings casually, and the other person will be very repulsive, but you can arouse his feelings for you through something they did before; When it's serious, you can't talk about feelings at all, especially what you did before! At this time, you should contact each other every 7 to 8 days, and the content you send should be mainly based on the content that the other party will reply. When you know the resistance point and degree of the other party to you, including his situation with Xin Feng, it is the best time for you to pave the way for reunification.

02. Solve contradictions and change the inherent impression.

When you find that their love period has passed, you can have a simple communication with him at this time, and you should seize the opportunity even more! If you communicate with him, you can solve your once contradictions. You should know that separation is contradictory. As long as you find this contradiction, you can reverse his previous cognition of you and correct his wrong cognition of you, then the knot in his heart will be untied.

But our explanation is also skillful. Don't explain blindly when you explain. You didn't know me from the beginning. Doing so will only deepen the bad impression in the other person's heart, and your road to recovery will be more difficult. Be sure to adopt a way that is easy for him to accept, and the reasons must be rationalized, and there must be no logical contradiction with you. Of course, you can't worry about it.

You can't eat hot tofu if you are impatient, or you will be self-defeating. When the communication between you is in a harmonious state and has lasted several times, you can begin to elaborate slowly. Before that, you need to do a lot of guidance. Remember, be patient. I believe that an ex will often find a new lover after breaking up, not because of how much he likes new lovers, but because he wants to escape the fact that you broke up with him and make himself less uncomfortable. As long as you are steady, then the opportunity will definitely come back to you.

03, a new transformation, self-improvement. In intimate relationships, the most important thing is to attract each other. Why were we together in the first place? Of course, because you found the bright spot in him and attracted you deeply, so did he. We often say that love and marriage must be appropriate, so what is appropriate? In fact, it does not mean that both sides must have more money, but match.

So how to match it?

The first level: matter. Now is a materialistic era, girls tend to be rich men, so men are actually the same, and they will choose a capable and excellent girl relatively. So we must have the ability to earn money independently and work hard. If you can help him in his work, his affection for you will increase many times.

The second level: appearance. Men are all visual animals, and you will see more beautiful girls in the street. Don't believe what they say, I like you no matter what you look like. Listen to this sentence only in half when you are in love, and don't believe it when you break up. Never be careless and feel sorry for yourself. You'd better take some time to dress yourself up. You don't need to dress up. It is best to be simple and generous, gentle and temperament. This kind of girl is particularly attractive to straight men. Or you can make a big change in style and get a new look, which will definitely attract his attention again.

The third level: spirit. In fact, everyone must be under pressure to face work and life every day. At this time, if you give him proper support and care, he will keep your warmth in mind. The so-called emotional comfort means that you should give him enough respect and care, and properly show your sense of worship. Let him satisfy a man's vanity. So if you quarrel with him after he comes back from work, you must get rid of him. Who doesn't want to talk about a beautiful and sweet love? If you can give him these aesthetic feelings, then he will give you the care and respect you want.

Rekindle interest and release charm. There are so many social software now, so we must make good use of these platforms. You don't have to tell him about your change, but you can release your charm as much as you like, and he will always see it. Every time you appear, it will bring him new surprises or freshness, and it is hard for him not to notice you. For example, you used to be a gentle and quiet person, so you can go out to socialize more and enrich your spare time.