Why is the mother-in-law dissatisfied with her daughter-in-law?

Since ancient times, the problem of mother-in-law and daughter-in-law has been a big problem, even the fuse of family conflicts. My mother-in-law was furious when she mentioned her daughter-in-law, and her daughter-in-law thought of her mother-in-law's sadness again and again. It is not easy for a daughter-in-law to quickly integrate into this big family when she marries her mother-in-law. Different cultural qualities, eating habits, daily routine and behavior habits are intertwined, and it is difficult to integrate with each other in a short time.

I think a large part of it comes from the fact that both mother-in-law and daughter-in-law have not put their identities right. Mother-in-law always feels that her daughter-in-law should treat herself like her own mother, and she is always picky and dissatisfied with whatever her wife does. It is better to regard the daughter-in-law as the son's favorite woman, and the mood of loving me, loving my dog may be different. The wife thinks that her mother-in-law should treat herself as a daughter, but this is not the case. The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is impossible to surpass the relationship between mother and daughter. Therefore, the daughter-in-law has a lot of complaints about her mother-in-law. It is better to regard her mother-in-law as the most important woman in her husband's life and the favorite woman in her husband's life. Maybe this will make her heart a little more balanced.

Mother-in-law and daughter-in-law should understand each other. My mother-in-law has been bossing around at home for so many years, and suddenly someone takes over, which will definitely be unbalanced. Moreover, it is just strange for my daughter-in-law that my son, who has worked so hard to raise, does not listen to himself, is not close to himself, thinks about his wife and does not consider this mother. My wife has been spoiled by her parents for more than 20 years, and everyone is obedient to her and loves her infinitely. When I got married, suddenly there was an old lady, who had to intervene in big and small matters, and she had no opinion in her heart, which was very strange.

So the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law tolerate each other. Mother-in-law and daughter-in-law have different roles, and there is no right or wrong. Different things, from different angles, different moods, treat different things. The daughter-in-law understands this mother-in-law who has worked at home for so many years. Wouldn't it kill her if she let go of the whole power? Mother-in-law tolerates this "foreign population", and "ten-year-old daughter-in-law" has her own experience as a wife and should understand it better.

As the husband of a mother's son and daughter-in-law, it is very difficult to be caught between them. Men play a vital role in this, which directly determines the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, but men should handle the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law tactfully, because no matter which side men stand on, they will hurt each other. To put it bluntly, it's all about you. Men should play the role of reconciliation in the middle, don't embellish it, try to make the daughter-in-law respect her mother-in-law, and her mother-in-law is good to her wife. As the saying goes, "home and everything prosper", there is a harmonious family, no matter what you do, you have a solid backing, and no matter what difficulties you encounter, you will be solved. Home is the warmest harbor. Don't let it rain all night.