How many men can forgive their wives for cheating?

Wife cheated?

Some people say that if a married couple has an affair, 80% of women will forgive men, while only 20% of men can tolerate forgiving women. It's true. Many couples have affairs. If it is a man's fault, most women will say, "As long as others come back and have me and my children in their hearts, I will pretend that nothing happened."

But if the betrayer is a woman, most men will say, ""

I would never want such a woman. "

This is the portrayal of real life. Of course, some men finally forgive women, but only a few people.

Let's watch two true stories together and listen to what the parties think after facing their wives' extramarital affairs.

Zhang Lei and his wife have been married for 18 years, and their relationship has always been very good. After so many years of marriage, Zhang Lei never thought that he would be "cuckolded" by his wife one day.

Last summer, his wife had a lover outside. At first, Zhang Lei didn't know. Later, some subtle changes in his wife made him suspicious.

After some follow-up investigation, he realized that his wife had been with each other for half a year. When Li asked his wife, she regretted it and cried in front of him. She also assured him that she would break up with that man at once.

Zhang Lei was very sad. He loves his wife very much, but he can't stand her betrayal. For the sake of children, he finally didn't choose to divorce his wife.

It's been two years, and Zhang Lei still hasn't let go. This is like a thorn in his heart, which will sting him from time to time, making him unable to extricate himself, and his attitude towards his wife is not as good as before.

He said he wanted to forgive his wife, but it was really hard to do so. As soon as his wife comes near him, he will think of things that make him lose face and dignity.

I'm afraid this will be a lifelong brand in his heart, so that he will always have a little hatred and disgust for his wife. If he is allowed to be kind to his wife as before, he says he can't do it at all.

Li Feng, 38, divorced his wife of eight years because she had an affair.

During that time, Li Feng Company sent him to study abroad. Originally, I agreed with another colleague to travel in the local area for a few days and then come back after the study.

However, Li Fengsi's family was so eager that they did not travel, but returned to China early. He didn't tell his wife that he was coming back because he wanted to surprise her.

Li Feng, who went home with travel-stained enthusiasm, saw a scene he didn't want to see in his life. He doesn't know how he spent that night.

Various emotions are mixed together, including anger, disappointment, doubt and pain, which makes Li Feng's heart mixed. The woman who once cared about him is now hurting him badly. To forgive or not to forgive, Li Feng struggled for a long time on this issue, but in the end he could not convince himself that he could not accept his wife from the bottom of his heart.

In his eyes, his wife used to be a spotless piece of white paper, but now she has become colorful and filthy. Li Feng can't accept such a woman from the bottom of her heart. He thought she was dirty without much hesitation. The next day, he and his wife went through the divorce formalities.

Li Feng said that whenever he thought that his wife was with another man, he felt sick. He certainly can't go on living with such a person.

So he can't forgive or accept such a marriage, and finally there is only one way to go: divorce.

From the same experience and different choices of two men, it can be seen that even if the husband and wife do not divorce in the end, psychologically, the man may never get over this hurdle.

So, why can't a man forgive his wife for having an affair? Three reasons, women should not take chances.

First, in real life, most men regard their wives as their accessories.

Once his woman betrays her marriage, she challenges his authority, which is a huge psychological trauma for men and is not so easy to heal.

Secondly, men are the proudest. If his wife has another man outside, in the eyes of outsiders, it is that the man has not taken care of his woman, or it is a sign of futility.

So "cuckolded", "live turtle" and so on, some extremely insulting language, will be closely linked with him, how can men stand it?

Third, the woman moved her heart. Unlike men, women often put their feelings first. Once a woman has an affair, her heart will no longer stay at home and her heart will be gone. How can a person stay?

Therefore, in the end, it depends on whether women really have no feelings for men and this family. If so, it is meaningless for a man not to forgive.

To sum up, we can draw the conclusion that:

In the face of women's extramarital affairs, most men have only one attitude, that is, throwing the "green hat" as far away as possible. Because at the moment when a man is "green", his self-esteem is strongly stimulated. I'm afraid that at that time, he had only one thought in his heart and couldn't wait for a minute.

Of course, there are also a few men who will reflect on themselves. Is it because they are not good enough for women and ignore her in their daily lives, which makes women have second thoughts?

After reflection, men will not give up this marriage easily, but will also try to save it, try to turn over and try to save it. Even if men don't choose divorce for the sake of their children or this family, their future marriage life will never make women feel better.

If a woman chooses to divorce because of an extramarital affair, and an external man chooses to give up or continue his marriage, then in the end, this woman can only end up with both money and people, and she will regret it.

This is the most tragic ending of a woman's extramarital affairs: both sides lose, and the marriage breaks down.

Therefore, don't treat marriage as a joke, and don't try extramarital affairs easily, because extramarital affairs are like foundation cream coated with honey, or sugar-coated "shells". If it's not good, it will explode and leave you with nothing.