How to distinguish absolutism from over-generalization is terrible.

Typical manifestations of three unreasonable beliefs about cultural needs

Rational emotional therapy originated in the United States in 1950s, which is a kind of cognitive therapy and a branch of it. What are the typical characteristics of irrational beliefs in rational emotional therapy? It's in the following introduction.

1. Absolute demand

It means that people believe that something will happen or not based on their own wishes, which is usually associated with words such as "must" and "should". For example: "I must succeed", "others must be kind to me", "life should be easy" and so on. People with this belief are easy to fall into emotional distress, because the occurrence and development of objective things have their own laws, which are independent of human will. As far as a specific person is concerned, he cannot succeed in everything; For an individual, the performance and development of people and things around him are independent of his will. Therefore, when something happens contrary to their absolute requirements, they can't stand it, feel unacceptable, find it difficult to adapt, and fall into emotional trouble. Reasonable emotional therapy is to help them change this extreme way of thinking, realize the irrationality and unreality of their absolute requirements, and help them learn to look at themselves and the people and things around them in a reasonable way, thus reducing the possibility of their falling into emotional disorder.

2. Overgeneralization

This is an unreasonable way of thinking, which generalizes everything and generalizes ten. Alice once said that it is illogical to generalize too much, just like judging a book by its cover. One aspect of overgeneralization is people's unreasonable evaluation of themselves. For example, when failure is a bad result, people often think they are "useless", "worthless" and "useless". Evaluating one's whole person and one's value as a person by the results of one or several things one has done will often lead to self-blame, inferiority and self-abandonment, anxiety and depression. Another aspect of over-generalization is the unreasonable evaluation of others, that is, if there is a slight mistake, others will think that they are bad and useless, which will lead to blind accusations against others, resulting in hostility and anger. According to Ellis, judging the whole person by the success or failure of one thing is tantamount to an intellectual fascism. He believes that a person's value lies in his humanity, so he advocates not evaluating the whole person, but evaluating his behavior, actions and performance. This is also one of the key points emphasized by rational emotional therapy. Because no one can be perfect in this world, everyone should accept that they and others may make mistakes.

3. It's terrible

This is an idea. If something bad happens, it will be very terrible, very bad, and even a disaster. This will lead individuals to fall into a vicious circle of extremely bad emotional experience such as shame, self-blame, anxiety, pessimism and depression, and it is difficult to extricate themselves. Bad means bad or bad. When a person says that everything is terrible, it often means that the worst has happened to him, which is a disaster. Alice pointed out that this is an unreasonable belief, because for anything, there may be a better situation, and nothing can be defined as 100% bad. When a person thinks along this line and thinks that he has encountered 100% bad things or things worse than 100%, he is leading himself to an extreme and negative bad emotional state. Terrible is often associated with people's absolute demands on themselves, others and the surrounding environment, that is, when what people think is "necessary" and "should" in absolute demands does not happen as they think, they will feel unable to accept this reality, so they will go to extremes and think that things have gone to extremes. In fact, very bad things may happen. Although we have many reasons to hope that this will not happen, there is no reason to think that these things should never happen. We must try to accept the reality and try to change this situation; When it is impossible, you should learn to live in this situation. "

Absolute requirements, over-generalization, and extremely bad are the most representative characteristics of unreasonable beliefs. I believe that as long as we master these characteristics, we can find the right medicine, find the most suitable treatment methods and means, and better save patients.