I have never forgotten my predecessor. What should I do to forget him completely?

You must decide, you must leave this man, and you no longer want to save him, otherwise it will be difficult for us to get rid of this goal. Once the goal is set, it's time to leave.

1, the first step is to get rid of cognition.

We can understand it as shifting our attention from one thing to another and turning that thing into another. If I tell you not to think about a pink elephant, you can't stop thinking about it, can you? This is cognitive detachment. You can arrange things for yourself, make plans for yourself, or be a star, and so on. When you miss your ex, turn your attention to what you plan and replace one thing with another.

Step 2, get rid of emotions.

When our emotions come, don't be depressed, pay attention to your emotions, and then tell yourself, "I'm a little angry now, I'm a little sad now, I think I'm depressed" to make yourself aware of your emotions. You can't suppress your emotions. Cry if you want. Tears can make the brain secrete endorphins and make people feel happy. You can also chat with your good friends or play with them. If you especially hate people who hurt you, you can find a puppet. After you treat him, scold him, hit him and vent your emotions, you treat yourself as the other person, treat the puppet as yourself, think from the other person's point of view, and then tell the puppet (yourself) your thoughts. You can also write a letter to the other party and write out your own feelings, whether it is a good thing or a curse. Write down your feelings and burn them after writing. It is unnecessary. Let him know that this is just an expression of your feelings.

Step 3: Get rid of motivation.

If your goal is just to escape from that person, then your motivation is not ideal, because such a goal will bring you pressure. If your goal is to live a better life, getting out of the shadow of your predecessor is just a way, and the ultimate goal is to live a better life, then your goal will play a positive role. So, when you make a plan, think about why you make this plan. Don't just focus on the achievement of the goal, but look at the positive things it will bring you after the goal is achieved.

4, the fourth step from the behavior.

It's easier to get out of action, it's to let you act instead of just planning not to act, then everything you do will be meaningless. If you can't achieve it yourself, then you can let others supervise your plan and let others participate in your plan. This method is not only suitable for lovelorn people, but also suitable for work, entrepreneurship and hobbies. You can apply this method to anything you want to give up. As long as you know how to use it, if you just listen and don't act, it will be difficult to work, and even "thinking" requires hard work, so you must be ruthless.