Gender psychology: What became the "last straw" that crushed your love?

"The last straw to crush a camel" comes from an Arab fable:

A master has an old camel. The camel works hard every day. Once, the master wanted to see how much the old camel could hold, so he kept adding and adding, but the old camel was still not crushed to death. Finally, the owner doubted whether it had reached the limit, so he gently threw a straw on its back. Unexpectedly, it was this straw that made the old camel collapse.

However, it is often not the right or wrong with different views and bad character that crushes marriage, but some small things that outsiders despise or others think make a mountain out of a molehill.

Small things see life.

The daily feelings of subtleties really determine people's happiness index.

"The last straw that crushed the camel" means:

Things have reached the critical point of the limit, and adding any more factors will make it collapse.

There was once a topic on the Internet: "The moment of the other party became the last straw that overwhelmed your love."

Some people said that I wanted to have a good talk with him, but he advised me to sleep well.

Some people say that I lost my lipstick, but he told me to drink more water.

Someone cried because of her boyfriend's sentence, "Have you cried enough? I have cried enough. "

Some people say that they are single because their boyfriend met a new opposite sex.

Some people scold their parents because of their boyfriends.

Others were arrested for premarital property notarization.

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In many relationships, the reasons for breaking up in the end always seem inexplicable. Two people who obviously left you and me yesterday suddenly broke up today, perhaps because of a trivial matter or just because of a sentence.

People who refuse to turn around without saying a word will never be indifferent to outsiders for no reason. But only they know how they struggled and how to give up. All those efforts that floated with the wind turned out to be a joke.

Sometimes the last straw that crushes love is not sudden infidelity or betrayal, but those days that are painless and can't see the future.

Those insincere breakups may all stem from the collapse and despair of one party.

In We Are Fine, I found a person who wanted to go out to work because of depression, but didn't want to move forward, which eventually led to divorce.

I've always wondered. He accused me of looking for: "I have been working hard to stand on the same level as you, to marry you, and to make you and your children worry about food and clothing." I don't know where I am wrong? "

Looking ahead, after marriage, two people should go their separate ways. As a breadwinner, he should look after his children at home, and he unilaterally thinks that the life he pursues is very good, because she can wake up naturally every day, then have afternoon tea, do spa and play cards, without having to compete with others in society.

As for the search, so many years of not accompanying, not understanding and not listening often drove her to the point of despair, and even though she filed for divorce, she still didn't realize it. I don't think she can understand her difficulties even if she says she has depression.

For years, she tried to ask for help. She called him and communicated with him, but she was disappointed every time.

In the eyes of outsiders, the life you are looking for is glamorous, the children are clever and sensible, and the husband's career has achieved something. Even if he has depression, it's not a big deal. It's good to see the disease.

But for the search, the decision to divorce stems from repeated disappointments and the pressure and collapse that I can no longer bear.

This is undoubtedly a killing of each other in marriage.

Leaving is a long and difficult decision. You questioned why I suddenly refused to look back, but you didn't know that before that, every disappointment of mine was accompanied by the decrease of my love for you. Only by saying goodbye at last can I be born again.

What is the last straw to crush love?

We have been together for several years, and you have never cared about my mood. We argued so many times that you never lied to me once.

The first time I thought, it doesn't matter, after all, I love you;

The second time, I want to give you another chance,

The third time, if you don't coax me, I can be myself;

The fourth time, I love you very much and can give you a chance to grow up. ...

But that day, the last time I cried on the other end of the phone, I was out of breath, and all you said was, "Have you cried enough? I hung up. "

This sentence defeated all the ideas about reconciliation in my heart, and it began to give me an epiphany. I insisted on something for so long, and there was nothing. I gave so much love I wanted, but it was empty in the end. Forget it, so many years of feelings, let's call it a day. I only needed you before. Now, I understand that what I need is care and care, and I will spend the rest of my life looking for it.

All straws can crush a camel, not the last one. The person who loves you chooses to bear this weight until she no longer loves you.

It was never a trivial matter that made me decide to break up. When I loved you, the power of love overcame disappointment, and I left, because love finally couldn't stand the long battle. When all love is killed by hope, I won't love you anymore.

When disappointment accumulates enough, the person who decides to accompany you for life will leave.

Love is not a fairy tale. Love can't just talk about right and wrong. Adults are experts in pros and cons analysis. If one day, loving you becomes a sharp weapon to hurt myself, then I will choose to leave and give myself a chance.

If you love someone, don't ignore her needs. Love is a process of mutual satisfaction, and liking someone is also a process of constant satisfaction. Don't let a person who loves you accumulate more and more resentment, and don't force a person who loves you to leave, because once she leaves, she doesn't love you, and you can't get it back.

Cherish the lover around you, cherish the feelings of both sides, and don't leave regrets for love.

Author: Miss Xiaoxian

National second-level psychological counselor, Tarot soothsayer, planetary energy healer, freelance writer and trainer.

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