Mirrors and windows

Speaking of mirrors and windows, what can we think of?

These two words seem to have nothing to do with each other. How are they connected?

Some people may think of real mirrors and windows. Have you ever had such a picture in your mind? A small house stands in the field. From a distance, we can only see a small half-open window. A woman is sitting on the edge of the bed making up and painting yellow in front of the mirror. Everything is elegant and comfortable.

Some people will think of our eyes, because eyes are the windows to the soul. Through the eyes, we can see a person's inner world, whether it is ugly or food, good or evil, and we can see something from it. But now many people are nearsighted and wear glasses, which are concave lenses.

The mirrors and windows I want to talk about today are also very interesting. In fact, I found them while chatting with my friends.

Among the miscellaneous things I learned, two are very interesting, one is tarot, the other is group dynamics, and the latter is psychoanalysis based on psychology.

A sentence often mentioned in tarot cards (of course, there are restrictions here, I studied Osho Zen Tarot cards) is that each card is a mirror that can reflect itself.

So every time I play tarot with my friends, I often ask a lot of questions. For example, the simplest thing is, what do you see in this card? What does it look like? What does the color represent? It's all over the floor. I will ask some slightly deeper questions, how do you feel? Are you comfortable or uncomfortable? Do you like it or not? Then I will ask how it relates to work or life, and whether there are any past experiences that remind you.

This sequence of questions is also like SPIN, slowly asking more and more important questions. In order to avoid people's aversion to asking questions blindly, they will occasionally tell their own thoughts and stories, which will create a deeper connection between them so that the following topics can continue. In fact, it is to give each other enough security. Only in this way can we say something deeper.

When several cards can be connected together, it will be more interesting and a series of stories will be produced. For example, the day before yesterday, the past, the present and the future were all played. If it is troublesome, there will be another card as a solution.

These things are mirrors, in which the participants themselves are reflected. As a companion, I can look at them more from my own point of view, and find something he doesn't know but I know, that is, the blind spot in Harry's Window. When I say what I think, I will probably give the other person some inspiration.

So, this is their relationship, a mirror and a window.

In fact, there are many kinds of such mirrors. Simple can be expressed in a picture. There are many kinds of cards, which can be tarot cards, oh cards, or any card with complicated images. Maybe magic parties can also be used for this purpose. If it is more complicated, you can use building blocks and Lego, which will make people think more deeply. In fact, the essence is similar. No matter what kind of mirror you use, you will reflect a person as he is.

More importantly, we use the johari window. If you can find a person's blind spot and give some inspiration better, it is enough.

Of course, the final solution is still up to him, and he can't rely on us. After all, the advice we give is only our advice. Everyone is ok and can solve their own problems. All we have to do is remind them often.