Yan Jiaxun II: Teaching Children (2)

[1] Nominee: In ancient times, people who studied as officials were called scholars, and nominees referred to taxis with titles.

[2] Hanging the pillow: Tie the quilt tightly and hang it, and put the pillow in the box.

[3] Weird: evil.

[4] Preparation: Prepare all kinds of appliances.

[5] East Palace: the place where the prince lives, also refers to the prince. Quasi: In comparison.

[6] Advantages of courtesy: courtesy refers to the level of etiquette; Ultra vires: ultra vires, exceeding the provisions of the system.

[7] ride: the emperor's car, later used to refer to the emperor.

[8] Chang: Children? Smell? , once.

[9] Qu Yu: an official in charge of the emperor's diet in ancient times.

[10] Hook shield: ancient official seal, in charge of royal gardens and other affairs.

[1 1] Sentence: Blame and scold.

[12] Fenqi: the meaning of this part.

[13] Sit: Violation. Youyou: Died in claustrophobic detention. H (non-hūng), the princes died? Hey? .

[14]*** Uncle: Uncle Duan, Zheng Bo's brother. Because his mother Zhuang Jiang doted on him, he finally embarked on the road of rebellion, which was destroyed by Zheng Bo, the first chronicle of China, Spring and Autumn Annals. It is said that it was written by Confucius and ranked first. Zheng Boke was Duan Yanyu.

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[16] Shu Shu: Write this handover document and letter.

V: yes? Clothing? .

[18] exemption: same? Bow down? , lower the head.

[19] industry: occupation refers to the service for public officials.

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With the majesty of a father, don't be too close to children; With the love of close relatives, you shouldn't be informal. Informal, loving and filial, far from it; Excessive intimacy can lead to unbridled disrespect. Counting from the literati with status, it is a way not to be too close to their father and son. When the younger generation scraped and cleaned the bedding for their elders, this is the truth of paying attention to etiquette. Someone wants to ask: Chen Kang is glad to hear that a gentleman keeps his distance from his children. What does this mean? I want to answer: Yes, gentlemen don't teach their children in person, because there are sarcastic and abusive poems in the Book of Songs, warnings that are inconvenient to express in the Book of Rites, records of violation of rules in the Book of Rites, accusations of fornication in the Spring and Autumn Annals, and divination in the Book of Changes. These are not things that fathers can tell their children directly, so gentlemen don't teach their children themselves. ?

Gao Yan, the third son of Emperor Wu Qi, is the half-brother of Prince Gao Wei. He was born smart, and Wu Chengdi and the Empresses of the Ming Dynasty liked him very much. He eats and drinks like a prince. Wu Chengdi often praised him to his face and said:? This is a clever boy who will succeed in the future. ? When the prince ascended the throne, the evil king was moved to Gong Bei to live, and the queen mother treated him too generously, which was different from his brothers. Even so, the queen mother said that preferential treatment is not enough, and she often talks about it. When the evil king was about ten years old, he was arrogant and unruly, and all his clothes and uses were compared with those of his brother who was an emperor. On one occasion, he went to the South Temple to worship, met an imperial envoy and a hook shield order who presented the emperor with ice cubes and precocious plums just taken out of the cellar, and sent someone to ask for them. When he didn't get them, he lost his temper and scolded, why don't I have what the emperor has? He doesn't know how to keep his duties as a minister, and his behavior is usually the same. People of insight often accuse this of being the reappearance of ancient Shu Duan and Zhou Xu. Later, the evil king hated the Prime Minister and Shikai, so he killed him with a false imperial edict and worried that someone would come to save him. He ordered his sergeant to guard the gate of the temple. In fact, he did not defect, but withdrew after being appeased, just because it was secretly executed by the court.

People love their children, but few people can treat them equally. From ancient times to the present, there have been enough disadvantages in it. Smart and beautiful children are certainly worthy of appreciation and love, and stupid and dull children should also have pity and sympathy. Those who are partial to children hurt him, although they try to be kind to him with their love. Uncle Duan's death was actually caused by his mother, and his death was actually caused by his father. Other clans, such as the overthrow of Liu Biao and the failure of Yuan Shao, can learn from Gui Ling and Spiegel.

A scholar-bureaucrat in the Southern Dynasties told me: I have a child, 17 years old, who is very familiar with official document writing. I taught him to speak Xianbei and play the pipa, and he gradually mastered it. It is also a top priority to use these specialties to serve the princes. ? I hung my head and didn't answer. The way this man educates his children is amazing! If you can become a prime minister because of this profession, I don't want you to do it.

short review

Yan jiaxun's second rule? Teach a child? This paper mainly expounds the importance and methods of educating children. There are several points worthy of our attention:

First, we attach importance to children's early education and think that prenatal education and preschool education are very important: when it comes to babies, knowing people's colors and emotions, we will teach them, let them do it, and let them stop. Compared with a few years older, you can save punishment. ? The importance of this kind of education has been confirmed by modern science and technology; Second, we should handle the relationship between education and love. It is harmful for parents to spoil their children too much. To have a correct orientation in educating children, we must first attach importance to moral education. Taking a scholar-bureaucrat in the Qi Dynasty as an example, the author thinks that it is not advisable to lower one's personality to serve the powerful in order to gain wealth. In my opinion, it is wrong not to see the child look depressed because of being scolded, and not to bear to let the child feel pain because of being beaten. It's like a person is sick. Can it be cured without decoction and acupuncture? The author lists the different results brought about by the strict family education of the mother of the monk, Wei Laotai, and the indulgence of the emperor to her three evil kings, in order to prove that strict family education is absolutely necessary.