What is a good topic to talk about when Zhihu pursues women?

For example, someone mentioned, talk about yourself. . . . A joke that has been spit out for a long time is that a man sat next to a group of women and found that this group of people were talking about themselves, and then chatted happily all afternoon. Yes, we girls are so proud! I just like all the topics around me! I just want to bring every topic to myself! You refused to bite me! You keep talking about yourself, I bite you! . . . . No one (not just girls) really wants to listen to your hard history, account books and mental journey without knowing you. Why don't you talk about the other person's interest in you first, and then wait for the other person to force you to ask these questions.

Then someone said, let's talk about girls' homes. Really don't. If you don't know her so well, really don't talk about such a personal topic. After all, family is a big topic, and there are too many entanglements. I don't know what I will talk about if I talk deeply. If the talk is shallow, it doesn't make much sense for everyone to say something like "not bad" and "I envy you". And if two people are unfamiliar, the topic is not deep, there are too many backgrounds to pave the way, and there are too many complicated emotions inside. You are an outsider, why should I tell you? !

There are also suggestions to talk about philosophy, constellations and food. What if you meet a vegetarian who does experiments in the laboratory all day or is full of mathematical formulas or vegetarians? Do you want to show off your extensive knowledge? Or let the girl understand the meaning of the word chicken and duck?

Then those friends who take it for granted that just listen to a girl and give her a smile, you. . . . Do you really think girls are talkative? You can talk all afternoon when you meet a male animal A on the road? Or grab a boyfriend a and talk for a day? Body is an obligation! If this girl is not a disgruntled woman who sighs all day, nor a chatterbox, she knows what a "pleasant conversation" is! ! A person chats from A to B and then finds another topic C by himself. This is really not called "chatting"! ! ! Don't expect your imaginary "coquettish smile" to be so masculine when it is realized. It is likely to make girls feel that "this man knows nothing and finally smirked at me." He is too tired to see him again! " Chatting needs interaction.

There is also a boy paper, which is very good-looking and has a rich family background. If you just like girls who like your money and face, you don't have to care about the topic. If you throw a handful of money at a girl's face, she will smile and say, you are so gentle and considerate. Women are happy to go out for dinner with you. . . . But I guess you have higher ambitions, right?

Then what topic is better to talk about? I don't know, either. Stop hitting me, stop hitting me, I said this for a reason! )

Every girl is different. Too many people objectify "women" and always think that they can sum up the characteristics of this group in one sentence and give them all kinds of hats.

But don't be so proud! I can leave anytime! This old song reveals its age. )

Boys will also like football and basketball, and boys who like basketball will also like Kobe McGrady Johnson, so why do girls just watch Korean dramas and constellations with computers? Maybe girls like American TV series and are addicted to tarot cards!

Therefore, for boys who want to chase girls, please treat the question of "which topics are better to talk about" as a sacred academic paper. Conduct an in-depth investigation around girls' interests to get the most accurate answer! Never take it for granted! Here are some references.

q； How to find girls' interests?

A: The most effective ones are QQ space of friends circle, everyone in Weibo and these personal platforms.

Because what a person posts on these platforms, if not to show off, then she just wants to share. These points are her daily life, not too private, and can be spread out when chatting. And if you tell her your status in the circle of friends, it will let her know that you care about her.

Never be a praise expert! I sent a state to share my happiness (sadness) with you. I don't know how you will react-ah, a person replied to me. Does he share my feelings or do some extension? What kind of communication will we have? -Ha ha, just like it. Too much praise is worthless. You don't care, and neither do girls.

Q: But girls have a wide range of interests. Which one do you want to talk about?

A: It can't be familiar to that girl. For example, she spent four years studying biology in the laboratory, and then you came to Balabala to talk about animals, plants and cells. It's easy to get hit in the face and make girls think you're here to show the lower limit of IQ.

I am interested in chatting with girls, but I don't know much. This is the best topic. She doesn't know much and is curious. So if you do a little homework, you can catch her attention with something a little deeper. Then, you will slowly expand in the girl's question, carefully and thoroughly, and finally lay the groundwork for the next conversation in the girl's adoring eyes! This charm depends on Zhihu. How many great gods have millions of fans just because they have mastered the knowledge that we are interested in but not familiar with? !

When you are chatting, you find that girls know nothing about a topic, so don't continue. There is a word called "curse of knowledge". If she doesn't understand, she won't be interested. You are not a missionary. In that case, change the subject quickly.

Q: So how do we talk about these topics?

A: Don't be too deliberate. Create an environment where everything is natural. For example, if girls like literature, you can meet them unexpectedly in the library and stage the story of "This is your book" and "No, this is your book". Don't buy a set of pancake fruit. Just take a bite and shout at the girl, "Jing M.Guo's childhood was so wonderful that I cried!"

Or leave a profound message in a state where girls can talk deeply, and then say, I still have some research on these things, so we can take time to have a good talk and create conditions for discussion (Hui).

Q: What should we pay attention to when chatting?

A: This is a university question, so I won't go into details here. In short, it is to master the atmosphere, the way of speaking and the tone, and don't be too eager.

In short, chasing girls is not a technical job, because girls are people, not objects that can be done in one step, two steps or three steps.

Chasing girls should take pains to understand, not to be black.

In the process of understanding, see if this girl is suitable for you. The twisted melon is not sweet, you will hurt it.