Debate: Meng is the girl's fault.

Self-protection is a seemingly honest person, but there are actually many ghosts. "Under the pretext of changing clothes, he tried his best to approach and pursue girls. When he achieved his goal and got the girl's dowry, he showed his ugly face, abandoned the woman mercilessly, and even was cruel to her, wishing to kill the yellow-faced woman. Such a person is hateful, and the tragic fate of women is directly caused by him. However, while we hate this ungrateful man, have we ever wondered if our heroine was carried away by love in this tragic marriage, so that she fell into pain?

There is such a sentence in the article, which is worth pondering: "As for Dunqiu, I sent my son to Qi. When I was a robber, I had no good media. There is no anger in the child, and autumn is a period. " Under the rhetoric of "self-protection", the woman was tempted. She actually sent the man through ice water and sent him to Dunqiu before turning around. These two places are written in the poem, which shows that women send men far away and women love men deeply. At this time, the man offered to marry the woman. Of course, girls don't agree to get married so rashly. This did not conform to the custom at that time. You have no matchmaker. How can I marry you? Men ignore these and get angry. So the woman coaxed, don't be angry, let's take autumn as the wedding date.

It can be seen from this that the nature of self-protection has been exposed, but our heroine is addicted to love and has not found the shortcomings of men. It makes sense for women to exclude men. One is to get married hastily soon after meeting each other, and the other is that without a matchmaker, marriage will have a bad name and bad words. But how did this man behave? He was angry. The fault lies with him, but he blames the woman, which paves the way for the following article: "Do whatever you say, as for violence". Before you married him, he got angry so easily, which showed that he had a bad temper. But our heroine was completely carried away by love, but she didn't see it. She was extremely gentle and comforted him. Besides, being angry at the mention of the matchmaker shows that he doesn't really want to be responsible for the woman and marry her according to the rules. This also laid the groundwork for abandoning the woman later, because the man was not sincere from the beginning, and he just coveted her young beauty and money. Once he has money, the woman is old and her color is fading, so he mercilessly abandons her.

In ancient times, matchmakers played a very important role in the marriage between men and women. At that time, there was no marriage law, and the matchmaker played the role of notarization. Women had no status in ancient times, and many women were mercilessly abandoned by men. With a matchmaker, even if men want to dislike women, they have to find some excuses. Even if you are abandoned, society will sympathize with you, at least in public opinion. Without a matchmaker, it is difficult for women to safeguard their legitimate rights and interests. Our heroine is not ignorant of this, just confused by the so-called love, and even agrees with the self-protection that "autumn will last for a while". Now that the wedding date has been agreed, there is naturally no need for a matchmaker. The following article, "Buer, the body is blameless", shows that the date of their marriage is not the words of the matchmaker, but the result of their own divination. No matchmaker means eloping, and their marriage is not guaranteed. Therefore, when a woman is neglected by self-protection and even beaten, she has nowhere to tell, and even her brothers laugh at her.

After sending away the self-protection, the woman fell into deep thinking. "I hope to take advantage of the situation and go back to the customs." I didn't see the resumption of customs, so I cried. Seeing the resumption of GATT, I always smile. "Women are deeply in love, unable to extricate themselves, waiting for their lover not to come, so anxious that they even climb the low wall and look out; I can't help crying without seeing my lover. When I finally saw the person I loved coming, I broke into tears and smiled, and I was ecstatic. The girl was completely carried away by love, lost her mind and imagined her future life too beautifully. Once abandoned, I understand that "I am a woman, and I have nothing to worry about." "The anxiety of scholars can still be said, but the anxiety of women can't be said.

On the one hand, it reveals the inequality between men and women in ancient times, and at the same time, it shows women's deep regret for indulging in love. In the last four chapters, women tell endless regrets. She complained repeatedly and was heartbroken. She seems to be telling the world that we must be careful about our marriage and not be carried away by rhetoric. Marriage must get the consent of parents and brothers, and don't elope with men without permission.

Therefore, in Preface to Mao Poetry, it is said that the theme of this poem is "Beauty belongs to the right", which means that this poem praises women for understanding the truth and returning to the right marriage path. This statement makes sense. In fact, in ancient times, it was impossible for women to strive for freedom of marriage and equality between men and women.