Can you ask the man's income on blind date (should you ask the other person's income)

More and more people are beginning to embark on the road of blind date, and even those who once said that they would never be blind date will inevitably be stereotyped.

They are burdened with the hopes of their parents and relatives, the expectations of the other half, and the sustenance of "what if something happens". They went on blind dates again and again, but not everyone had a good result. Some people even date 30+ and still can't find the right person.

Someone said, "When you can accept blind date, it proves that you are not young."

In this era when one-night stands can happen anytime and anywhere, blind date also pursues efficiency, and even now there is a quick blind date question and answer template:

"How tall are you?"

"What do you do?"

"What do you like?"

"Do you have a car?"

"Do you have a room?"

"What's your salary?"

Then basically all died in the end, or left a communication way to say thank you to each other, no matter.

Now the blind date is more clearly marked, and the blind date market is like a mixed vegetable market. The blind date process is also extremely painful. I want to know each other's income. I can't ask directly, don't ask and don't know. What should I do?

Then, should the blind date ask about the other person's income, and should we explicitly talk about "money matching" from the beginning?

Shanshan is a beautiful post-90s girl. For various reasons, she is still single in her twenties. This situation makes Shanshan's parents very anxious, afraid that their daughter will become an older woman and eager for her daughter to get rid of the bill.

The old couple inquired and compared for half a month, and finally found an excellent blind date for Shanshan. Shanshan met each other smoothly, and her first impression was unexpectedly good. After exchanging pleasantries, the two sides began to sit down and drink coffee. Shanshan is a very pragmatic child. After a few words, she began to ask each other about their monthly income. After chatting for a while, the two went home separately. Shanshan actually thought about this blind date a little, and felt that he was very good in all aspects, which was very suitable for his eyes.

Unexpectedly, after returning home, Shanshan received a short message from the other party: "You are very good, but I think we may not be suitable."

Shanshan was unconvinced: "Why?" "You think about economy, and I think about suitability. We may not be suitable. " Little did Shanshan expect that she was defeated by a common blind date.

When Shanshan went on a blind date, she acted like a normal blind date, but she met an eclectic blind date. This is entirely possible for two people, because the income survey cuts off all possibilities. Facts have proved that not all blind date objects like reality and directness, but often economic strength occupies a certain position in marriage and love. In this case, should we put aside economic factors?

There is a problem that everyone basically recognizes, that is, the economic situation directly affects the quality of married life. Those who enter the marriage independently are still measuring and comparing the economic level of both parties, let alone blind date.

Because the blind date is clearly marked, because anyone should know the basic situation before looking for a blind date, such as what job? How old is it? Where are you from? Do you have a car and a house? How's the family? So it is understandable to ask about economic income again. Since we are in a hurry to get married, it is necessary for us to know about the economic situation.

So the essence of the question is not whether to ask, but how to ask. In the face of direct blind date, we can be more direct, but in the face of some people who care about girls' unreality, how to ask is particularly important.

Some people say that in the face of the question of whether men love themselves or not, most women will say, do you love me? The man said, love.

And smart women won't ask, smart women will ask, if your mother and I fall into the water at the same time, who will you save first?

I once saw a good answer on the Internet. Many people will worry about whether boys are mothers-in-law, whether boys have opinions, and how do they know?

Ask him about history-do you study science?

Oh, are you good at physics?

Then why did you choose this major in college?

Do you like this major yourself? Didn't your family give you a reference?

In fact, the key issue is the last sentence, and the front is all foreshadowing. If the question is designed like this, it is easy for us to know each other's real situation. If we ask each other directly, "Are you Ma Baonan?"

Those who have no temper will say that I am not, and those who have temper may directly black you and even call me Ma Baonan.

Then how should we ask when we want to know each other's income and consumption?

We collected some from the internet and sorted them out to share with you.

Do you have any hobbies?

You can know each other's monthly consumption through their hobbies. If he says he likes watching movies or sports, he can also ask the number of times to judge the consumption situation from the number of times. )

Do you like group buying?

How about visiting relatives at home and buying train tickets (or plane tickets)?

Like group buying, although it can't prove the other party's economic ability, it at least shows that he is frugal. Foreigners usually go home, and the means of transportation they take can show the economic situation from the side.

Analyze the psychological state of being asked about income from the perspective of men with good income;

The other party's income is good and rational. He knows that blind date is inevitable and can accept it calmly.

The other party's income is good, but it is idealized. I hope to find my soul mate through blind date. I can't accept that girls are too realistic and ask about their income directly.

The other party's income is good and rational. The woman's question about income has no influence on him, but she is more inclined to less realistic girls.

Therefore, when we directly ask each other about their income, we may get bad feedback, so if we change the way of asking, we can not only make the other party accept it, but also ask useful information for us.

Many people will package themselves and flaunt themselves when dating. There is nothing wrong with this kind of thing, but we must master a reasonable "degree".

Over-packaging, over-publicity, saying that you have many advantages without so many advantages is obviously self-deception. You can pretend for a while, but not for life. After talking about marriage, it will involve many practical problems. At that time, it would only make people look down upon and laugh.

I hope the blind date can respect marriage, find love and live a happy life.

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