In Goodbye Lover, Tong Chenjie loves KK very much, but why doesn't she want to have children?

The most important thing is that both of them love each other deeply, but they have not reached an understanding on issues such as having children and drinking. But in the new issue, the two had a fierce conflict at the dinner table. Only then did they realize that they were not as loving as usual, but there were many undercurrents under their smiling faces.

Ni Ping, a special guest, made the problems between two people clearer, perhaps because of the guidance of a bosom sister, which made them speak freely. It can be seen from their fierce words that Tong Chenjie, who has been married, is very mature and knows what he wants. She said she didn't want children because KK was not ready to be a father. In fact, the underlying reasons are probably the following.

Inferiority and narcissism are both inferiority and narcissism. It can be seen from their conversation that KK originally worked hard in Changsha, but later came to Shanghai because she met Tong Chenjie and married him. As a native of Harbin, according to Shanghai's housing policy, he still can't buy a house. Although he and Tong Chenjie have become legally married, he still doesn't feel a sense of belonging. In this inferiority complex, he gradually became a very sensitive person.

Tong Chenjie became very cautious, just like KK said, once he and Tong Chenjie had a big fight over directions, and even abandoned the car and drove directly on the busy road. The fundamental reason is that KK can easily raise a trivial matter to a regional issue between two people, thinking that Tong Chenjie, a Shanghainese who once had a very good marriage, would look down on himself. In this sense of inferiority, Tong Chenjie became very cautious, fearing that he might accidentally touch KK's soft spot again.

She felt self-abased in front of Tong Chenjie, so in this conversation, Tong Chenjie used the word "coax" many times. When answering Ni Ping's reason for filing for divorce two years ago, she said, "I can't coax him". KK is a very contradictory person. In front of Tong Chenjie, he felt inferior, but he was extremely narcissistic. I think he must have left something behind when he came to this world. It is impossible to come quietly and leave without a trace. Therefore, when you have a child, you can prove that he has been here, and it is also a stamp from society.

Conclusion In fact, it also shows that KK is an extremely selfish person. He regards this child as his own private property, trying to regard it as his own shadow in society, so that he can be linked with this society forever. But he forgot that whether Tong Chenjie or a child, he is himself first, and then he can become someone else's.