What are the legends about the appearance of matchmakers and various titles?

In the traditional marriage in China, the participation of matchmakers is essential from proposal, engagement to final marriage. Only through "matchmaker's words" can both men and women tie the knot and harmonize Qin Jin, and marriage can conform to ethics. The folk proverb "There is no cloud in the sky, no rain in the ground and no media on the ground" reflects the important role played by matchmakers in the traditional marriage system in China.

When the matchmaker originated is not clearly recorded in historical materials. It stands to reason that matchmakers should be the product of the evolution of human marriage from group marriage to monogamy.

The matchmaker in Xia and Shang Dynasties is not called "matchmaker" or "symbol", but "envoy". In the Oracle bone inscriptions in Yin Ruins, there are many Oracle Bone Inscriptions who asked for marriage as an emissary, such as "Tell me personally, make my daughter an uncle" and "make an envoy for my daughter." The former generally said that the man's emissary went to the woman and discussed with his parents to marry her; The latter is the emissary of the married woman.

In ancient literature, the earliest work that recorded the matchmaker was The Book of Songs. For example, Qianfeng Fake said: How about sending customers? There is no axe to cut. How about finding a wife? No matchmaker, no marriage.

It means, how can I cut off a big branch? You don't have to cut it with an axe. How can I get a wife? You can't get married without a matchmaker

Thus, as early as the Zhou Dynasty, the matchmaker had become an important part of marriage. Later, they called the matchmaker "Ke Fan" or "Ke Fanren" and called the matchmaker "Zhike". For example, Wu's "Meng Lianglu Marriage" in the Song Dynasty records: "The two families of the Vakko people informed that they would post on another day."

In the form of marriage, the folk practice is not only an independent marriage based on mutual love between men and women, but also an engaged marriage marked by monogamy is gradually accepted by people. Engagement marriage is not only the result of political marriage in the upper class, but also the need of standardizing marriage in the lower class, thus becoming a development trend of society at that time.

Since the Zhou Dynasty, it has gradually become a custom to get married through a matchmaker, and the general public admits that the matchmaker is getting married. "Mencius Teng Wengong" said: Without waiting for the life of parents, the words of a matchmaker give you a glimpse, and they climb over the wall with each other, and parents are mean.

There are many examples of history books being ridiculed without media. For example, Lu Huangong married Yu Qi without media, and Ji Ji married Zi Yue without media, which was ridiculed by the classics. The daughter of a Taishi married Zhang Fa, the prince of Qi. Although she is the queen, her father still hates it. All these examples show that the matchmaker plays an indispensable role.

With the continuous enrichment and development of China culture, the names of matchmakers have gradually increased. According to Biography of the Book of Jin, which was co-authored with others, Xiaolian Linghu had a dream that he was walking on an icy lake and talking to people under the ice when he was suddenly awakened.

Some fortune tellers explain this dream that people who can stand on and under the ice can talk, which symbolizes that the dreamer is reconciling Yin and Yang. To reconcile Yin and Yang is to be a matchmaker, that is to say, he will be a matchmaker for others. But this medium is not easy to make. It takes the enthusiasm of the dreamer to melt the ice, and both men and women can get married.

In this way, the "Iceman" blind date spread like wildfire. Since then, "Iceman" has become another name for "matchmaker", and matchmaking is also called "making ice".

The matchmaker plays an important role in the process of marriage and has achieved a happy marriage. Therefore, in the development history of the matchmaker industry for thousands of years, there are many famous matchmaker legends, and their stories are widely circulated in later generations.

Like you and the matchmaker. It is said that you are a good matchmaker in ancient times, and you are good at matchmaking. From Qu Yuan's Li Sao: I asked Feng Long to ride the clouds and seek the position of Fu Fei; Thank you for your words, and I will make you feel reasonable.

Wang Yi's remarks in the Chapters of Songs of the Chu Dynasty said, "I am a minister of Fuxi. Manage, divide and express politeness. " It is also a good idea to make the ancient sages stumble into media managers. "So, later generations also called the matchmaker" the wall of remonstrance ".

The matchmaker was originally a character in the legendary novel Yingying Biography by Yuan Zhen, a scholar in the Tang Dynasty. She is Cui Yingying's maid. After Zhang Sheng and Yingying fell in love, Zhang Sheng confided to the matchmaker and got her sympathy. The matchmaker advised Zhang An to impress Yingying with love poems, and Yingying really made up with them.

At first, it was difficult for Yingying to completely get rid of the shackles of ethics, and she hesitated. With the help of the matchmaker, Yingying finally threw herself into Zhang Sheng's arms and married him privately.

Cui Yingying gained courage with the help of the matchmaker, and Zhang Sheng gained wisdom from the matchmaker, but the old lady had to back down and give in because of the matchmaker's wit. The matchmaker became a key figure in the marriage between Cui Yingying and Zhang Sheng. Since then, the matchmaker has become synonymous with "matchmaker" who helps people form a happy marriage.

Another marriage god in folklore is an emissary. In Song Dynasty, pottery recorded the story of an ambassador in his notebook novel Qing Louis.

There was a young man named Zhu Qi who had a crush on a woman named Chongzhi. But two people want to fall in love, but they encounter many obstacles. Zhu Qi is unhappy and lost in thought. One day, he sent his visiting friends directly to the suburbs. After breaking up with his friends, he went home alone.

On the way, Zhu Qi met a Taoist priest. He wore a green scarf, a short robe and a medicine basket. The Taoist priest looked at him again and again, approached him and said to him, "It's a pity that Lang Jun met me being original, otherwise it would be dangerous."

After hearing what he said, Zhu Qi was taken aback and immediately dismounted and bowed, asking what had happened. The Taoist priest said, "If you have something on your mind, please tell me directly and I can help you solve it."

Zhu Qi told the Taoist about him and his pet, and sighed, "The marriage of men and women in the world is in the charge of the tender department, where the chief is called the ambassador. Destiny takes a hand's men and women will only succeed if they have a mandarin duck. I'll tell him about you. "

When they parted, Taoist Green Towel took out a fan from the basket and said to Zhu Qi, "This fan is called Hannah Quinlivan Fan. When you visit Chong, just cover your face with a fan and people won't see you. We can meet again in seven days, ending at 15. "

After Zhu Qi went back, he tried the method of Taoist teaching, and it really worked. From then on, he met his pet and came and went unimpeded. 15 years later, Chong died of illness.

After the story spread, people's worship of the ambassador became more religious. It seems that the ambassador is more human than Yue Lao. Yue Lao's "marriage knot" cannot be changed, but he still allows people to intercede and seems to be more compassionate.