What do people who change their minds think?

What do people who change their minds think?

Psychological level

You may think that what psychology is not to satisfy his cheap freshness and curiosity. Indeed, most men do have these reasons at first, but some have been entangled for seven or eight years. Can you remain fresh and curious after so long? In the final analysis, it is to find emotion.

Displacement mechanism

There is a word in psychology called substitution mechanism. When a person's emotional desire cannot be realized and is not allowed by himself or morality, he will transfer this impulse to another safe object to reduce his inner anxiety.

For example, when you feel sad and want to share things that cause sadness with people around you, he tells you that I am not available now, so just calm down yourself. You'll be angry, and you won't want to tell him, will you? But your desire to share is still there. What should you do? Put it another way. It's called replacement.

What should I do?

Now you know why he cheated, but you don't know how to deal with it, do you? Tencent released a report on the adjustment of differences. Nearly 70,000 people participated in the survey and found that after learning that their partner was cheating, nearly 30% people chose to turn a blind eye. Except for a few who chose to divorce, most of them would be given another chance.

But the point is that the probability of a partner cheating again is as high as 90%. Why? The answer is simple, the original mode of getting along has not changed, which means he will still be replaced. Therefore, in order to break the occurrence of replacement, we must change the original mode of getting along with each other in order to treat both the symptoms and the root causes. If you don't know what's wrong with your model, talk to me, and I'll help you find the problem, and then we can talk about solving it.