Is this autism?

I suggest going to a national psychologist. This is my experience: the psychologists in Fuzhou Fourth Hospital are not state-level psychological counselors. I go to your hospital, and any psychological consultation is medication. There is no cure at all. I'll ask the doctor. State psychologists mainly focus on communication. Medication only regulates physiological problems, but there are many kinds of psychotherapy that are useless when taking medicine, such as hypnosis and group therapy. . . At present, psychiatrists in many hospitals are working part-time or changing jobs. Unconsciously, they always look at psychological disorders from the perspective of psychiatry, and often prescribe drugs to patients at a cost of 200 yuan per week to 300 yuan, and rarely conduct psychological counseling. No wonder there are many psychological patients in the hospital now, ranging from a dozen to thirty or forty people every day. If everyone gives 1 hour of psychological counseling, it will be endless ... I think the real psychological disorder does not need medication for three reasons: 1. Psychological disorder is caused by the temporary inability of the mind to face the pressure, which belongs to the disorder of mind regulation, and heart disease is still regulated by psychological counseling; 2, taking medicine may make the symptoms quickly controlled, but after stopping the drug, do you still have to use your mind to adjust the dependence caused by the drug? ! 3. Patients regard psychological disorders as physiological diseases, and always feel that it is unreasonable for doctors not to give medicine, which also misleads doctors from the opposite side. Therefore, it is logical that doctors prescribe drugs to patients to become Zhou Yu's yellow cover. Psychological counseling is a good way to relieve psychological pressure and improve psychological endurance. Almost everyone needs psychological counseling all his life, but in reality there are still many netizens who have some misunderstandings about psychological counseling.

Myth 1: Psychological counseling is chatting.

Psychological counseling is different from chatting in general. Although the main way of psychological counseling is to talk, psychological counseling uses the professional theoretical knowledge of psychology, as well as the knowledge of sociology and medicine, and has a strict and scientific theoretical system and operating procedures, so as to solve psychological problems, help people alleviate psychological crisis and promote personality development. This is completely different from chatting with friends, persuading and comforting relatives and friends, educating teachers and leading ideological and political work.

Myth 2: Anyone can be a counselor.

Just like no one can drive casually, psychological counselors have to undergo rigorous training and examination and obtain a license from the management department before they can take up their posts. According to the requirements of developed countries, a qualified wholly-owned psychological counselor should basically have a doctorate in psychology and medicine, undergo strict internship training, have certain practical experience, pass the certification qualification examination, and be able to start a business independently under the guidance of the supervisor. Due to well-known reasons, China has not yet met the requirements of developed countries, and there is a big gap. We can only lower the standard, use some talents who love psychological counseling and basically have the quality of psychological counseling, and gradually cultivate senior professionals in psychological counseling, so as to strive to be in line with international standards as soon as possible.

Myth 3: I have a good psychological quality and don't need psychological counseling.

Psychological counseling is not only to solve your psychological crisis and many psychological problems. No matter how powerful, intelligent, honest, enthusiastic and knowledgeable you are, you can't know yourself very well. You need to know yourself from others. You can't always reflect on yourself, and you can't always look at yourself as an outsider. Knowing yourself from others may give you the wrong hint. Psychological consultation is a relatively standard mirror, which can correctly understand oneself from all angles and is not deformed. Knowing yourself correctly can foster strengths and avoid weaknesses, and promote the development and success of life.

Myth 4: Psychological counselors can see through my thoughts and know my past and future.

Some people make the mistake of simplifying psychological counseling, while others make psychological counseling too complicated and mysterious. Some people equate psychology with mysticism, such as fortune telling, divination and psychic powers. Now some people cheat people with computers under the guise of psychological tests, and some people deliberately let psychologists guess their psychological activities to measure the level of psychologists and so on. Psychologists have nothing special except their professional knowledge in psychology. Psychologists have good observation ability after training, know the scientific laws of psychological activities and have very objective logical analysis ability, and can judge some subconscious psychological activities, but all this must come from real, objective and comprehensive data. Psychologists themselves cannot and cannot learn specific ideas with the help of high-tech instruments. The most advanced lie detector can't measure the specific details of thinking. People's understanding of the brain is far behind the most complex electronic computer, and the complexity of the psychological world is not what modern people think. We must have scientific thinking in dealing with psychological counseling.

Myth 5: It is shameful to go to psychological counseling.

Due to historical reasons and many objective factors, people still don't know much about their psychological world, and many people still can't tell the difference between "nerve" and "spirit", "spirit", "psychology" and "thought". Fear and suspicion of psychological counseling may stem from ignorance of "mental illness". Going to psychological counseling is afraid of being regarded as "mental abnormality" and psychological problems as "mental illness" and "ideological problems". Sometimes minor psychological problems may not be solved scientifically, leading to serious psychological diseases. It is really sad that psychological problems are allowed to develop while being "concealed" and "hidden". Psychological consultation is one of the best ways to promote people's growth and development, an effective way to prevent psychological obstacles, and the only way to improve the quality of life and achieve success in life. The most basic principles of psychological counseling include "absolute confidentiality". You can tell your psychological doctor frankly about your inner world, and the psychological doctor will give you careful maintenance. Psychological counseling will keep you away from ignorance and feudal superstition, accept reality and challenge yourself. People who think that "it is shameful to see a psychiatrist" are weak and afraid to accept themselves and reality, and their psychology is not very healthy. Modern people with progressive ideas have entered the psychological consultation room without any worries and are confident in a successful future.

Myth 6: Psychological counseling should not be charged or charged less.

Psychological counseling is to help people, to help people relieve mental pain, to do good deeds, and there is not much cost, so many people think it should be free. Although modern people know that time and knowledge are valuable in theory, because these things are intangible and deeply influenced by traditional ideas, many people need psychological counseling, but they are unwilling to pay. Psychological consultation abroad is very expensive, but the domestic fees are very low, so many psychologists can't make a living from it, which has also become one of the reasons that affect the development of mental health in China.

Myth 7: Psychological counseling should solve the problem at once.

Many people who seek psychological counseling for the first time fantasize that psychologists can sweep away their long-term depression and pain, clear the fog of the soul, stay away from troubles and confusion, see the blue sky of my true self again, and give me a relaxed mood and upward fighting spirit. However, psychologists are not immortals, and there is nothing beyond the efforts of ordinary people. "You must untie the bell and tie it." Psychological counseling is to help people solve their own problems. Psychologists can't rely entirely on themselves, but only provide some specific methods to understand themselves, analyze problems and solve problems, and these methods must be solved by the specific practice of the clients themselves for many times. Unless it is a very simple psychological problem, a psychological consultation can achieve the ideal effect. Many problems are "Rome wasn't built in a day" and there are personality problems. Some practical problems may involve all aspects, and psychological counseling cannot be solved at one time. Psychological counseling is to help those who ask for help know themselves, accept the reality and surpass themselves. Therefore, psychological counseling needs a process of understanding, a procedure of discussion, analysis, operation, feedback, correction and re-practice, and it is generally impossible to solve the problem at one time. And there is a time limit for psychological counseling at a time. It used to take a long time (months to years) for psychological counseling to solve problems. Now, due to the improvement of theory and technology, the course of treatment has been greatly shortened, but it is impossible to solve the problem at once.

In China, psychological counseling is still a relatively new thing, and it takes a long time for people engaged in this cause and the general public who need psychological counseling to understand and accept it. There is no denying that psychological counseling has a broad market and bright prospects. There is no doubt that a healthy psychology is very important for an individual, a nation and a country. I have done a lot of online and offline psychotherapy recently, and I am very happy to help many people.

Happy, there is still a lot of helplessness ... There are many strange phenomena about psychotherapy and the mainstream culture of China. Here are a few things:

First, seeing a psychiatrist is a mental illness?

Many people equate seeing a psychiatrist with being mentally ill, so in China, there are still many people who don't want to see a psychiatrist. There is a county-level cadre who has been in pain for nearly 10 years for no reason, and all major hospitals are fine. This cadre takes medicine every day and blames his lover, which is considered to be caused by his bad lover ... This kind of obstacle is called transformational pain disorder in psychology and comes from his inability to solve the pressure in life. A friend suggested that he see a psychiatrist. The cadre insisted on not going, thinking that he had a set of theories. Besides, seeing a psychiatrist is a mental illness. As a result, he finally divorced his lover, his family broke down, and his pain did not improve ... I wanted to help him, but he refused to let me go, so I had to give up. Pity his lover, who has worked hard to keep the house for 20 years, but accepted the pain of divorce for no reason in middle age.

Second, the more expensive the doctor, the better?

I remember a friend in the clothing business told me one thing. He has a product priced in 50 yuan, which has never been sold. Seeing that the season is about to change, my friend is in a hurry, so I just set the price in 500 yuan. As a result, he sold it at a good price in 400 yuan that day. God, China people don't buy the right ones, they only buy the expensive ones! In psychotherapy, many people have this concept. The more expensive the charge, the better the doctor's medical skills.

Third, the more professional titles, the better the psychologist? The older you get, the more experienced the psychologist becomes.

Here, I quote Li Zixun, a psychologist from China-Japan Friendship Hospital.

The following aspects are the most unreliable:

1, Title: For example, the title of professor or chief physician, or even doctor, does not mean anything, indicating that they have achieved something in knowledge, but it does not mean that he is a psychology major.

2. Leaders of psychological societies: such as presidents, directors and members of national committees. People who are busy with their business work can't settle down to do the case.

3, noble: noble does not represent his high level, self-righteous people always feel that others should be his, overestimate themselves.

4, overseas gilded people: It is good to have a background in studying abroad, but it is necessary to find out what to learn and what gold to plate. Some people go back to China and think that this country is full of hillbillies and they can do whatever they want. I met several conscious people, and I sincerely hoped that she would come to do case supervision or give a lecture, but it turned out that the bull's head was not the horse's mouth.

5. People who publish books: Don't think that people who can write books have a high level of consultation. Ten books written by Dr. China can't be read, which makes good people see the problems all over their bodies.

6. The elderly: Psychological counseling is a challenging job, which requires psychological counselors to be energetic, open-minded, flexible, ahead of the times and have a multicultural value orientation. It is hard for the elderly not to be rigid, think that they eat too much salt, and it is hard to restrain themselves from educating others. It's also hard to be affectionate ~ ~ ~