How to save her ex-husband and the strategy of saving her ex-husband after divorce.

When two people are together, there will be many quarrels and contradictions. What matters is how to solve them. Correct processing can continue. Many times, you have to choose some methods to ease the contradiction between you.

How to save her ex-husband

Reflect on yourself and take the second attraction. There must have been a reason at that time, maybe it was your accumulated contradiction, because it was not solved in time at the beginning, which led to a sudden outbreak in the future. You need to know what caused him to give up on you, only to find the root of the contradiction and solve it pertinently. At the same time, take the method of secondary attraction, constantly improve your value and make yourself more attractive, so as to successfully achieve secondary attraction and make him fall in love with you again. Marriage is never smooth sailing, it always goes through ups and downs. Once business is bad, divorce is also common. In the face of accusations and betrayal, divorce is not necessarily the worst result of marriage. Sometimes divorce is also a way for women to get out of their misery. So, don't expect your ex-husband to come back. If a man gives up on himself, you will find that his own shadow has disappeared from his eyes, he can't see through his thoughts, he is always cold to himself, he won't say superfluous words to himself, he is perfunctory when he has questions, he doesn't care so much about himself, then he just doesn't love you.

Strategies for saving ex-husband after divorce

1, learn to change for each other.

There are many aspects of change: learn to be responsible and responsible for each other, instead of doing whatever you want when you are in love, learn to be responsible and responsible for your own actions; Learn the responsibility of supporting the family, including learning to live independently and learning to make some changes for each other.

2. mutual progress.

How can divorce save the ex-husband's heart? A happy marriage is because each other knows how to manage and balance. Once someone stops making progress, the balance of your happy marriage will begin to tilt. In real life, no one doesn't want to enjoy the beauty of equality, and no one really wants to bear all the pressure of life. Only when two people share the pressure, neither of them will be exhausted, and this marriage will be happy.

How to attract ex-husbands

First, the reasons for the failure of marriage

Living habits are different before and after getting along. When you first met, maybe you haven't found out more about each other's living habits, including some of your bad habits, and you won't be known to each other. Then, before getting along, attraction comes from an excellent charm, and after getting along, a series of bad habits will emerge. So, can we accept a completely different person? For example, the other person may hate you smoking in the bedroom, and you may be tired of the other person suppressing you and hitting you in front of others. * * * Face the values of life. At this point, the main reference is ideological and spiritual communication. Without the same values or other ways of looking at problems, there will inevitably be many problems, many conflicts in communication and many differences in choices. It seems ridiculous from the place of residence to the different placement directions of the elderly on both sides, and then to the demand for daily necessities brands, but once they live together, these problems are not so ridiculous, which is likely to be the fuse of divorce. Love each other in your own way, a strong ideological framework. Every friend's personality will be influenced by many factors such as family, education, circle of friends, etc., and will form an ideology of self-worth and cognition of the world and form its own framework. The other person may only want an apple, but you gave him a basket of apples. There seems to be no problem, but the extremes meet, which will put a lot of pressure on each other. When the other person can't breathe, the other person wants to jump out of this frame.

Second, the matters needing attention in the letter to her husband

Admit contradictions at the beginning. What contradictions did you have in your previous relationship? When your relationship has reached the point of correspondence, it means that it has reached the point of irreconcilable. Admitting his problems at the beginning of the letter can relieve his pressure and let him continue reading. Do you have poor quality of life, lack of common language, lack of self-motivation, etc. In your previous relationship? Admit these problems but don't promise what will happen in the future, because all your promises now will only disgust him. Matters needing attention in editing content. Don't expose your sense of need between the lines, don't have words of redemption and pleading, and don't write at the beginning that you can't live without him or beg him to come back. This will only increase the pressure on the other party and make him disgusted with the idea of not wanting to continue reading. You've driven him away. Don't do anything that makes the other person feel stressed. Language can sometimes bring violence. You talk too much about blind rehabilitation, which exposes your sense of need. You can write some simple greetings at the beginning and say that you have a happy life recently.

Third, improve yourself.

Never slack off the pursuit of beauty, keep a heart of beauty, and don't give up dressing up because of anything. When your appearance is good and your clothes are tasteful, you will find that everything around you will be different because of your changes. Be a woman that makes women jealous and men appreciate, and let men take it out. Never indulge yourself in gaining weight, always pay attention to your weight, keep fit and keep exercising. Please don't believe others that it is better to be fat. This sentence is for thin and beautiful people. When you are really fat one day, you will really regret it. The distance between the fat man and the thin man is not only a few pounds of meat, but also more beautiful than your beautiful person when you have a hard choice. Why don't you work hard? Never stop self-improvement, no matter in the recovery period or in the later period, we should keep the best state, because the market value of marriage will drop sharply after women have sex, get married and have children. Therefore, women need to maintain and improve the value of their marriage market at all times, re-examine their own shortcomings in the process of saving love, constantly change according to their own shortcomings, tap their own bright spots and improve themselves, in order to meet perfect people.

Fourth, increase investment.

You should treat him as an ordinary friend. It can be said that the relationship between two married and divorced people cannot be completely broken. Don't forget that you have relatives and friends around you. Therefore, inevitably, you will participate in the activities of friends circle, and if you have children, there will be more intersections between you. The advantage of treating each other as ordinary friends is that they won't have too much pressure in the process of getting along with you, and your intentional behavior also gives them a gap to get to know you better. You can say to him, "After all, we once loved each other, and I can't let it go at once. Can you call my mobile phone every day, just once? " It seems that you can't let him go, so you ask him to do these things for you, but in fact he has been increasing his investment in you. Over time, he will feel unable to let you go, so he will do these things for you. Then use the relationship of ordinary friends as an excuse to ask him for help to do something within his power. For example, in the past, the other party repaired the broken electrical appliances at home, and you asked him for help when you needed it, called him to ask him how to solve it, or directly asked him to show it to you one day. As long as your relationship is not particularly stiff or the temperature of ordinary friends, then these requirements are not particularly excessive, and he will not refuse to help. This will increase your chances of meeting each other, and he will unconsciously devote himself to you. What should I do to get my ex-husband back after breaking up? What should I pay attention to when writing to my husband to save my marriage? First of all, admit the imperfections in marriage, admit the shortcomings of the other party in managing marriage, and reflect on their own problems, so as to think about the methods of recovery from a more objective perspective. Second, make changes. Only by making changes can we eliminate the negative impression on each other and look forward to all the possibilities of being with you again. Whether in the process of recovery or after the success of recovery, the control of demand is always an important factor to keep your relationship in balance. You should also pay attention to this when writing letters, so as to successfully recover your husband.

There are only two situations when the ex-husband turns back.

1, the impulse to divorce

Nowadays, men and women are always impulsive in marriage. After the other person did something that hurt him, he felt that the other person didn't love him, and he found the wrong person. Then I had the idea of divorce. If the two sides add some arguments at this time, it is very likely that they will say divorce in a rage. On impulse, over time, I always feel that the other party is better, and then I have the idea of remarriage, so I will return to my ex-wife and hope to get back together.

I found that my former wife knew herself better.

After divorce, men may feel that single life is still very good at first, but as time goes by, men will feel lonely, then they will start to recall the details of their life with their ex-wife, and then they will miss it. Maybe I have tried to find a new partner, but after searching, I feel that my ex-wife may know me better. New partners need time to get to know each other. You've been together for a long time. According to fitness and habits, it is natural that the ex-wife has a high degree of matching with herself. Therefore, after the divorce, a man looked around and found that his original wife was the most suitable and understood himself best, so he had the idea of turning back. Presumably, everyone has heard of "reunion for the second time, getting back together", which is mostly used to describe that after the emotional collapse, after artificial repair, they get back together. I have a negative attitude towards this. Broken feelings can never be restored. Emotion is like a glass. Before it was broken, it looked bright and crystal clear. If you accidentally break it, cracks will appear. Even if a good master is hired to repair it, it is no longer the original glass. Everyone has the psychology of liking the new and hating the old. More or less, they will instinctively resist and reject broken things. May be due to face, or secular vision, reluctantly accepted, but in the heart of disgust and disgust not only did not fade, will only increase. Maybe some people can't understand why feelings are like a mirror. Give another simple example. When we were in school, we must have had the experience of accidentally tearing homework. Finally, after taping it, although it looks intact, I have lost the mood of wanting to scribble on it, and so have my feelings. Feelings are separated, and it's good to get together and then separate. Don't think about the second time, get back together. This is a false proposition in itself, which is really impossible.