Fu Peirong, Professor of Philosophy: How to Develop Self-potential?

Mr. Fu Peirong said: "The core of life operation is" heart ". If you want to develop your potential, you must start with "mind", which can be summarized as "knowledge, emotion and meaning".

Knowledge: Cognition and Self-discipline

Emotion: To control and regulate (emotion)

Meaning: independence and progress

According to the three points put forward by Teacher Fu, add your own ideas and share them:

Personal improvement brought by cognition and self-discipline

Many respected cattle people have mastered the right direction in cognition.

But the secret of their success lies not only in realizing this, but also in perseverance.

This is the essential difference between ordinary people and cattle people.

We don't mention that those experts and scholars have reached today's professional level because of years of continuous accumulation.

We only look at ordinary people around us, and we have never been as extraordinary as us. How did they upgrade in a short time?

For example, some knowledge-based "artists" or media experts: Luo Yonghao, Peng Xiaoliu, a fierce cat, Uncle Akiba and so on.

Their success is not only based on the control of opportunities and directions, but also on the ultimate self-discipline.

Ordinary people may be able to master the direction and methods, but some people can do one thing in a row and do it efficiently with their brains, so the gap becomes wider.

It's like, it turns out that he is your classmate, but a few years later you have to hold your head high and call him a teacher.

The gap between you is only in cognition and persistence.

Understand the world and know yourself.

I've met some people who know exactly what they want. Before fame and money, they think there are more important things.

That is to understand the truth and eternity in the world and clarify the meaning and mission of this life.

In my opinion, this should be what everyone needs to pursue.

When a person can understand himself and the world, he will inevitably choose a more suitable and meaningful way to go.

Only in this way can a person's potential be released.

It's like a person who has drawn a rigorous and clear map of his heart when both inside and outside are known, and his future life only needs to follow the direction of the map firmly. Maybe the map is not perfect, but as long as you keep learning, the map will keep updating.

(2) Love

Control and regulation

How to control and adjust when the mood is bad?

Many friends will choose sports. They say they will feel much better after exercise.

Some friends will choose shopping to comfort themselves, which can successfully divert their attention.

Friends who are more demanding of themselves go back to study and think, find the source of bad emotions, and let themselves face their dissatisfaction more objectively and rationally.

There are also some friends I admire. They often do good deeds and help many people in trouble, so their own little pain becomes insignificant in the whole society and their hearts will be much broader.

In addition, some friends are faithful believers, and they can always adjust themselves quickly when encountering problems. The spiritual strength gained from religion is incomparable in other aspects.

From this point of view, people's mental state and realm are different, and the ways to adjust their emotions are also different.

Then why are some thoughtful people often too pessimistic and depressed because of their dissatisfaction with reality?

For example, some middle-aged writers or artists who committed suicide.

Perhaps psychologist Maslow will say, "They are only in the stage of self-awareness and self-realization, but they have not surpassed themselves".

People who can surpass themselves don't have to bother to adjust and control their emotions. They have long been integrated with the universe and have been able to tolerate and understand everything peacefully and indifferently.

But for us ordinary people, if we want to control our emotions well, we must first understand our own needs and the sources of bad emotions, then analyze ourselves objectively and calmly, and then choose a more lasting solution.

For example, sometimes when you are in contact with your peers who have a successful career, you will inevitably feel a little lost and feel that you are not bad. Why did he get a better chance than me?

This comparison mentality often makes people feel depressed.

But after self-analysis, I will find:

(1) The success of others does not mean my failure. Everyone's growth route and rhythm are different, so we can't make such a simple and rude comparison.

(2) A person's success is judged by a secular concept, but this concept is not necessarily correct. For example, someone may be rich and powerful, but he lacks the warmth and cultivation of his family, so he may not succeed.

(3) Truly successful people know how to cultivate a good attitude first, constantly face challenges, and strive for progress as the normal state. While balancing the internal and external world, we will cherish what we encounter and know how to give up wisdom.

When I observe from multiple angles and experience from a higher perspective, I can truly and objectively understand what I have and what I need to improve.

So there is no extra energy to fall into a bad mood.

(3) Significance

Autonomy and progress

Meaning, it should mean will. This will should not belong to others, but to yourself.

But most people, including myself, also live under the wishes of others.

Entrepreneurship looks very good. Many people give up everything to start a business without knowing the situation. In the end, not many people really gained something.

It's not bad to be self-media, but the focus time in the Internet era is too short. Long-term popularity is a big challenge. Most people were only popular for a while, but many people jumped in with the dream of making a fortune.

When we look at what others are doing, we usually feel itchy, envious and imitative, and few people start their own real careers.

The so-called true career, big or small, doesn't care about secular judgment.

Maybe an excellent janitor, a diligent cleaner, an infectious and efficient delivery man, or a serious housewife.

No matter what you do, people who are willing to do the utmost should be the most respected.

Historian Qian Mu once said to a group of soldiers:

"When a soldier stands guard, if he is absorbed and loyal to his duties, even if he can't do better than him in the future, then he is a" soldier saint "and a" soldier of saints ". "

What he means is that a person's real role is a soldier, but his goal can still be a saint.

Therefore, what matters is not what you are doing, but what attitude you use to do it, and what is your real will?

Be a soldier who muddles along, or be a soldier like a saint?

Finally, summarize the above contents in the most concise sentence:

We must first learn to use our emotions. When pursuing meaning, please don't forget to remind ourselves to keep learning.