What are the customs in Ningjin County?

Marriage custom in ancient Ningjin Dynasty

Men are old, and women are old. Getting married between a man and a woman is an important event in life. In the past, under the influence of "men and women don't kiss", young men and women could not fall in love freely, and marriage could only be carried out at the instigation of their parents and the media's opinion. Marriage customs are complicated, mixed with many feudal superstitions. General marriage procedures and customs are as follows:

First, propose marriage.

That is, the man entrusts the matchmaker to propose marriage to the woman's house. If the woman agrees to propose marriage, the man will go to the woman's house to propose marriage, commonly known as "matchmaking." In the old days, it was emphasized that "the door should be right for the door" and "choose by fate", and there were folk songs of "the door should be right for the door, the door should be right for the door, and the fence should be opened". Generally speaking, when a man entrusts a matchmaker to propose marriage, he first comprehensively considers whether his identity, land, property and children match the woman's family situation, that is to say, the conditions of both parties are similar. However, there are also matchmakers who value honor and are cheated. If the woman's parents are interested, they will ask someone to inquire about the man's situation. If they think the portal is similar, both men and women will make their own stickers. Geng Tie is made of red paper with name, age, three generations and native place written on it, commonly known as "Four Geng Tie", and then the two sides will exchange.

Second, ask the name.

Commonly known as begging eight characters. According to the year, month, day and hour of each person's birthday, the "eight characters" are matched with the words "heavenly stem" and "earthly branch", and the four items * * * have eight characters, so they are called "eight characters". Superstitious people think that a person's fate can be calculated according to the date of birth, and everyone belongs to one of the five elements, such as golden destiny, wooden destiny, water destiny, fire of life destiny and earth destiny. And the five elements can't get married.

The matchmaker first posted the man to the woman's house, wrote the woman's birthday together with the bride price on the back of the man's post, and the matchmaker brought it to the man, who begged Mr. He to "combine Xiao" and divined good and bad luck. If there is no "good luck" in the eight characters of men and women, both parents agree to get engaged. Of course, there are other sayings, such as "a female freshman can't make an appointment", "a wife is a sophomore" and "a wife is a junior with a golden brick".

Third, change jobs.

After a man and a woman decide to get married, they should send it by post, and the date of delivery should be chosen on an auspicious day. The matchmaker proposed to the woman first. The man puts the bride price money and the groom's note in a small box, wraps the box with red cloth or HongLing, and the matchmaker sends it to the woman's home together with the bride price (including coins, clothes and food). After the bride's family received the bride price, bride price and the man's boxer sticker, the woman put the boxer sticker in the original box and sent it back to the man's house together with clothes, dowry and happy fruit. This process is called changing the sticker.

Fourth, the gift.

This is the etiquette for the man to send a bride price to the woman's house after the marriage contract is concluded. The engagement that has been given a bride price is officially effective. In the old society, the average man gave his wife 100-200 yuan in foreign currency, clothes, bracelets, rings and other gifts. Before you get married, you should also "carry food baskets" (a shelf made of three rectangular boards), and at least three food baskets should be filled with rice, dried noodles, steamed bread, pork and so on. The pile on them should be sent by several people and carried to the woman's house.

Verb (abbreviation for verb) wedding preparation

Before you get married, you should choose a wedding date and choose a double date, such as the fourth day of April and August 28th. , or 369 auspicious days. After the election, the man's family prepares gifts and materials, and the wedding date is indicated on the red Cambodia sticker, and the matchmaker is asked to give it to the woman's family to inform relatives and friends of the wedding date. And began to clean up the courtyard and paint and decorate the new house. There are pictures of happiness hanging in the new house, gifts from Kirin, and questions for the entrance examination of Wuzi. Window grilles often include magpies, mandarin ducks, swallows and lotus seeds. Invitations and red "Hi" were plastered all over the house. Xilian often uses the words "get together for a hundred years", "grow old together", "blossom side by side", "unite as one" and "IKEA in Yi Shi". After receiving the man's red Cambodia stickers, the woman's family began to buy a dowry, greet her family and invite men and women to return. The elders in the family invited the married girl to eat "save the mother's face".

Sixth, get married

On the wedding day, both sides have the taboo of "aunt doesn't take it, aunt doesn't send it", and they are not allowed to entrust widows, second wives or people belonging to the bride and groom. It was a wedding day, a man's family. In front of the house, behind the house, inside and outside the courtyard, water was splashed and spotless. There is a red light hanging in front of the door. In the yard and under the eaves of the house, there are all kinds of happiness, clothes and quilts sent by relatives and friends everywhere, showing a warm and happy scene everywhere. When you get married, set off firecrackers, play umbrellas, light red lights, and bang drums. Conditional also please honor guard, suona accompaniment. In front of the woman's house, the woman deliberately "closed the door" for the man in advance, and opened the door to welcome him after he had stuffed the "door-crossing ceremony" into the door. Then lead them to the room for tea and "dismount their faces."

Seven, after the wedding etiquette

The next day, the bride and her relatives received a courtesy call. After paying homage to the ancestors and going to the grave, the woman's family led relatives to the man's house to recognize their relatives and take back the new couple, which is called "makeup return", commonly known as "face return", and invited the groom to have a good meal. My good brother good sister-in-law often makes fun of the groom by wrapping peppers in jiaozi. Return to the man's house that day.

On the third day, the newlyweds take gifts and go to their parents' home by sedan chair (or car), commonly known as "three dynasties returning to the door". The man sent someone to send a bun to the woman's house, calling it "carrying a basket" to take the groom home. In a couple of days, the bride's parents will send her daughter to the man's house again, which is called "having three lives twice". Take the woman back after six days and send her to the man's house after the full moon. This is called "crossing the moon". At this point, the wedding ceremony came to an end.

During the Spring Festival in their first year of marriage, the bride and groom should pay New Year greetings to their parents. The time is usually on the second or third day of the first month. There is a folk song: "the first day, from the second day to the third day;" The young couple, well-dressed, with new year's goods and cakes, are rushing to pay a New Year call to the donkey. " You can't go home empty-handed. Be sure to bring some annual loans and local products, as the folk song goes: "drink, smoke and bring a big basket of rice cakes." This also means that the married daughter does not forget the kindness of her parents.