From what aspects can we see a person's personality? ~

When we contact a person, we often give him some comments: "This person is of high quality and personable"; "This person is educated"; Or "this person is too bad to say a word"; "this person is vulgar and sloppy" ... what is the standard of a high-quality and educated person? From a psychological point of view, a high degree of public acceptance requires the following criteria:

* Kindness and kindness: be kind and kind to people, be polite, not cold, not rude, not dissolute, and never show evil deeds. Love, care and help others from the heart. Be kind and gentle, not only to your family, but also to others. Gentleness is not an important virtue unique to women. It is neither cowardly nor opinionated, and it is at the mercy of others; But not impatient, rude or stubborn to others. It is peaceful to people and peaceful to do things.

* Modesty and easygoing: The ancients said: "Full loss, modest benefit". Modesty is always a welcome good attitude, and any pride in the social field will be an obstacle to your success. Remember not to boast about helping others, especially when the other party or their close relatives and friends are present; I don't relish it because I have more knowledge or skills than others: I don't think I am better than others, so I will let others "stay at a respectful distance from me".

* Understanding and tolerance: Understanding is the basis of emotional communication, and it is also a bridge for communication success and friendship. Understanding includes a wide range of contents, including: understanding the needs and behavior habits of others; Understand other people's emotions; Understand the positions, viewpoints and attitudes of others; Even understand the words and deeds of people you don't like. Understanding is often valuable help and support between friends. Some people don't agree with themselves in life and work, or hurt your face and infringe your interests. As long as it doesn't hinder Taihō, we should give appropriate tolerance and understanding. Of course, tolerance is not connivance, not appeasement that gives up principled position, nor is it a fairy good man. Never take an evasive or evasive attitude towards evil behavior and ill-intentioned behavior, or you will lose your due morality and personality. Tolerance: Don't be harsh on others, always forgive others' unintentional mistakes. In particular, don't be picky and think more about others.

* Enthusiasm and sincerity: treat others warmly, kindly, naturally and sincerely. Don't be too enthusiastic about the fake country, but grasp the measure of enthusiasm, otherwise people will fall into an embarrassing situation and don't know what to do. Sincerity is not true, no matter what you say or do, it needs to come from the heart; Helping others requires sincerity and no purpose.

* Honesty and trustworthiness: keep your word; If you don't believe it, you won't stand; If you don't believe it, you are not virtuous; If you don't believe it, it will corrupt. One can gain a foothold in society by virtue of credit. With the acceleration of the pace of modern life and the diversification of life memories, it is necessary to strengthen the concept of time. All kinds of activities should be on time, and being late for whatever reason will be lost. You can't give advance notice as promised. It is a snub to keep your friend waiting, but it is not good to arrive too early. If you fail to keep your appointment for no reason, your image will be eclipsed in people's minds. Answer other people's requests according to your own ability and actual situation, and never write a bad check. We should respect and help our friends in our work, life and study, and give more help. When friends get along, we should stick to principles. When they find their friends' mistakes, they should understand the great righteousness, distinguish right from wrong, and don't engage in gang and buddy loyalty.