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Red-and-white funeral means that it is a happy event for men and women to get married. The funeral of the elderly who died of illness is called funeral, which is collectively called red-and-white funeral. Sometimes it is also said that weddings refer to weddings. China is an ancient civilization, and people have a complete process for weddings, funerals and other weddings.

In the old society, the marriage of young men and women must obey their parents' orders, believe in the words of the matchmaker and have no right to make decisions. When a woman is fifteen or sixteen years old, sometimes later, her parents will take her place. First, she will find a suitable family, and then find a matchmaker to invite relatives and sing "Matchmaking". Suppose the target man asks for relatives and says "ask for relatives backwards" After the matchmaker unilaterally introduces the situation of men and women to the other party, one party openly inquires about the appearance, temperament and momentum of the other party, and also inquires about the man's industry and brother, which is called "visiting relatives". If both parties are quick, they can get engaged. Before getting engaged, some fine and beautiful families should ask fortune tellers to combine their unilateral birth year, month, day, time and family to see if they can make a mistake. Because of this feudal folk custom, many mandarin ducks can't get married, resulting in many marriage tragedies.

After a man and a woman think they are happy, they can agree on a date to send each other wedding reservations. The man should choose an auspicious day, prepare gifts such as gold, silver and gold ornaments, clothes, cosmetics, pork snacks, etc., and attach greeting cards to send them to the stingy people according to the instructions of the coal carrier. When the woman receives the gift, she will give back shoes, hats and maybe Four Treasures of the Study.

That is, after changing the eight characters as written evidence of engagement. The man copied the date of birth, zodiac sign, sex and age of both men and women and sent them to the woman's house with pork and snacks. The woman received the words "Yu Yangyin" as a gift to threaten to dissolve the marriage, similar to the wedding photos taken at this time.

In the old days, diviners and teachers needed to check the dates of happiness according to the fate of the parties, such as "Matchmaker's Moon" and "auspicious day of the ecliptic". After the wedding ceremony is confirmed, the man will unilaterally negotiate to find an auspicious day, and the man will officially announce the wedding date to the woman, commonly known as "welcoming the wedding". Next, he will copy the bride's dress, open her face, dress up and pay the bride's bride price in full according to the quantity. If there is arrears, it is convenient for the woman not to accept "wedding invitations". After the woman accepted the "wedding invitation", she set a happy period. This bad habit has been given up at present.

Congratulations and the banquet are coming. In the first two or three days of the wedding, there is a habit of congratulations and banquets. That is, the man's neighbors, family members, relatives and friends give more gifts. In addition to expensive gifts, they also send Zhang Xi and horizontal plaques with greetings such as "A perfect match made in heaven" and "Fulu Yuanyang". Women's relatives, friends and neighbors send more clothes, cosmetics and daily necessities, which is called "adding boxes". Friends and relatives who give gifts are all seated at the banquet of "holding a wedding banquet". At the banquet, the groom should toast regardless of rank. Some are still in the village, that is, the groom is led by passers-by one by one to congratulate the younger generation of the same family (kowtowing, four worships).

At the wedding ceremony (wedding day), the custom in other places is "red" instead of "white", and red stands for funeral. Two or three days before the wedding, the man's family was very busy, blocking the new house, inviting etiquette masters, honor guards, sedan chairs and female guests, and everything. Accompany (dowry) for the first three days (choose two days). "Accompanying" is the "seven big pieces" arranged by the woman's parents for her daughter: cabinets, boxes, cupboard tables, chairs, basin stands and dressing tables. Small items include single clothes, cotton-padded clothes, cloth, bedding (four exhibitions and four covers or eight exhibitions and eight covers), and exquisite decorative algae: a bamboo chopstick (having a baby soon), two large cups of moxa (love) and hair. In other places, there are two kinds of customs: some are escort sent by the woman to the man's house, some are called escort, and some are called escort when the man asks someone to help him drive to the woman's house. The next day, the other party will send the bride's sedan chair clothes and other soft clothes to the middle school for the wedding reception. The third day (wedding day) is the richest. Early in the morning, red couplets were posted outside the street gate and house gate of that family, which read: "Guan Yu is elegant and arrogant." Red silk is hung on the door, and the word "double happiness" is posted on the screen wall and pier. When getting married, gongs and drums are playing, trumpets are playing festive songs, and the groom's clothes are completely new. When they arrived at the door, the sedan chair bearer ran quickly and deliberately made the sedan chair jump, which was called "stepping on the street" and "shaking the sedan chair".