Understand the essence of love and marriage in fifty sentences.

1. What kind of couple is the happiest? In short, couples who know their happiness are the happiest-they don't know their happiness until they are in it. The greatest misfortune is that a person who doesn't know happiness in happiness can't see the greatest happiness in others' eyes, because he will never be happy, at least not the happiest; The greatest happiness is to know that you are blessed, because you can enjoy happiness only when you know it, and you are blessed when you know it. Therefore, don't let go of every simple detail in life, don't ignore every ordinary touch in marriage, and be a blessed person.

2. Marriage is like a magic box, which changes men and women in marriage, and this change is not the marriage itself, but the husband and wife in marriage are changing themselves, that is to say, both men and women are changing themselves intentionally or unintentionally through the bond of marriage.

3. Marriage must be down-to-earth and plain, plain can last for a long time, and light can last for a long time, but plain doesn't mean tasteless, and light doesn't mean completely calm. Otherwise, it is the other extreme of marriage, another dead corner of marriage, and blandness is the biggest fatal wound of marriage.

The biggest and most important change between husband and wife after marriage is that they no longer appreciate each other after marriage. Specifically, ignore each other's advantages, not praise, not praise, more sarcasm, more irony; Ignore what the other person has done for himself, take everything for granted, and have no heartfelt gratitude.

There is no unhappy marriage, only unhappy couples. Couples walk into the marriage hall with good hopes for marriage, but finally they are disappointed, so they complain about marriage and say that marriage is the grave of love. In fact, they are really to blame.

6. Love can't be forced, and marriage doesn't need to be forced. Both men and women should be cautious about love and marriage, and emotional marriage cannot be arbitrary.

Facing the unhappy marriage, the first thing we should do is to give up the war. Of course, we don't expect to return to sweetness immediately, but we should calm down and think it over with each other. Without thinking, there is no action, and it is impossible to find the key to solving specific problems, because what you want, the details of your marriage are always the clearest, and the key to solving problems is ultimately in your own hands.

8. Communication is the first key to solve marriage problems, and it is also one of the most important keys. Communication can solve most marriage problems.

9. Loyalty is the bottom line of marriage. Once it is broken, it may upset the boat of marriage, hurt the lover, hurt the children and hurt the relatives. Although many people understand this truth, there are too many temptations in this world. It is important to be clear-headed, learn to reflect on yourself and let yourself mature.

10. Of course, the premise and foundation of happiness is love and loyalty, and whether you can really get happiness in the end depends on good emotional habits between husband and wife. Therefore, good habits make a happy marriage.

1 1. Husband and wife love each other and are loyal to each other. This is the most basic requirement. Of course, we must do it first, but the quality of marriage is more reflected in the details of life. It is not difficult to work out the details. The key is not to turn a blind eye, let alone turn a blind eye.

12. Love is an art. Love is the common growth of two people and needs communication. Only communication can lead to understanding, and only understanding can lead to deeper love. There is bound to be disputes in communication, but this is not a bad thing. Exposing contradictions is ultimately more conducive to marital harmony than covering them up. Silence is not to solve problems, but to hide and avoid problems.

13. When we complain that marriage is boring or unfortunate, in fact, we are all making the same fatal mistake, that is, pointing the root of marital misfortune at marriage itself rather than ourselves. This is really a big misunderstanding and also our sorrow. Who made the unhappy marriage? It's ourselves, luck and misfortune, all on ourselves.

14. Modern couples have three psychological misunderstandings: they only pay attention to the small world of husband and wife and ignore each other's big family; Always hope that the other party will act according to their own thinking and habits; Take each other for granted as their own completely private property.

15. Couples living in two places have to endure more temptations and more emotional candidates than before, which is a great challenge to their feelings. Since husband and wife are separated from each other because of the insurmountable reality, they should first accept this fact, and secondly, they should manage their marriage more diligently than other couples.

16. If men don't change their ideas, women must first save "face". Men don't run outside, and women don't be Xianglinsao. Marriage is by no means a watershed for women to become "yellow-faced women" and "nagging women".

17. A man needs a soul mate who can be integrated with him. When a man is confused by eroticism, it is the wife who pushes her husband to the forefront of temptation, and other women just take advantage of it. The best magic weapon to keep her husband away from erotic temptation is that a woman can be herself, seize her husband's heart, and seize her husband's person. All temptations are vulnerable. Of course, whether a man can resist the temptation of eroticism depends on himself. A man wants to live up to expectations, but he still doesn't know when his wife will be at home. Such people are hopeless.

18. Six "extreme" men can't get married: extremely selfish men; A man who plays with women extremely; An extremely masculine man; An extremely stingy person; An extremely loose and lazy person; A man with an extreme Oedipus complex.

19. There is no absolutely correct way to keep marriage fresh, and there is no panacea that is effective for all marriages. Whether a marriage is life or death, the most important thing is not to seek these fresh-keeping tricks, but to always have this string in my heart. With this string in your heart, you will come up with a fresh-keeping coup suitable for your marriage, so that couples will always be as loving as new.

20. What is the greatest tragedy of love? Some people may say that the biggest tragedy of love is to break up at the end of love, and break up because you don't love anymore. This is of course sad, but it is the helplessness of love rather than tragedy. On the other hand, it is the luck of love. Being together without love is a tragedy. In fact, the biggest tragedy of love is not knowing whether you love each other or not, and mistaking not loving for love.

2 1. Husband and wife should not abuse each other's power of tolerance and freedom. Husband and wife certainly have their own life circles and freedom of communication, but you should know that while enjoying this free and relaxed atmosphere, don't forget to consider each other's feelings. The other party trusts itself and deserves the trust of the other party; The other party should tolerate themselves and be worthy of each other's tolerance; The other party gives himself a free space, which is more worthy of this freedom.

22. Don't be angry for a long time after a quarrel between husband and wife, keep silent and indifferent. There are two sentences that can sum up the lethality of silence and indifference: silence is invisible harm; Nothing hurts more than indifference.

23. Suspicion is a cancer in marriage. Smart couples know how to work together to solve it skillfully. The suspected party should do a good job, and the suspected party should trust and let go, understand each other, trust each other and be loyal to each other, reduce misunderstandings, strengthen communication, and avoid ruining beautiful feelings and happy marriages because of doubts.

24. The relationship between husband and wife should be lasting. In addition to the premise of mutual loyalty and sincerity, we should also bear in mind two words: love can be short and beautiful as lightning, but marriage must be plain as running water. Simplicity is the most mature beauty, and simplicity is the richest elegance. Condensed into two words: simple.

25. Whether it is happiness or misfortune, there must be reasons. Happiness is not born, and disaster is not born. When you envy other people's happy marriage and lament your unhappy marriage, have you ever thought about the reasons? Except for some external factors and forces that you can't change, the bitter wine of marriage is mostly brewed by husband and wife, and we often only complain without reflecting on ourselves.

26. Two ultimate reasons for the breakdown of marriage: embracing each other but not loving each other. Love each other but don't know how to get along. In marriage, getting along with husband and wife is more important than falling in love.

27. What kind of woman a man chooses as his life partner is equal to what kind of life he chooses. A good wife is a good day. There must be a good woman behind a successful man and a good woman around a happy man. Good women are schools, mothers are schools for boys, and women are schools for men. The good or bad of a man lies in the training of a woman. Training is not a discipline, but a subtle influence. The boy starts with his mother, and the boy has no ambition, and the mother has the responsibility; Men are not angry when they attack women, but women are responsible.

28. Extramarital affairs mean infidelity and betrayal of marriage, but the occurrence of extramarital affairs is not groundless. There are some internal and external environments for its occurrence. Emotion is indeed an extremely complicated matter, and it cannot be simply judged by good or bad. Perhaps rational thinking will help to deal with this thorny problem better. Give yourself and each other opportunities, and also give opportunities for marriage and family, without losing the basic dignity of being a human being. Think rationally and face it, and deal with it with confidence and dignity.

29. What do women need? In the final analysis, women need not only basic material security to make their lives worry-free, but also the sincerity, true love and care of men. If you love her, you will take action and implement every detail of your life.

30. Emotion is the interaction between two people. What is the power of hot and cold? Now, who can't live without it? Beware of cold, love is gone, marriage is just a form. What do you want it to do? What used to be beautiful is only once, and it can't be redeemed. Let it be a good memory in your heart. Why destroy it with new pain?

3 1. The root causes of unhappiness in marriage are nothing more than the following two: one is that marriage has no basis for love, and the other is that it does not know how to operate after marriage. In fact, everyone understands this truth. The key is whether you have carefully combed, thought and really implemented it.

32. Love and marriage are not a one-man show. If men and women are only excellent at the individual level, it is impossible to achieve the inevitability of a happy marriage. Whether it is a talented couple or a couple who appreciate each other, their essence is the same, that is, to understand each other's customs and understand life. The so-called husband and wife can't cooperate.

33. When the husband has another love and his heart is irretrievable, he really doesn't want you, and his wife doesn't need to be devastated, let alone be down and out for life. He should continue to live a quiet life, live up to expectations, don't put personal grievances on the table, don't be a sister-in-law, and dare to face the bleak marriage and cruel separation. Even in pain, calm down and learn to face the development of the situation calmly. But always remember not to beg, love does not come from begging, marriage does not come from begging, happiness does not come from begging, you will always be your real master, and only you can save yourself.

34. The so-called "seven-year itch" is just a dull accessory of married life. What we should do should not be fear or exaggeration. The seven-year itch is not an insurmountable obstacle. Just remind people to manage their marriage with care, because marriage is a science and needs constant learning.

35. When the relationship encounters misfortune and the marriage is in crisis, women should carefully choose the object to talk to. Remember one sentence: If you don't want a lover, try not to talk to the opposite sex. Of course, this is only a psychological warning to women, and it is only a probability analysis. It's up to you to do it or not.

36. In the face of morbid marriage, we can't divorce on impulse, or just on impulse, nor can we just submit to humiliation and let ourselves live in pain. The best way is to try to cure and repair first.

37. We entered the marriage hall in the sweetness of love. However, marriage has broken many of our original beautiful dreams in real life. We're bored. We're bored. So one day, the ugly word "divorce" popped up in our minds. Divorce, is it really that terrible? Actually, it's no big deal to think about it. If there is a combination, there is a point. Where there is marriage, there is divorce. It's just that you should at least think about the relevant issues before divorce, and then it's not too late to have surgery on your marriage, so at least you won't regret it. After all, divorce is also a turning point in life. Marriage can't be confused, of course, divorce should be clarified.

38. Whether the husband and wife have a healthy psychological state, whether their personalities match well and whether they know how to run a marriage are the three key factors that determine whether a marriage is happy or not.

39. Desalination of love, sexual silence, fatigue and pressure of life and work, and internal and external troubles will inevitably lead to the consequences of extramarital affairs and divorce. Every couple should clearly realize this, strengthen their subjective initiative, be lazy in life but not diligent in work, find out the reasons of "illness" and take actions to break the vicious circle of bad marriage relations, actively adjust their lifestyle, and find new topics to try.

40. Giving and taking in marriage are mutual. Both wives and husbands should try their best to avoid becoming so-called "slave" wives or husbands. Only by loving, caring and caring for each other can we go hand in hand in old age. Please remember that "serving" marriage is doomed to be short-lived.

4 1. Respect and freedom are the most basic principles in dealing with marriage. No matter how deep the love between husband and wife is, don't ignore these two principles, otherwise the deep love will be exhausted. There is no love without respect, and there is no love without freedom. In order to make the marriage last, we must keep these two basic bottom lines.

42. The most neglected point between husband and wife is friendship, or basic respect for each other. Together with love and affection, it is the three basic fulcrums to maintain a good relationship between husband and wife. Loving couples have three emotions, namely love, affection and friendship. In this way, the husband and wife are harmonious and the marriage is happy.

43. Women change men and men change women. In the final analysis, it is just a run-in between men and women, and there is no real problem of who transforms who. If everyone wants to reform each other, it will be a fruitless war. Think about it, love itself is transformation, because transformation without love is futile, and with love, transformation becomes redundant.

44. Love doesn't have to be intimate, and marriage doesn't have to be spring night every night. Love should be kept warm and marriage should be kept fresh. Marriage without love is a mistake, and love without marriage is a pity.

45. Don't blindly follow the door of marriage. Marriage is responsible, and going in and out casually will inevitably put you in a dilemma.

46. No husband and wife have never quarreled all their lives. Remember, there is no grudge between husband and wife at the end of the bed and at the end of the bed. Only in this way can we hold your hand and grow old with your son, meet each other late and love each other for life.

47. Everything is predestined, and no one can completely refine it, but never give up the pursuit of true love, for fear that you will spend your whole life until the end of your life.

48. If you are lucky enough to find the person who loves you the most, it is a blessing from heaven. Don't let it down, cherish your life. Only love that can withstand all kinds of temptations and has been honed over the years is true love, and it will be as mellow and pleasant as old wine.

49. Through love, passion, marriage, insipid, seven-year itch, ten-year hurdle, the road to marriage is a dead end, or it is getting wider and wider, depending on how we care and operate.

50. Marriage is a lifelong career of husband and wife, which needs careful management. Only when husband and wife overcome difficulties again and again can marriage become richer and more meaningful, become more and more precious when they grow old together, and marriage also exudes her real charm.