Why do good men belong to other people's families? !

Why do good men belong to other people's families? !

Now the divorce rate is high and the marriage rate is low. Although the proportion of marriageable men and women is unbalanced, there are still a large number of "leftover women" who would rather be proud of "leftover" than "make do".

There is a saying that is very suitable for these "leftover women", that is, suicide singles: although they are also looking forward to the arrival of love, they are very passive, do not take the initiative to expand their social circle, and fantasize about love falling from the sky every day.

Psychologically explained as the concept of "implicit love view", people's "inner love view" mainly has the following four kinds:

Helpless: I feel that I will never find the right person. Even if I do, there will be many problems and there is no hope of reaching the end.

Fate type: TA has not met the perfect object in my heart, so TA may not be the right person, and I will look for it again.

Growth: I don't believe in destiny takes a hand, but I believe that working together can solve the problem.

Optimism: I think TA is the only thrill for me, and we can manage love together.

The leftover women who commit suicide are often fatalistic lovers, and they have high requirements and many standards for their future partners.

Don't consider getting married until the perfect object appears in their hearts. Even if we try to associate with people, we will consider them everywhere in our daily life, and the criteria for consideration are varied.

A friend, when describing the setbacks often encountered on the road of love, stressed that his lover should not snore, grind his teeth, talk in his sleep, fall asleep earlier than her, and must hug her every night. ...

Once you can't finish eating, say goodbye to each other the next day.

This kind of person thinks that destiny takes a hand's love doesn't need his own efforts, and the other person will certainly accept and tolerate her shortcomings, and should also meet all her needs and understand her real thoughts.

This view of love can easily make us hit a wall on the road of love, so that we miss the original beautiful marriage.

The correct attitude towards love is to assume that anyone deserves your love.

This may sound casual, but in fact, this love mentality is a feature of growth and optimism about love.

This kind of person won't sit at home and wait for "a pie in the sky", but actively improve themselves, improve themselves, bring their best side to everyone, and let love find you actively, instead of passively waiting for love.

This kind of person will not resent being pursued by others, but will also provide opportunities appropriately. If they find that the other person is not suitable for them, or even shows their "scum" side, then they will leave without paying too much at the beginning.

When they meet a real crush, they can tolerate each other as much as possible and understand that true love is not the kind of "forever happy" love in fairy tales.

Especially after marriage, you will inevitably face all kinds of problems. It is the correct concept of love to take the initiative to solve and share, rather than simply expecting a partner who can solve all your problems.

This can understand why good men belong to other people's families, and excellent men only take the initiative to pursue when they see the brilliance in women.

Talented and beautiful people, if you give up on yourself and put yourself in the corner waiting for men to dig, naturally you can only harvest men who are also "picking the rest".