Couples trapped by the epidemic must not quarrel.

Couples trapped by the epidemic must not quarrel at this time.

Trapped by the epidemic for dozens of days, couples who get along day and night have various problems in their relationships, even to the point where they agree to divorce after the epidemic ends.

In particular, uncontrolled quarrels are purely for venting emotions, regardless of time and place. In the face of the epidemic, the first taboo for couples to quarrel is: don't quarrel at night.

I. Physiological effects

The human brain is in two different states during the day and at night. Generally, the brain is more rational during the day and more emotional at night. This is particularly evident in women.

At night, women become more sentimental. Many women like to quarrel with men at night, often because of a trivial matter.

However, with the improvement of mood, small things become bigger and the quarrel between husband and wife becomes more and more fierce, which is one of the reasons why we are particularly easy to hear neighbors make a scene in the middle of the night.

As the saying goes: fight at the head of the bed, fight at the end of the bed. After a night, the husband and wife calmed down during the day, and rational thinking began to work. They found that last night's quarrel was a trivial matter, so they began to seek reconciliation.

However, the damage has been done and it is easy to become the fuse of the next late-night quarrel.

Physiology also shows that when night falls, people's brains begin to be active, so we are always easy to think in the middle of the night.

Especially at night 10, it is also the best memory period before going to bed. Once there is a quarrel between husband and wife during this period, it is equivalent to deepening this unpleasant memory and making the marriage more seriously hurt.

Second, the influence of sleep.

At night, quarreling between husband and wife will make us feel excited and affect our sleep. In other words, quarreling before going to bed is easy to make us insomnia, and after insomnia, our mood will become worse and our brain will be in a state of confusion.

This is one of the reasons why couples are more likely to quarrel or even fight in the middle of the night. It is wrong to quarrel when your partner is not awake. He can't control his emotions and behaviors, and it is easy to cause extreme situations, thus destroying his marriage.

Third, the dark effect

When night falls, it will create an atmosphere different from that during the day, which psychologists call the "dark effect". This is because the lack of light will make people more dependent on the people around them because of their insecurity.

This is also the main reason why many western restaurants or bars deliberately reduce the lights.

But this is only the bright side. On the downside, we are more likely to be on guard because of our lack of security. Once our partner "attacks" us, we are more likely to regard our partner as an "enemy" and thus "fight back" indefinitely.

Therefore, the dark effect is a good opportunity for couples with good feelings to talk and communicate, and it is a time to destroy and hurt their marriage feelings for couples with bad feelings.

If couples trapped by the epidemic want to repair their marriage, they might as well communicate well in the dead of night, but don't attack their partners. No matter what problems they have, they should wait until the day to ask their partners.

Running a marriage has never been a difficult thing. As long as we pay attention to many details, we can effectively improve the quality of marriage.