Why do you want to read Guiguzi?

/CB 8065380 CD 79 1236 B3 cc 2 BDA 6345982 B3 b 780 1f？ X-BCE-process = image/resize, m _ lfit, w _ 450, h _ 600, limit _ 1/quality, q _ 85 Guiguzi, surnamed Wang, was born in the Spring and Autumn Period. He often goes to Yunmeng Mountain to collect herbs and cultivate monasteries. Because of his seclusion in Qingxi Ghost Valley, he was called Mr. Ghost Valley.

For a long time, scholars have little praise for Guiguzi, but a lot of ridicule. In fact, the benefits of diplomatic tactics are related to the rise and fall of national security; Whether the strategy of business negotiation and competition is appropriate or not is related to the success or failure of the economy. Even in daily life, interpersonal communication and speaking skills are related to whether a person is decent or not. At that time, Su Qin, with his brilliant words, united the six countries, matched each other and led them against Qin. With her strategy and lobbying skills, Zhang Yi disintegrated the six countries and made immortal contributions to the State of Qin. The so-called "wisdom is unknown to people, but can be used by people." The essence of Guiguzi is that invisibility is better than indisputable white. Sun Tzu's art of war focuses on the overall strategy, while Guiguzi focuses on the specific skills of interpersonal communication. The two can be said to complement each other. Therefore, as a social person, if you want to deal with all kinds of people, you have to read Guiguzi and improve your communication skills.

There are fourteen guiguzi, the thirteenth and fourteenth of which have been lost. The versions of Guiguzi mainly include the ordinary edition and the Jiangdu Qin edition in the tenth year of Jiaqing. This is a collection of Taoist scriptures, which is taken from Mr. Xiao's Research on Guiguzi [Wen Translation Publishing House, 1984]. In addition, "Holding Pivot" and "Zhongjing" were indeed added by later generations, and I have no translation here.

There are similarities and differences between the article "Merger" and Han Feizi's "Explaining Difficulties", which is the difficulty for Han Fei to discuss lobbying. Lobbying was very popular during the Warring States Period, and Han Fei himself lobbied Wang Han numerous times, but all failed. In fact, it is basically not difficult for people with a little wisdom to lobby. The key is to see each other clearly, find out each other's thoughts and interests, and you will succeed. If you don't look at the other person's face, don't touch the other person's mind, condescending, and only lobby according to your own ideas, then even the best things will be difficult to succeed. Therefore, Shuo Nan can also be regarded as one of China's earliest papers on interpersonal communication. Han Feizi expounded interpersonal skills from the perspective of lobbyists, which is worth learning by modern people. Guiguzi, on the other hand, discusses the way of interpersonal communication from another angle, treating and eliminating people's speeches separately, or incorporating them separately, or collecting them comprehensively, or eliminating them comprehensively. As long as Yin and he live in harmony, that is always the best way. Therefore, the key to communicating with people is whether you can grasp the separate or closed portal.

The chapter "Response" refers to analogical response, that is, according to scholars' questions, we infer similar things to get scholars' responses. In the pre-Qin period, education was not universal. Even though many people such as Confucius set up schools, compared with the whole society, the scope is very small, and there are still a large number of people who cannot receive basic education. People who come to receive education have been influenced by family and social hierarchy since childhood, forming a lot of messy ideas. When you are new here, you often stick to your own opinions, which requires teachers' patience to persuade and warn you. The so-called analogy is to infer or measure similar things, that is, not to deny or suppress them from the beginning. When we modern people communicate with each other, as soon as we hear different opinions, we rudely deny them, sharply criticize them, severely suppress them, and even abuse them. Without giving the other party a little room for thinking, it will make the scholars feel rebellious and avoid learning. Therefore, Guiguzi said that if people have words, they are tempted. Silence is meditation. Look at his remarks and listen to his remarks. If his remarks are inconsistent, his reaction will inevitably be analogized. Then Guiguzi said that the so-called imitation is to imitate it; The so-called comparison is to compare its words. The so-called trap is that the topic of the conversation is set in advance and will not deviate. They are often driven by the ropes of the net, and their remarks will not be compared, but will change with them. Then Guiguzi said that there are imitations and comparisons in speech, so you can set the tone. Repeat following, analogy and cover, and nothing will slip up. Then Guiguzi said that if you want to hear their voices, you must be silent; If we want to be open, we must converge. If you think high, you have to be low. Want to get, but have to pay. If you want to open your heart, you must imitate and compare to rule your words. So you can call each other at the same time, and the truth will go back to the original place. Then Guiguzi said, the first thing is to know yourself, know yourself and then know others. Then Guiguzi said that he would guide smoothly without seeing the situation; Now that you have seen the situation, you will be honest. Then Guiguzi said that people who are good at educating others are amazing, making people receive education and change somehow. So this "response" can be said to be a paper on education by Gui Guzi. It is different from modern criticism education, irrigation education, encouragement education and appreciation education, but a kind of guidance education. It is also a good model essay to teach people to communicate.

The chapter "Internal Strength" means acceptance and containment. When we communicate with others, or when rulers and leaders listen to reports, we will accept or contain each other's remarks. Guiguzi first said that when we interact with people, we will be alienated and close, close and distant; Those who are near don't need it, and those who are far away seek it; Some people don't use it every day, while others miss it far from fame. There are also situations in which you take the road as your friend, the law as your friend, the township party as your friend, the wealth as your friend, the land as your friend, and the women as your friend. Therefore, if you want to be deep, you should be deep, and if you want to retreat, you should be close, and if you want to alienate, you should alienate. Get close if you want, and leave if you want; Ask if you want, and miss if you want. This means acceptance and tolerance. The so-called acceptance is a dedicated speech. The so-called containment is to contain what it wants to do. Therefore, when you see what he is plotting, you must know his ambition and spirit. Ambition here refers to people's world outlook, outlook on life and values. Therefore, we must have our own views on how close and far we are. Therefore, it is this meaning that sages put things first, know everything and tolerate everything. For the unknowable things, or things that don't know how to act, just quit and don't take risks. The whole article focuses on acceptance and containment, but the key lies in one's inner ambition and self-satisfaction. If we don't have our own opinions, then we will listen to others' opinions and follow others' ideas.

"arrival? T ",that is, pushing the cracks and gaps, and the so-called" reaching "and" pushing "refer to using various methods, or squeezing, pushing, blocking, plugging, turning back, turning over, withdrawing and stopping, to solve the cracks and gaps (generation gap, distance) between interpersonal relationships. There are cracks and gaps (generation gap and distance) not only between interpersonal relationships, between heaven and earth, and between everything. How to treat all kinds of cracks and crevices depends on how to use them to change their nature. Instead of ignoring these cracks and gaps, just handle things according to your own wishes. Because "things are natural and things are separated." Let the cracks get closer, or let the cracks get bigger and bigger and farther away from each other? Is what we should consider. Therefore, Guiguzi concluded that the world is chaotic because there is no clear monarch, and princes will be helpless, so villains will be slandered, sages can't use them, saints will run away, people who are greedy for profits and cheat will act, monarchs and subjects will doubt each other, the country will collapse, the army will conquer each other's doubts, father and son will separate, deviate from chaos and turn against each other. This is called being born. Therefore, Guiguzi said that those who know how to separate and live together are saints. But we modern people are always self-righteous, always think that things will develop according to our own wishes, always think that others will do things according to their own wishes, and always think that we are the most correct, instead of thinking about bridging the gap between ourselves and others and constantly directing and teaching others according to our own wishes, so the gap in interpersonal relationships is getting bigger and bigger, and finally contradictions break out and cannot be bridged. People rely on their ideas and opinions to guide their behavior. The so-called ideas and opinions refer to our views on the world, life and values. This is what we call three views in modern times: world outlook, outlook on life and values. The world outlook, outlook on life and values are similar, so the interpersonal gap is small and easy to bridge. The world outlook, outlook on life and values are different, so the gap in interpersonal relationships (generation gap, distance) is very large. If you don't deliberately bridge the gap, you can't come together. This is why Guiguzi wants to talk about "pushing cracks".

The chapter of "Flyqiáng Clamp" is fast clamping, and "clamp" is the same as the ancient "clamp". It means to clamp, clamp, limit, restrain and stop. It means that in conversation and debate, people grasp each other's points, restrict him, muzzle him, restrain him and prevent him from giving full play, and then guide him according to my meaning. Guiguzi first said that if you want to understand a person, you should observe his words and deeds, not only his appearance, but also his heart. In conversation, you can choose several topics, one is the same, the other is different. You can use his words to accumulate repeatedly and then ruin his topic, or talk about property and goods, exotic beauties, jewels and jade, jade and silk, and women who pick up land to serve him, or you can set up a force to hook him up, or wait on him when you see a gap and muzzle him. This kind of thing is pushing the gap. Then according to the content of the other topic, review their intentions and understand their hobbies and dislikes. Put on airs to induce him to tell the truth, connect without losing the theme, so as to examine his words. Therefore, this article is essentially about people's skills in conversation and debate. Only by learning these skills can we grasp the initiative in conversation or debate and really find out the intention of the other party, and then we can requisition him, ask him and use him.

The article "harmony" means to deviate from and cater to, or to deviate from an idea, an idea, a statement or an idea? Or cater to it? Guiguzi said, we must first understand heaven and earth, understand everything, and then transform accordingly. In other words, we should not simply state our position first. I deviate from it and cater to it, but it changes according to the changes of the times. If this kind of opinion, this kind of thought, this kind of statement and this kind of concept are in line with the times, then I will cater to it and echo it; If it deviates from the times, then I also deviate from it. Guiguzi's thought of "keeping pace with the times", like Lao Zi, Wen Zi, Guan Yinzi and Zhuangzi's thought of "keeping pace with the times" and Confucius' thought of "adjustment", all emphasize that they should change with the times and should not be complacent and opinionated.

Then Guiguzi said that there are no people who are often valuable, and there is nothing that can be imitated forever; If this kind of opinion, this kind of thought, this kind of statement and this kind of concept are used in the world, we must first measure the world and then follow it; If it is used in China, it is necessary to test the country first and then follow; If it is used in the family, you need to measure the family first, and then follow it; If it is for your own use, you must first measure your ability and momentum, and then follow it; The development of things has advanced and retreated, and the methods used are the same. It must be a method of planning, thinking, calculating and determining first, and then implementing rapid clamping. Most of us modern people don't have our own ideas. We all listen to other people's suggestions, an idea, a statement and an idea, but we just drift with the flow without careful consideration, so that we have no ability to set up our own ideas and can't walk out of our own life path. Stepping into society and doing things for others, how to advance and retreat freely and freely? If we can't advance and retreat freely, then we will only be miserable, depressed and tangled.

This article "Harmony" is also an article about "choice phobia". If you can't choose the correct deviation and catering, you will be overwhelmed and confused by all kinds of public opinions filled with various media, so you don't know how to establish your own world outlook, outlook on life and values, and you don't know how to embark on your own correct life path.

"Speculation" refers to trying to figure out, and the so-called trying to figure out is to carefully explore, speculate, think, guess, speculate and explore. Guiguzi first said that people who were good at governing the world in ancient times must measure the power of the world and try to figure out the feelings of the princes. In fact, any one of us should measure and ponder their affairs when interacting with others. However, when we measure and ponder, we use our original narrow knowledge and impressions to deal with people and things that have changed. Therefore, Guiguzi said that when we observe and ponder a person, we must go when he likes it very much to increase his desire; Because when a person has desires, he can't hide his feelings. When he is very scared, it is bound to increase his disgust; Because when a person has disgust, he can't hide his feelings, and his feelings and desires will inevitably change, so as to get the truth.

Guiguzi's thought is the same as Confucius's. The Analects of Confucius said: "Confucius said,' If you don't suffer from people, you don't know people. This means, don't be afraid or worried that others don't know you, but that you don't know or understand others. It is because we don't understand others that we don't understand why others don't understand me. If I understand others, I will understand why they don't understand me, so I will try my best to make him understand me. This is the best way to behave. However, in our actual work and life, do we really think of others? Do we know and understand people around us? Don't! At least most people don't think of others, and they don't understand, understand or understand others. So the contradiction between people will increase. If people can really understand each other, know each other and understand each other as Confucius said, then the contradictions between people will be greatly reduced, people can establish a loving relationship and deal with people well.

"Mopian" and "Chupian" are sisters, and "Chupian" refers to trying to figure out. The so-called ponder refers to groping, speculating, thinking, guessing, speculating and exploring in the heart. "Ink" means learning and research, and it also means touching and testing. It's all about interpersonal communication How to communicate with people? Gui Guzi first said that subtle learning depends on each other's desires and measurements to explore, and inner verification will inevitably respond; If the other party responds, it is bound to make a difference. In other words, to communicate with people, we must understand people's psychology and desires, and guess their psychological activities according to their unique social environment and interpersonal relationships in order to respond. If it doesn't conform to his social environment and interpersonal relationship, he will inevitably encounter rejection from the other side. There is no fixed way to communicate with people, so we can succeed, sometimes balanced, sometimes fair, sometimes happy, sometimes angry, sometimes famous, sometimes honest, sometimes honest, sometimes profitable and sometimes humble. In fact, in the final analysis, we still have to understand others before we can achieve the purpose of communication and our own purpose.

"Power film" means "weighing and balancing". Gui Guzi thinks that we should list the other party's various remarks first, that is to say, we must first understand the other party, know, weigh and balance what kind of person the other party is before we can lobby. What is the purpose of our lobbying? Is to convince others and rely on the strength of others to achieve their goals. If we don't even know who the other party is, how can our lobbying succeed? People without eyes can't show them five colors, and people without ears can't tell them five tones. So people who can't go can't enlighten them. People who can't come can't accept it. Then Guiguzi said, the wise don't use their own shortcomings, but use the strengths of fools; Don't use your own clumsy things, but use what stupid people are good at, so there will be no difficulty. Say its advantages because followers understand its advantages; It is harmful because it must avoid its shortcomings. Then Guiguzi said, so speaking to the wise depends on erudition; Talking to scholars depends on analysis; Speaking with a discriminator depends on the outline; Speaking to nobles depends on power; Speaking to the rich depends on the nobility; Speak to the poor and rely on interests; Speaking to humble people depends on humility; Speak to the brave and rely on courage; Speaking to fools depends on sharpness. These are the art of speaking, and people often violate them. Then Guiguzi added that there are many kinds of speech and many changes in things. So if you talk all day, you won't lose your type and things won't be chaotic; If you don't change all day, you won't lose your master In other words, don't be led by the other person's topic, but firmly grasp the purpose of your lobbying.

"Planning" refers to planning, conspiracy and strategy. It means that communicating with people needs to be planned in advance, and you can't communicate with people just by your own imagination. Guiguzi first said that every plan has a way, and it must be based on it and get its momentum; Only by understanding its situation can communication with people be effective. The so-called measuring ability, measuring ability and trying to figure out the situation means mastering the direction.

The second paragraph means that if you communicate with people with the same ideas, it is easy to succeed; People have different ideas, and communication is easy to fail. Therefore, the earth wall is always destroyed from the gap, and the tree is always destroyed from the joint. This is probably the principle of things.

/7 af 40 ad 162 d9 f2d 3 ef 9d 7226 a2 EC 8 a 136227 cc6f？ X-BCE-process = image/resize, m _ lfit, w _ 450, h _ 600, limit _ 1/quality, q _ 85 The third paragraph means that everything is changing, so we have to plan, and the plan must be planned, and the plan must have guidelines, and the guidelines are us. In other words, communication with people should follow the guidelines on our road.

The fourth paragraph means that when communicating with others, we must first understand each other. If we use interests to convince a caring person, we are bound to fail. If you use difficulties to convince a brave man, you will certainly fail to achieve your goal. If you convince a wise person with a lie, you will be rejected or even exposed. And those stupid people are easy to be deceived, unscrupulous people are easy to fear, and greedy people are easy to be tempted. These are all about things.

The fifth paragraph means that when communicating with others, you must put your words in the other person's heart. The so-called people who are physically separated from each other refer to people who have different ideas and a big gap, but the environment forces them to be together, such as colleagues, such as relatives and friends. The so-called soul mate, the appearance is close to the spirit, that is, the two sides have the same idea, but they have nothing to do with each other. Therefore, we should communicate with them through their doubts, or through their appearances, or through their words, or through their disgust, or through their worries. Then, let it fear through discussion, let it act through praise, prove through implicit words, respond through verification, shield it through blockage, and confuse it through confusion. It's called a trick. When communicating with people, you should use strategies when necessary, and you can't just speak by your own imagination.

It is better to make friends in public than in private. There will be no barriers to making friends. That is to say, to communicate with others, we must first choose the content of lobbying according to the identity of the other party, don't impose what others don't want on others, and don't teach others what others don't know. The reason why people have preferences is to learn to obey preferences; The reason why people feel disgusted is to escape, to avoid.

The seventh paragraph means that people who can know can use it; People who can't know, don't use it. Therefore, controlling others is more important than being controlled. Whoever controls others has the initiative. People who are controlled by others are controlled by their own destiny. The key to all this communication is to choose the best behavior.

/4 ec2d 5628535 e 5 ddfdf 3 f 3 167 DC 6a 7 efcf 1b 62 1f？ X-BCE-process = image/resize, m _ lfit, w _ 450, h _ 600, limit _ 1/quality, q _ 85. The whole article focuses on communication with people, and puts forward that communication with people should be planned in advance, and it is not possible to communicate with people only by one's own imagination. Therefore, the key issue is to choose the best behavior.

Resolution is about making decisions. If we have doubts about something, we must rely on what we have doubts about before making a decision. If there is no doubt, we will make a decision immediately. But how to decide is a big problem. Accept or give up? This requires choice. Every time people do something, they will have doubts, want to know the consequences, and will consider whether their choices are right or not. This problem has puzzled mankind for millions of years. So that most people suffer from choice phobia. When it was difficult to choose, the ancients invented divination and gave the choice to ghosts and gods.

A person will have several choices in life and work, and each choice is very important. If he doesn't choose, he will miss the opportunity and accomplish nothing in the end. Everything you want to see, or everything you don't want to see, is wrong. If you make a hasty and random choice, you will get troubles and painful consequences. Therefore, it is very important for a person to have a choice. Many people think they will have a choice. In fact, when one mountain looks at another, it always wants to choose the good, but hates the plain poverty. As everyone knows, many things look beautiful on the surface, but in fact, their good days have come to an end and their prosperity will surely decline! He chose this good one, and it didn't take long to prosper and decline. Many people only see the benefits, but they don't know that the benefits are followed by disasters, because others can see the benefits you see. Now that you have it, others want it. In order to keep your vested interest, you have to prevent others from coveting and grabbing it. This is "where misfortune and happiness lie, and where misfortune and happiness lie." There are many poor, plain ones? When you choose it and find something new from it, you will succeed. Therefore, the choices that everyone faces in life are very important. What should he choose? This requires wisdom.

Guiguzi believes that we can make such a decision by measuring what happened in the past, verifying what will happen in the future and testing the true feeling of fairness. In other words, this kind of thing can be decided by referring to similar things in the past, considering the consequences and testing whether it is fair and true. If there are unfair phenomena and untrue situations, then you can't choose to decide, you'd better choose to give up.

Yan Fu mentioned the statement that has been verified and fulfilled. What are the statements that have been verified and honored? The first section, about position, is to ask people to find their position accurately. The so-called stability, slowness, righteousness and quietness are all soft when applied to written law, which refers to people's attitude towards written law. If people adopt a chaotic, quick, selfish and impetuous attitude towards statutes, then they are not soft, but hard. Therefore, the key is our own position and attitude. The second section makes it clear that people always see with their own eyes, listen with their own ears, seek the so-called wisdom with their own hearts, and think they know a lot, but they are actually confused. The world is different and unique in the eyes of different people. Some people see the sunny side, some people see the dark side, some people see the plane, some people see the three-dimensional side, some people see the cross section, some people see the deep side, some people stand high and see far, some people stand low and see close, which depends on everyone's angle, position and height. Therefore, to be in harmony with other people's views can be called understanding. In other words, you can't replace others' confusion with your own understanding. How do you know that everyone is drunk and I wake up alone? Or is everyone awake and I'm drunk alone? In the third section, the central meaning of discipline is not to stand still and stick to your own opinions. Being strong and refusing any other knowledge will lead to the occlusion of your mind. The world is big, is it understandable and inclusive for our narrow knowledge in this life? Some people say that a mountain can't see the top when it looks up; The abyss can't predict its energy to the end, but Guiguzi thinks that only when the mountain looks up can it peak; The abyss measures its energy to the end. Therefore, if you are stubborn, you can only block yourself. Everything in this world is regular. Who can really understand the laws of all things? Even experts can only explain a small part of the law clearly. So, respect the law and don't be opinionated. The fourth section talks about rewards and punishments. We are all social people. Since you are a social person, you will have all kinds of interpersonal relationships. So, what is an important interpersonal relationship? Or is the regulation important? If we think interpersonal relationships are important, then in order to maintain interpersonal relationships, we will destroy social laws. If we think social laws are important, then we have to sacrifice interpersonal relationships. Therefore, the use of rewards depends on honesty, and the use of punishment depends on firmness. In other words, when we interact with people, we should also have a certain bottom line, and we should not lead to social chaos because of human relations. Because a chaotic society is not good for anyone. The fifth section, talking about inquiry, we modern people are very bad at asking questions, because asking others is humiliating and will be looked down upon by others. I don't understand it myself, but others do, especially a person who is poorer than me, a person who is younger than me, and a person whose social status is not as good as mine. Why should I ask him that he knows more than I do? Can money, status and knowledge be equated? So Guiguzi said, think about it, heaven, earth and people, up and down or so, back and forth or so, do you understand? The sixth section, about relying on, only relying on a platform can do things, and only relying on the status quo can succeed; Only by relying on our life path can we achieve a successful life. But some people are whimsical, shouting if I can succeed, will I succeed? Section 7, be careful, there must be rules in a family, so that the whole family can communicate inside and outside and know what others hear and hear; If parents are arbitrary, the whole family is passive, and parents only do what they want, can such a family last long? The so-called rule is caution, not what you think. Section 8: Respect. Only when we treat everything with respect and treat people around us with respect can we have more eyes and ears and truly understand things. If you are bossy, complacent and opinionated, then everyone will stay away from you and won't tell the truth. How can you clearly know things thousands of miles away? The ninth section, emphasizing name and reality, is very similar to Confucius and Xunzi's "name correction", which is a clear embodiment of Confucius' opposition to formalism. Jun Jun, priest, father and son must follow certain social codes of conduct according to their social roles. Monarchs are mainly like monarchs, courtiers like courtiers, fathers like fathers, and sons like sons. Only by following your own social code of conduct according to your social role can you meet your own standards of being a man. Confucius's "incorrect name, incorrect words" means to use "reality" to meet the requirements specified in "name" or to correct the existing or changed "reality" with the requirements specified in "name". Thus, the logical value of "correcting names" and the social function of name debate are affirmed. Names and substances should be interrelated. If things are similar, they should be called by the same name. If things are different, they should be called by different names. Xunzi's idea of "correcting the name" is to make the original things look like this, instead of using some strange theories to make the original things look like this. Only by keeping the original text as it is and not disturbing the correct name by strange words can people not be blocked and blocked. Guiguzi said: the name is appropriate, the reality is appropriate, the reality is appropriate, the reason is appropriate, and the name is appropriate. Law comes from harmony, and harmony comes from appropriateness. Although their statements are different, they mean the same thing.

In this article, Guiguzi uses simple words, but every sentence is to the point. It's hard to understand without thinking. These verified or fulfilled statements should be historical experiences and treasures of China's traditional culture.

The so-called "classics" in the "Seven Classics" refers to the basic program; The so-called "negative character" refers to secret verification. This paper discusses "invigorating the spirit"-invigorating our spirit and nourishing our will-enriching our thoughts, "dividing power"-distinguishing and distinguishing power, "dispersing power"-dispersing and changing the situation, "turning around"-pursuing coincidence of things and "reducing losses"

These seven aspects are all around interpersonal communication. If you want to have a successful life, you must be energetic, educated and able to cultivate your will in our spirit. Without exuberant spirit, it is difficult to stand on the world. So we must cultivate our own will and not be impulsive. If you want to enrich your mind, you must be quiet and thoughtful. A peaceful mind will produce magical strategies, and far-reaching thinking will produce planning achievements; Magic strategies will not be chaotic, and achievements will not change alternately, as long as you plan and plan your achievements. Only by distinguishing the strength of others can we find ways to shake their strength and make it correspond to mine. This is called an insider. If we try our best to compete with his strength, we may not win, but we may be defeated. If we want to push the situation to change and take action, then the situation will be dispersed. If we take the initiative, then we can grasp the initiative of the situation, and scattered people can't grasp the changing situation. When the two sides confront and meet, it is inevitable to find a coincidence point, so that both sides can reach an agreement and let the other side accept my words. If the other person thinks about the East and I insist on the West, then the differences between the two people will grow bigger and bigger, and finally they can't talk properly, so they have to break up in discord. So from the beginning, we will study each other's psychology and explore each other's strategies, so that we can know that we can turn around and follow the founder. Be able to adapt to natural conditions and take the initiative to attack. After mastering the initiative, the situation will change.