Can yisow tell fortune? _ Can yisow tell a fortune?

Sister-in-law can tell fortune, right?

1, birth and adoption

1987, I am in my mother's belly, and I am about to come into this world. My hometown is a place where boys are preferred to girls. The greatest value of a woman is to have a son. Before me, my mother had given birth to five daughters in succession. Her husband's family despised her, even my father.

When I was about to give birth, my mother had a little dystocia because she was a twin. My aunt went to call my father and said that my sister-in-law was going to have a baby. Father came back from playing mahjong and walked to the door. He heard that he had a daughter. He left without even entering the door. He turned and didn't go far. My aunt called him again and said that my sister-in-law had another one in her stomach. Dad came back again, just stepped into the door and gave birth to another daughter. My father was so angry that he had nothing to say.

There are too many children for parents to support. They raised four children, and the other children sent one here and one there. My twin sister and I gave them to different families.

It is common to adopt a daughter here. The purpose of their adoption is to be child brides and to be daughters-in-law for their sons when they grow up. Because of this impure starting point, adopted girls not only have to do a lot of housework, but also can't feel true love. Many adopted girls in the same village have a hard time. My twin sister died at an early age because of poor care of her adoptive family.

My adoptive parents are honest and kind by nature. Their two sons adopted two daughters. Because my family was poor, I had to do laundry and cook when I was a child, but they were deeply distressed and cared for me and my sister. It not only provides us with food, clothing, housing and reading, but also teaches us the truth of being a man. I have known that I was adopted since I was a child. My adoptive parents asked me to contact my biological parents because they have the grace to bear children.

Later, when they grew up, their sons formed their own families, which also supported us to choose our own lives.

I often think that being adopted by them is really my blessing. At the same time, I have a deep resentment that I am the biological father of this girl. No matter how well I live in other people's homes, no matter how poor my family is, I am willing to be accepted and recognized by my biological parents, and I also hope to live with my family.

Step 2 get married and have children

I met my husband when I was working outside. He and I are fellow villagers, and our hometown is also in the countryside. He is a rough man and is not very good at taking care of people. My social circle is limited, I know nothing about the future, and my height is only 1.38 meters, so I dare not expect anything. I think so too. We got married in 2009.

I was pregnant with my first child, and everyone was very happy. We live and work in Fujian, my husband works in one place, and my grandmother and I live in another place. Because there is no suitable job for me where my husband works, and where my grandmother works, I have to sit and make clothes all day, with a monthly salary of 1000.

In the third trimester of pregnancy, it is very tiring to do things. I have a backache and can't sleep well. I sleep with my stomach in my arms every day. My stomach is big, too. I am very young. I have to go down two flights of stairs to see the road. I basically go up and down stairs by feeling.

In order to make a living, I struggled until I went to work one month before production. In the last month, the factory also had a holiday, and we went home for a birth check-up for the New Year. The doctor said that I was too young to have a baby, and my first child would be delivered by caesarean section. Hearing this news, the whole person was a little confused: why do you want to have a caesarean section? What is a caesarean section like? Is it a horizontal knife and a vertical knife, and then the belly will become a cross?

When I was admitted to the hospital, I was so nervous that I was sweating all over. What's more sad is that my husband can't even pay 500 yuan for hospitalization. They still borrowed 500 yuan from my mother's house and paid the fee.

20 10 1, Dabao was born as a daughter. The crying of a little life has injected vitality into this embarrassing home. Watching her grow up little by little, I feel that all the hard work is worth it.

20 10 1 1 month. Dabao was found pregnant again when she was more than nine months old. At this time, it is really a dilemma. Everyone says that caesarean section can't be so dense, but it's actually pregnant. Many doctors don't advise me to have children. The doctor said: it is best to give birth once every three years. You are too close and too risky.

I am confused again: what should I do? What should we do?

I asked my husband, and he said, Ah, the doctor said that I can't give birth, or I won't give birth first, so I'll abort first. Fortunately, an old man in my hometown said: no, you are still so young and your uterus is not so fragile. Hearing this, I got up my courage: keep it.

My friends around me say that I am too courageous. My family is relatively indifferent to having Erbao, but my grandmother is worried, not about me, but that my health is broken and I can't have a boy.

She kept saying: What should I do? Now I'm pregnant again, giving birth to three at most. If this is a daughter, it is really dangerous to have another one.

20 1 10, Bauer was born and had another daughter.

3. Give birth to a girl and suffer indignities

Bauer is only over one year old, and I am pregnant with three treasures. My husband's house is not calm at all, and I feel that the sky is falling. Some said: Why are you pregnant again? What should I do? Some said: check, if it is a boy, it will be born, if it is a girl, it will be dropped; Some said: Why can't we have boys? ...

My mother's family said, alas, it's fate not to have a boy. What you can have is what you want. Doing this is harmful to your health. Abortion has never been allowed at home, and I don't want to go myself, so I have been dragging my feet.

When I was pregnant for more than three months, my grandmother just contacted the hospital and gave me a B-ultrasound to make sure it was a girl. My grandmother asked me to do it again. When I got to the hospital, I couldn't remember what the doctor said about me. Anyway, I warned us that you are not good at abortion, and abortion is very dangerous. If you don't do it well, the uterus will still rupture. My husband, my mother-in-law and other in-laws did not insist on forcing me to have an abortion because of my personal safety.

On August 20 13, Sambo was born as a daughter. When my grandmother saw it, she was unhappy and said directly, she has a daughter again. My husband said: Oh, nothing, but I mind very much. I can feel it.

Their attitude makes me feel bad. May be affected by emotions, bleeding that night, uterine contraction is particularly severe. Husband and wife not only don't worry, but scold me: it's so late, you have to endure the pain, or the doctor will rub your stomach all day long. Doctors have doctor's work to do.

I feel deeply wronged that their unhappy attitude is so obvious. My husband doesn't care about this. The next day he went to work, leaving my wife and I with the children.

My wife didn't abuse me, and she took good care of her diet and daily life during the second month. But she was just unhappy. She didn't even hug the baby when she cried. She said: Your daughter cries more. When she grows up, she will sing better. I know her mind, but I can only bear it silently.

Even once, I overheard my wife say to my husband: If your wife really can't have children, you can go outside and find a woman to bring back her son after giving birth, but that woman doesn't want it. My second sister-in-law once said to me: We still have you at home, but we haven't got a son yet. An unintentional word, but it deeply stung my heart.

Embraced by patriarchal customs, as women, they may feel unfair and deeply hurt in their early years. But in the day-to-day immersion, they gradually become numb and think that having a son in our family will not be discriminated against. Having a son is the greatest contribution to the family. They forget that they are women. If they all look down on women, the harm of son preference will continue to our next generation.

4. The risk of four children

Four treasures were found at the end of 20 15. My mother-in-law was directly scared. She hasn't slept for two days and nights, and she is always in a hurry.

When I went to the hospital, the doctor asked: How many did you give birth to? Is it a natural delivery or a caesarean section? I said: it was a caesarean section and gave birth to three children. This is the fourth child. The doctor told me directly: if you can't even give birth, you have to do it.

We couldn't bear it, so we went to another hospital. The doctor heard that all babies were delivered by caesarean section and refused to give birth. He said, you are too dangerous. Are you desperate? Do you want to have another child? Don't you have mines and a throne to inherit? There must be a boy?

The doctor said that my heart was cold, and I couldn't bear to be completely doused. My husband and I decided to go to the hospital for an abortion the next day.

After deciding to have an abortion, I felt particularly heavy. The next morning, when we got up, we didn't know we were going to make breakfast. We bought two steamed buns outside and went straight to the hospital. Take the medicine, queue up, pay the fee, go to obstetrics and gynecology, and wait for an abortion.

Many people are waiting in line, and I am next. I'm scared again. I was also afraid of having children three times before, but there was joy and expectation in fear. In this moment of fear, there is endless indifference and despair.

I asked myself: Do I just abandon my children? My heart is full of endless helplessness and sadness. Just then, my grandmother called and said, Come back quickly. Don't abort. I'll find someone to do the math. Your baby is a boy.

I'm relieved: I can finally keep the child. Maybe god is good to me. I really appreciate this fortune teller. If he hadn't reminded my grandmother not to have an abortion, the child would have had an abortion.

At the age of four and a half months, we had another color Doppler ultrasound and confirmed that it was a baby boy. My husband and I are immersed in joy. But what the doctor said later plunged us into the abyss of worry. He said: your uterus scar is too serious, and it is too dangerous to have a baby! What we are worried about is: will there be life-threatening? How can we keep the child?

Mom was so hard at that time that even if she was put out for adoption, she didn't leave a child behind. I didn't want to have an abortion at first, and my husband's family discriminated against me for not having a son, which inspired my inner strength. In that force, there is the courage of maternal love, the unwillingness to be discriminated against, and the arrogance to prove yourself. I secretly said to myself: in order to let their family have a high look, no matter what the price, even if I fight with my own life, I will keep this baby.

5. Four Treasures were born

In addition to the fear of life safety, we also have a heart disease-no money. Every inspection fee, as well as the production fee, makes us scratch our heads. The hospital asked me to prepare 20 thousand yuan for production. Twenty thousand dollars? We can't even come up with 200 yuan.

The tuition fee for Dabao's schooling, the raising fee for Erbao and Sanbao, and the living expenses of the whole family all depend on her husband to move cement as a coolie to earn money. I can't afford a nanny. After each baby was born, my mother-in-law took care of it for a month, and I took care of it all by myself. I dare not disturb my husband's rest. Since I had children, my husband and I have slept in separate rooms, and he has no energy to help with the children. Every month, chickens fly and dogs jump, and they are stretched.

The doctor advised me to go to the hospital one month in advance, because there was no money, so we didn't go. One month before giving birth, I crustily skin of head borrowed 20 thousand yuan from my adoptive father.

Fortunately, the adoptive father is very kind, and he also helps the children when they have no money to go to kindergarten. I borrowed money from my adoptive father several times back and forth. He said, I'll use it first and pay it back when I have money. I don't want money urgently now. Up to now, we have more than 20 thousand left.

2065438+In September 2006, Bao Si was born. My husband's family is happy beyond words. That night, my husband bought a lot of fruit. I wanted to give the doctor a red envelope, but the doctor refused to accept it, so I bought fruit and put it in the nurse station to share the joy with all the doctors and nurses. Everyone was shocked by this: Oh, it's really good for you that your husband is so generous.

The wife is also very happy, and the baby quickly picks it up when it cries. She said: If you cry too much, you will catch a cold. I don't understand: when I gave birth to two treasures and three treasures, didn't your old man say that children would cry more and sing more when they grew up? I really want to remember her, and then I thought, forget it, it's my child anyway. Good for Four Treasures of the Study is good for the baby.

I also had a vasectomy for this caesarean section. Although my wife still wants another boy, my waist is already very fragile and really needs to be taken care of. The wife's wish can only be eternal regret.

Step 6 be grateful for everything

In a blink of an eye, I am 34 years old, married 12 years, and have four children.

In recent years, we have often been troubled by money, but we have survived the difficult times and found that poverty is not terrible. Through the tempering of life, I understand the hardships of my biological father and my resentment against him has dissipated.

I am often hurt by the custom of preferring sons to daughters, but if I stick to the essence of maternal love, that love can hold up a sky for my daughter. Because I was despised since I was a child, I especially love my daughters. On their birthdays, I will carefully prepare gifts. I will also give them a full sense of ceremony in their festivals. I encourage them to study hard and strive for a better future. I really hope they live in an equal and friendly environment for girls!

When Bao Si was two years old and two months old, I sent him to kindergarten and went out to work by myself. In fact, the first three babies were sent to kindergarten when they were over 2 years old. I followed my husband to pick sand, move bricks and do some light manual work. I want the couple to earn more money together, pay back the money owed to their adoptive father as soon as possible, and strive to provide better conditions for their four children. Now that my children are at school, I found a regular job and couldn't look after them at any time, so I installed a camera at home.

The children in the camera gave me a lot of warmth, especially the girls in my family. They study consciously and help take care of their younger brothers and sisters. I am both gratified and distressed: they are still children! After work, they are also considerate. I hurt my finger doing housework. They immediately washed the dishes and swept the floor, leaving me to rest. Hey, girls are so good, why do you like boys but not girls?

I have always felt inferior because I am only 1.38 meters, but look at these old hurdles, I have tasted the pain, and I am amazed at the powerful power inside. After so many levels, I endured carrying it, never escaped, but it was all over. Four babies were born safely, grew up happily, entered school one by one, and thrived. I really feel great! Because I have been abused by life, I understand that it is not easy for everyone. When people around me are in trouble, I try my best to lend a helping hand and help as much as I can!

Thanks to my parents, I finally insisted on giving birth without abortion, so I have a happy little family now. I am very grateful to my adoptive parents, who raised me and often help me now. I am grateful to my grandmother for taking good care of me every month. I am grateful to my husband, have no complaints about family commitments, and try my best to create a better life for us.

I hope that our small family will always be healthy and happy, and that more people will cherish the life of the fetus, cherish the life of the baby girl and stay away from abortion. Don't be intimidated by difficulties. Life is everything. I was born with bad karma, so I can be happy now. The baby in your belly must also have a bright future.

Tip: To avoid unwanted pregnancy, please always use condoms during sex.

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