Marriage custom in Juxian county of Rizhao

As the saying goes, when a man marries a woman, no matter whether he marries a woman or a woman marries a man, men and women reach the age of marriage, whether it is free love or successful introduction by a matchmaker, the process of marriage basically uses this routine. Namely:

(1) blind date: After the couple are introduced by the marriage introducer, the matchmaker generally introduces the object, usually the appropriate family, and introduces the family members and family economic situation to each other. The two sides can choose the date of meeting. On certain occasions, both men and women invite friends and relatives to be staff officers and observe each other. After the meeting, the intermediary (matchmaker) introduced both parties. The gay men presented candy, cigarettes and tea to the woman, said a few kind words, took a few steps back and forth and sat down to show their walking posture, height and posture. They should be steady, sit and stand, and sometimes they can introduce themselves, increase the atmosphere and show it. Most women are passive, or say a few kind words, or just smile. Because the blind date is the first time they meet, most women are very careful and generally don't express their opinions.

(2) Engagement: People call it "noodle fish", which means engagement. After the blind date, the two sides visit each other and meet several times when necessary. Satisfied, the matchmaker sent a message to order, indicating engagement. Choose a good day according to the yellow calendar. Generally speaking, when engaged, the man will hold a banquet and invite relatives, friends and women to celebrate the success of the engagement. The specific process: the man steamed 9 big steamed buns, indicating that he has had food for a long time. Steamed a pair of big-faced fish with flour, representing more than a year. The man buys a quilt for the woman, which means that he has to endure it for generations, and every mattress should be covered with green cloth. Bring it back to the man's house when you get married. Buy this lady a dress, a scarf, a belt, etc. Buy women's cosmetics, cigarettes and sweets, wrap them in red bags and put them in six or eight red bags. Put the happy money in the bag, no matter how much. When the man's relatives and friends are in a good mood, they usually bring gift money, no matter how much. According to their own financial resources and relatives and friends. After dinner, the man gave the woman money to meet, and in the past, he gave 99 yuan money to meet, indicating long-term love. Now give 10 1 yuan, which means a good wife in a million. After taking home the clothes given by the man, the woman wrapped them in a red bag, bought a suit of clothes, a pair of shoes, a belt and a hat for her son-in-law, and returned two big steamed buns, which means a man and a big fish, meaning that every family has more than enough, and every year has more than enough. There is also money to gamble on red bags, usually tens of dollars.

(3) Important date: After being engaged for a period of time, the two parties agree to set an auspicious day for marriage. Now go to the civil affairs bureau to apply for a marriage registration certificate. An important date means that the man wants the woman's birthday, and eight children were born in Na Yue that year. Then, take all the boys' birthdays and find a professional who can find out the auspicious day to set the wedding date, and decide who will see the bride off, welcome the bride and preside over the wedding. On the day of waiting, the man bought a knife of meat, about 20 kilograms, and a pair of big fresh fish, snacks, candy, wine and other foods. The son-in-law personally went to her parents' house for a day. You can usually make an appointment once. If the woman and the man are not satisfied, it will take several gifts to make an appointment.

(4) Date of delivery: After the man comes to the date of birth of the woman, please ask the fortune teller to check the wedding date. According to the date of birth of men and women, the fortune teller wrote a document which read, wedding date: Choose this year's auspicious day, a certain day and a certain month, and you don't need to marry Fujian. So-and-so is the zodiac, and the rest are not taboo. Hi-room is near Dong 'an bed, the bed is settled, and the couple gets off the sedan chair and faces east or in some way.

I went to bed in a certain direction that day. Put charcoal braziers on the left and right of the gate. Good luck with your marriage. This document is written in two copies, the man keeps one copy, and the son-in-law gives it to the woman in person, which is called sending the day. The man also buys gifts, which are lighter than those of the day. He bought a coat for his wife and wrapped the check in it. You can usually send it once. Sometimes the woman doesn't accept it, she has to send it twice.

(5) Send a big meal: After choosing a wedding auspicious day, usually a few days before the wedding, the man's relatives and friends come to congratulate the wedding. This is called sending a big meal, sending wine, cigarettes, meat, money, fans and setting a banquet. The atmosphere is warm, showing the best performance of harmony between popularity and relatives. The more, the better. When the banquet is over, the host gives each relative and friend a gift, snacks and other things. Gift-giving fans are also called vermicelli, which means long-term friendship. Money for Xi is usually wrapped in red paper, which means it is red and happy.

(6) Box-filling: After choosing an auspicious day for marriage, just like the man, the man is called a bride price and the woman is called a box-filling. Usually a few days before the wedding, the woman's relatives and friends will send dim sum buns to her home, and some daily necessities will also give money to add some items to her marriage. When the banquet is over, the woman also gives something to her relatives and friends.

(7) On: The day before a man and a woman get married, it is also called urging marriage, sending some articles such as cosmetics, checking what they haven't bought, what they are not satisfied with, and so on. The man sent someone to the woman's house. It used to be a multi-storey garden. It was also useful to send a rooster and hen. You can't kill chickens or women. It's called urging marriage. Take him back. The top is the most exquisite, and a pair of chickens means good luck to yes-men. A pair of fish means more than a year, and wine and vermicelli mean frequent visits. A knife of meat is about 20 kilograms. Generally, six-color ceremony also has eight-color ceremony. A small flower box contains cosmetics for women and some auspicious items. The small flower box contains: a comb, a mirror, two pairs of vanishing cream, two boxes of rouge and face powder, two onions to show that children are smart, a pair of needles to tie the red line, two mugwort leaves to show that they love children, two small salted fish in the sea to show that their daughter-in-law can rely on, a bag of rice to show food after marriage, and a bag of brown sugar to show life. A pair of women's nets, hairpins, rings, earrings, necklaces, headscarves and a pair of red legs. The items on it are exquisite everywhere. On the wedding day, the man gave the bride a quilt to sit under, and the man gave her a set of clothes, usually bright red and green, which the bride had to wear on the day she went to the top, and then she could not change clothes until she got married and went back to her mother's house for three days. This link at the top is the last chance for love women men to ask questions. As long as they don't ask questions on it, they will laugh when they get married. It's not good for them, and they can't embarrass that man any more. According to the amount of money the woman urges her to marry, the man will give her the amount of money from relatives.

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