Let me ask you a question: how do you understand this sentence?

Problem description:

Character determines fate! I have thought about this sentence for a long time, but I still can't understand it thoroughly. Give me some inspiration, will you This is not an assignment, I just want to understand something through this sentence.

Analysis:

"Character decides fate" is definitely thought-provoking wisdom. In the interlocking modern society, only sincere cooperation between people can settle down, and the decisive role of personality is increasingly obvious. Positive personality-such as seriousness, diligence, optimism, calmness, fortitude, boldness, generosity, frankness, humility and enthusiasm-is countless excellent adhesives and yeasts, which make people more caring and enterprising, more attractive and competitive; Negative personality-such as laziness, gloom, selfishness, arrogance, cunning, cowardice, loneliness, narrowness, meanness and ruthlessness-is a terrible obstacle and gap that keeps people away from a happy life. An imperfect personality is undoubtedly the greatest sorrow in life.

So, when was the character formed?

According to a survey abroad, a person's personality is formed between 3 and 6 years old. There is an old saying in China: three years old, you are old; Seven years old, you are old. For most people, they are with their parents between the ages of 3 and 7, so it is their parents who have the greatest influence on their personality.

Foreign theories also include the influence of blood type and constellation on personality. For example, what kind of people are type O blood and type A blood? What is the personality of people in each constellation? Wait a minute. Some are right, others are far from it.

China's theory includes the zodiac, such as what it is and what it is suitable for marriage. Counting eight characters is to decide fate according to the date and time of birth. According to the above statement, the causes of personality become very complicated. Generally speaking, some roles are decided at the moment of birth, while others are shaped between the ages of 3 and 6.

In my opinion, eight characters are the most accurate. Sometimes the accuracy is unbelievable. I can even predict future events, which is far beyond my understanding. I won't say much about this, lest I be superstitious. Let me guess why the constellation is the most accurate, because the blood type only divides people's personality into four types, the constellation is divided into 12, and the genus is divided into 12. The eight characters divide a person's personality into 365 days, 12 hours and x years. The subdivision is more detailed and accurate. So, is personality shaped before the age of seven? Fortune-tellers say that it is better to believe in fate than not to believe in it (is there such a saying). And fate, you can't believe it, you can't believe it all. The highest principle of palmistry is that "the palm is born from the heart, and the heart turns from the other", which shows that palmistry may be changed the day after tomorrow. Why is this happening? Personally, I think the difference between human beings and the material world is that matter can be precisely defined. For example, the speed of light in air is 300,000 kilometers per second. But the law of human beings is uncertain, even if it is described by 365X24X 12, there are still exceptions. I think the 80/20 rule is one of the best rules for analyzing human activities. For example, the application here is that most people's personalities are shaped before the age of 6. This "majority" may be over 80%, 95% or 98%. Of course, it still conforms to the spirit of the 80/20 rule. If so, some exceptional phenomena can be explained. For example, some people can make some changes in their personality when they are in middle school or even college. But the older you get, the less likely you are to change. It is estimated that after the age of 30, among the 65438+100000 people, no one can change even part of his personality. Applying the 80/20 rule again, only a few people can partially change their personality during adolescence or even after work. There are always some people in this world who can constantly improve themselves. Of course, there are relatively few such people.

From this, we will think: Is it possible to change personality? How to change it? What part of your personality has changed? Personally, I understand that the most basic character cannot be changed, or the most difficult part to change. For example, extroverts become introverts. Perceptual thinking becomes rational thinking. These are the most basic parts of personality, which are extremely difficult to change. As for other superficial personalities, such as stingy, selfish, jealous, suspicious and careless, they are more likely to change the day after tomorrow. As for the abilities of people who do not belong to the category of personality, such as vision, insight into analyzing complex things, mathematical ability, language ability and so on. They are almost born and cannot be improved the day after tomorrow. With regard to the change of personality, I think that change does not mean changing from such a personality to a completely different personality, but should be the adjustment of personality. Because of the complexity of people, most people have two sides, and the most typical one is the person with dual personality. So, what kind of personality do you show, just because the balance of personality is tilted to which side. For example, extroversion does not mean complete extroversion, and extroversion may account for a larger proportion than introversion. Therefore, changing a person's personality is to gradually develop a person's hidden personality. You don't have to completely destroy the original dominant personality, just turn the balance around. You don't even have to reverse it. It may be enough to show your hidden personality from time to time. However, obviously, it is very difficult to just move the balance point. So there is a saying that a leopard cannot change his spots. I think there are some effective ways to change personality. But you may not be able to use these methods. For example, high-pressure places such as the army and prisons are definitely good places to temper some characters.

How to use this theorem of "character determines fate" to plan your career?

Because the more basic personality, the more difficult it is to change. Therefore, I think it is better to recognize my own personality and destiny, and then choose the path that suits me on this basis, and change my destiny by changing my personality. If you want to take a road that is not suitable for your personality, even if you succeed, you are likely to take a detour. At some extreme moments, perhaps those who have been hidden will emerge. There are special personality test subjects abroad. By doing the questions, we can analyze people's personality types and characteristics, and recommend what kind of industries and posts are suitable for us according to their personality characteristics. There are several such tests, such as MMPI, CPI, 16PF test, etc. Many human resources experts in China have obtained the certification of these tests. You can test your character through them. These tests get your personality characteristics, which are more objective than astrology. In other words, even if you change your personality the day after tomorrow, you can still reflect the result of the change through the test. The advantage of doing these tests is that you don't care when your personality was formed and whether it can be changed. You just need to use this test to know what you are suitable for, what shortcomings you have and so on. As for whether you can change your personality, you might as well wait for it to change and do another test. This means that it is very wise and safe to find a way that suits your personality instead of challenging your personality. Off-topic, I heard that it is really unpredictable to calculate what will happen in the future by calculating the eight characters. Now science can't explain it at all, so I won't say much. I just want to let you know that there are many magical things in ancient China that people today can't explain. While studying western science, don't belittle everything you have. What needs to be emphasized is that there is no good or bad personality. Different personalities and characteristics will have different choices on the road to success. At the same time, no one is 100% of a certain type. The test results show that you belong to a certain type of person, which just shows that you are more inclined to this aspect. Therefore, after choosing a career path that suits you, you will get twice the result with half the effort and the efficiency will be much higher. If you choose a career that doesn't suit you, for example, if you are creative and insist on sales management, it is tantamount to challenging your personality, which is extremely difficult and the chances of success are much smaller. As the old saying goes, good people are afraid of going into the wrong business, which is the reason. Even if you can't change your personality, just choose the path that suits you. Whether you start a business, become a professional manager of a big company, be a senior chef or open a small shop, as long as you do it well, your financial success may not make much difference. Only by knowing these truths clearly can we know ourselves more clearly, and we will not underestimate ourselves or aim too high. As for how much some "leadership training" courses on the market have improved you, you will also have a clearer understanding.

Finally, I ended by quoting my brother's words "Don't pull it": "I just think one thing is decisive. Everyone makes mistakes, some make big mistakes, some make small mistakes. As long as a person doesn't repeat the mistakes he made before, his achievements are amazing! So I think the most important character is to be able to let go of self-esteem, sum up other people's mistakes, their own mistakes and learn from them. This kind of person can be transformed, and this kind of transformation is exactly what the ever-changing environment needs. " Regrettably, I feel that this kind of self-correcting and self-remolding personality seems to be born many, and it is difficult to cultivate it.

Usually, I am a student who likes sports, and I pay more attention to major international and domestic sports events. Even if it is a school basketball game, I will never miss it. I want to talk to Wang Hao, a famous table tennis player, about today's topic "Character decides fate". As a new generation of players trained by China Table Tennis Team, Wang Hao has high hopes for everyone with his unique style of play. Unfortunately, since losing the final of the Athens Olympic Games last year, Wang Hao has repeatedly missed this player who almost won the championship in major events such as the National Games and the World Cup. Wang Hao, when are you going to lose?

Wang Hao's style of play is very special, which is also the main reason why he can beat many masters when he first debuted. However, with the understanding of his opponents, Wang Hao's original "mysterious weapon" has been familiar to everyone. When dealing with opponents, Wang Hao's technical characteristics of horizontal grip and horizontal hitting are not dominant, and his performance in the game is becoming more and more unsatisfactory.

However, for Wang Hao, what is more important is his fragile psychological quality. Three games and three runners-up have left Wang Hao with eternal heartache.

In every competition, losing in the most important finals is obviously not a simple technical problem. Wang Hao is a famous "darling tiger" of the table tennis team, which gives people the feeling of being quiet and introverted. This character may be suitable for being an obedient good student, but it is not suitable for being an excellent athlete. Although Liu used various methods to improve Wang Hao's fighting spirit in the face of difficulties, the effect was not obvious. A year passed, but Wang Hao still failed to get out of the fate of losing at the crucial moment.

Character determines fate. At that time, Cai Zhenhua hit the nail on the head and pointed out, "If Wang Hao can't get out of his psychological fragility in the near future, it will be difficult to become the leader of the China table tennis team." For Wang Hao, there are players like Wang who need to surpass, and there are young players like Wang who are catching up behind. In addition, technological innovation and breakthrough are needed. Wang Hao has reached the point where he can no longer lose. If he loses again and again, Wang Hao will lose not only the title of champion, but also his future.