What is suspicious psychology?

Suspicious psychology can be self-doubt or suspicion of people around, which seriously affects the normal life and study of teenagers. With a suspicious mind, you tend to be opinionated. You make do with unimportant things in life through your own "imagination", mistake others' unintentional words and deeds for hostility or persecution, suspect others of deceiving yourself without enough evidence, and even understand others' kindness as intrigue. This will lead to the self-built barrier in interpersonal communication and eventually turn against each other.

There are three friends who have been getting along well since childhood, but since entering middle school, the relationship has gradually deteriorated. For example, the home of one child Xiaogang is close to the homes of the other two children Xiaoming and Xiaoqiang, so Xiaogang can play wherever he wants. However, Xiao Ming didn't care so much about Xiaogang's behavior at first, but later he often doubted that Xiaogang must have gone to Xiao Qiang again instead of looking for himself. He was sure that they were speaking ill of themselves. He is particularly uncomfortable psychologically. Mom and dad often call for dinner, and he is still sitting on the sofa thinking gloomily.

This case is a typical paranoid feature. Xiao Ming was very unhappy because Xiao Gang didn't go to find himself. He suspected that Xiao Gang and Xiao Qiang deliberately didn't play with themselves, although there was a feeling of dissatisfaction in his heart. In fact, there is absolutely no need to be so unhappy. This is the result of adolescent psychological development. Often most young friends are like this at this time, there is no need to care too much about other people's practices.

The famous philosopher Bacon once said, "Doubt is like a bat, it always takes off in the dark. This kind of mood is fascinating and confusing. It can confuse people, confuse enemies and friends, and thus ruin people's careers. " In daily life, you often meet some suspicious people. For example, if you greet him, he will repeatedly taste the "implication"; If you make an unintentional joke, he will think that you are hiding the knife in a smile without any kindness; When he saw two people whispering, he guessed that he was talking about his shortcomings and so on. These small details in life often make suspicious people think. That kind of high vigilance and impulsive personality makes people have to stay away from it.

Simple paranoia usually occurs under the condition of misunderstanding others and becomes a person's behavior habit. For example, some young friends think that they are inferior to others in some aspects, so you always feel that others will look down on themselves and calculate themselves everywhere. If others cast a casual glance at you while talking to others, you think others are speaking ill of themselves; Or if someone plays a friendly joke on him, he suspects that others are biased against him and so on. With a skeptical attitude, you are often "suspicious" and often use subjective assumptions instead of objective facts, resulting in a resentful revenge mentality.

How suspicious are you of teenagers? Generally, when I was a child, I was severely abused or suffered misfortune, mainly because of the lack of emotional communication, and gradually formed distrust of anyone. This type of teenagers are often conceited, narrow-minded and neurotic. When encountering anything, they always like to think the worst. They always feel that everyone is against themselves, which leads to excessive words and deeds, which leads to the inability to live in harmony with their loved ones at home, and the inability to get along with their companions outside, making interpersonal relationships difficult.

Doubt and suspicion are different. Suspicion and distrust of others limit the scope of communication, so it will lose the happiness that teenagers should enjoy, and at the same time, it will also damage the feelings with others. Suspicion, like an invisible chain, binds our hands and feet and urges teenagers to stay away from relatives and friends, thus going to the extreme of life.

Doubt is just a general doubt, but this doubt may be caused by pure tension or it may be in line with objective facts. If teenagers want to make the expression of emotions reasonable, that is, to keep their emotions constant and moderate, it is best not to do whatever they want. Especially when you are in a bad mood, don't take it out on others and don't be loyal, otherwise the consequences will be unimaginable.