What does your boyfriend mean by becoming golden phoenix?

Phoenix Man is a "golden phoenix flying out of a henhouse". Phoenix man is a man who points out that he is poor, goes to college through his own efforts and works and lives in the city. He "flew out of golden phoenix in the ravine", but he was indecisive and took his relatives too seriously, which affected his life. Although they left the relatively poor living environment, they still retained many backward and decadent ideas. When they choose the urban women around them and join hands with them in the marriage hall, some couples sometimes have different ideas, and most families are constantly in conflict.