Chen Chunhua's mother: Thinking about the educational wisdom behind "All right then"

This afternoon, my teacher, that is, my son, called me to watch the talk show between Chen Chunhua and the famous host Jing Yidan on CCTV last night.

Next, let's watch CCTV4 Chinese International Channel "Mr. Chen Chunhua, the global Chinese family cultural heritage program" Thank you, my home ". How to talk about China's "family culture" with the famous host Jing Yidan? How to tell the happy story of mother, herself, children and three generations as an ordinary daughter in the warmth of mother's Well? "

Teacher Chen Chunhua is talking about her mother's influence on herself and her message to her mother. From her simple words, she revealed her mother's love for herself and comfort for her daughter.

Mr. Chen Chunhua, a guest of CCTV Chinese International Channel, talked about the influence and change of her mother's words and deeds on her life development in the program "Thank you, My Home". In a word, it is "not bad".

What do you mean, "okay"?

"Well, then" is actually one of our spoken languages, which is equivalent to the usual "line", "medium", "good" and "can".

However, this sentence has become an unforgettable sentence in Chen Chunhua's memory, and it is this sentence that has been handed down and made Chen Chunhua benefit and benefit for life.

Next, let's look at the dialogue between host Jing Yidan and Chen Chunhua.

Jing Yidan asked: Teacher Chen, as soon as I arrived at our studio, I saw such a time bottle. This time, I recorded a lot. A word handed down from your family, which one impressed you deeply?

? Chen Chunhua: This sentence is actually very common. It doesn't matter.

Jing Yidan asked: Is it that simple?

? Chen Chunhua: Yes.

Jing Yidan asked: Who often says this, right?

? Chen Chunhua: My mother said that, because my mother is actually very difficult to get along with. She is from Zhanjiang. She grew up by the sea, but her father is a geologist. Then my mother followed her all the time, from Zhanjiang to Heilongjiang to Qiqihar, and came to a small place called Ang 'angxi. (According to the transcript of video dialogue of CCTV Chinese International Channel)

Chen Chunhua's mother's "Well, then" is emotional calm, not helplessness.

In fact, as a mother, keeping her emotional peace is the greatest education for her children.

Jing Yidan asked: So your family took root here?

Chen Chunhua: Yes.

Jing Yidan asked: From the south, it is a pass to spend the winter in Heilongjiang.

? Chen Chunhua: This question is even more difficult to answer, because my mother was at the seaside in Zhanjiang when she was a child. In fact, she never wore shoes, so shoes actually challenged her the most.

In fact, making shoes in the north is to use rags, grind white flour into flour, and then paste it layer by layer. After sticking, cut out the soles according to the shoes, that is, many layers of cloth. She wants to put it on with hemp rope, and then call this kind of sole nano-sole.

Jing Yidan asked: Close the soles?

Chen Chunhua replied: Yes, it takes a lot of strength to get it out.

? Jing Yidan asked: Use an awl.

Chen Chunhua replied: Yes, yes, yes. She didn't understand in her early years. She didn't know there was a thimble, so she tried to stuff it with her hand.

Jing Yidan asked: That thimble is necessary.

Chen Chunhua: Yes, but she is not from Guangdong.

Jing Yidan asked: She used the strength of her hands.

? Chen Chunhua: Correct. She will do it with her hands.

Jing Yidan asked: That hand is going to bleed.

Chen Chunhua: Yes, my hand will bleed, and then I will get a sole. I guess it will be painful.

Jing Yidan asked: If you don't know these things, just saying "OK" seems to make people feel helpless. If there is no way, just accept it.

Chen Chunhua: No, she's really happy. When she is doing this series of things, she will think to herself that my child is dressed beautifully and warmly, and then she will be beautiful. She thinks it's all worth it. (According to the transcript of video dialogue of Chinese International Channel)

Jing Yidan asked: What I just said is all trivial things in life. Did something big happen? Is mom like this in front of big events?

? Chen Chunhua replied: This big event really shocked me, because there are many people in our family. My mother will definitely go out to work after finishing her daily work. I told her that I would pick you up after school.

When I got to that place, I was shocked at once. This is a brick-burning factory.

? Mom's job is actually to push the adobe of that brick, which is very heavy. Her job is to push it into the kiln car by car. It was June, and it was very hot, and then the temperature in the kiln was even hotter, and people were very dark and sweaty, so she came out of the kiln factory. At that time, I was suddenly shocked by that place.

? When I received my mother, I actually just said a word, and I said, "Let's not do this job in the future."

Jing Yidan asked: Brick kiln work is a man's labor force and one of the most tiring jobs.

Chen Chunhua replied: Yes, when I asked her why she did this job? She said that because the hourly wage of this job is the most expensive.

Jing Yidan asked: In fact, it is also the hardest work.

Chen Chunhua replied: Yes, because she just wants us to have a better life. Later, all we five sisters wanted to do was to do something to make our mother feel happy. ?

Mom's happiest thing is to see our walls covered with awards. During the Spring Festival, there will be a New Year call. When we go to other people's homes, people will have a lot of delicious food. In fact, we are a relatively poor family and don't have much delicious food for others. Then my mother always talks about a whole wall of prizes, and then others will be envious, because few people have a whole wall of prizes.

Once she came back to talk to me. She said, I'm going to queue up to buy pork today, and then everyone wants to buy some fat. When it was her turn, she had a brainwave and said, "I'm Chen Chunhua's mother." People gave her an envious look and said, which one do you want? She said I wanted the fat piece, so people would cut it for her. (According to the transcript of video dialogue of CCTV Chinese International Channel)

Chen Chunhua replied: Yes, yes, yes, she knows, because our town is very small, and then the exams are all ranked in the whole school, so I will always rank first.

When she came back to tell me about it, I told myself that I must be the first in the exam, because I could feel the happiness of being the first in the exam.

? Why is this important?

Because we are all daughters.

If our neighbors have children to get married, everyone should help each other make quilts, but there must be no mother at this time. No matter how good our relationship with our neighbors is, the reason is that the person who makes quilts for the next generation must have both children, so she has no chance.

? Every time she hides, in fact, every time she sees someone else's neighbor's wedding is very lively, we tell her that we will work hard. Don't worry, you must be the happiest mother in the world. (According to the transcript of video dialogue of CCTV Chinese International Channel)

Jing Yidan asked: How happy was this mother when you were admitted to the university?

Chen Chunhua: From my own wish, I really want to go to Beijing, but my parents are actually from Zhanjiang. They only have one wish: to return to Zhanjiang.

Jing Yidan asked: Back to Guangdong, back to my hometown.

Chen Chunhua: Yes, so when I was admitted to the university, my father told me that you wanted to go back to Guangzhou, that's all. Then mom is the kind of person who says what dad says.

Chen Chunhua replied: Yes, she said you should go to Guangzhou.

Jing Yidan asked: In fact, you said something unconsciously at this time, which is very similar to your mother's words. All right.

? Chen Chunhua: Right, right, right.

? Jing Yidan asked: This gives parents a visible hope that they can go back to their hometown.

Chen Chunhua replied: Yes, yes, it is very important to them. At that time, there was only one way to go, and that was to stay at school.

Jing Yidan asked: Stay in school as a teacher.

Chen Chunhua: It has been like this for more than 30 years. When I have the ability, I have pulled them all to my side. Even when the five of us walk with our mother, we will feel that we look alike.

Jing Yidan asked: Look at your family photo.

? Chen Chunhua: My mother was a very happy person in the end. My mother has many excellent places, for example, she likes to try everything she has never tried.

I am very proud now. I tell you, my favorite food is Italian bread, followed by French red wine and Japanese ice cream. Because she can accept everything like this, I can take her around the world. I think this is a great help from her. Many of us want to be filial but have no chance. My mother gave me a chance to be filial to her.

So my mother is a family heirloom, and each of us has a good life, which is actually the greatest filial piety to our parents. Mom turns 80 this year (20 17), and then we want to make a video for her to see the road she has traveled in the past 80 years. (According to the transcript of video dialogue of CCTV Chinese International Channel)

Jing Yidan asked: Many people may feel familiar with this story about your family. Isn't this the happiness of our China family?

Chen Chunhua replied: Yes, I often tell my children, including my daughter, that we should cherish every family gathering and we should be together.

My daughter is fine, too. One year, she actually moved me. I discussed it with her when she graduated from college. I said if you want to come out to work. Then she said, mom, let me try the postgraduate entrance examination first. If I am admitted to the school I want to take, you should let me take it. If I can't get into the school I want to take, I'll go to work. I said ok, you decide.

Then one morning, she woke up and sent me three admission notices in succession. After I sent it, I became stupid. The first is from Harvard University, the second is from Columbia University, and the third is from the University of Pennsylvania.

After these three admission notices were issued, I stood there, and then she called me and asked me, and she said, Mom, are you happy? I said of course I'm happy. She said I was happy, too. She said I would choose Harvard among the three schools. I said, did you choose Harvard because it ranked first? She said no, she said, do you remember when I used to chat with you? I asked you, mom, which school do you think you want to go to most? You said, "I want to go to Harvard University most, but mom has no chance or ability to go." Then she said, "I got your wish, mom." I cried at that time. I am not a tearful person, but I still shed tears. I think mother and daughter probably need to understand each other.

? Jing Yidan: When my daughter put three admission notices in front of you, I remembered that when your mother bought meat, she told people that I was Chen Chunhua's mother. Isn't this very similar?

? Chen Chunhua: Very similar. (According to the transcript of video dialogue of CCTV Chinese International Channel)

Children, parents, have no future in this life. You should study hard and live up to your parents' expectations, and get into Peking University, preferably Harvard.

Now, there are always families who will educate their children like this.

Parents think that children are their parents' hopes and their families' hopes.

Now some people are not grateful to their parents, but "both parents are evil."

However, Teacher Chen Chunhua said that mother is the baby of the family, and her greatest happiness is to be a mother's daughter.

What is happiness?

Happiness is "a family as old as a treasure".

Why?

The reason is that when we are taking care of our parents, the children are silently watching our every move, every word and deed. This is the best example. In the future, when we are old, our children will take care of their parents like us. In other words, we take care of the elderly and educate our children.

In fact, being kind to the elderly means being kind to myself, and one day I will become an old man like this one.

In fact, "the old population is a blessing, and the more you eat, the more you get" and "the old people's life will flourish in his home" are both true.

However, some people now think that the elderly are a burden, which is not correct.

Next, let's move on, Chen Chunhua, what kind of "message" did you give your mother?

Jing Yidan asked: There must be a lot to say to your family, so please leave this message in the memory time bottle.

? Chen Chunhua: Good.

From Chen Chunhua's message to his mother, "The greatest happiness in life is that I am your daughter", we can see that in Chen Chunhua's heart, there is deep love and infinite affection for his mother.

So, for the sake of mother and family, Teacher Chen collected and published Walking with Mother. From the title of the book, we can see her love for her mother-"I have a good vacation with my mother and family every year." These holidays with my mother and family are also the source of my hard work motivation. "

You see, the greatest happiness of a daughter is to be a mother's daughter. What touching and thought-provoking words.

This sentence is the real success of a great mother in educating her children.

Therefore, today's parents should learn from Chen Chunhua's mother.

When Chen Chunhua was a child, there were five sisters in her family. She witnessed her mother working hard to support her children in the brick kiln factory, so she made up her mind to study hard to repay her mother. When she grew up, she finally realized her wish and took her mother around the world.

What kind of education is this?

This is the education of example!

This is education by example! !

This is education by example! ! !

"All right, then" is a sentence that my mother often said to Chen Chunhua, respecting children's choices. Chen Chunhua learned this sentence from her mother and applied it to her children, and her daughter was finally admitted to Harvard University with excellent results.

Mother's "All right" is the best reward for her daughter's study-"I must be the first in the exam, because the first mother can feel that kind of happiness".

Mom's "All right, then", let my daughter's daughter learn-three admission notices are the best explanation.

This is "Mom is a family heirloom"-"All right then"! ! !

My mother's "All right" asked Professor Chen Chunhua to write "Take my mother on a trip", and she did. The world is so beautiful, take mom to see it!

Mother's Well, Chen Chunhua has become a legendary woman with multiple identities, a professor, an entrepreneur, a writer and an educator.

? Mother's "Well, then" is a mother who teaches attentively and sets an example. This is a kind of implied education of "I want to learn". You have to learn if you don't want to, and sometimes you have to learn secretly. It's not a mother who beats and scolds. It's an explicit education that "wants me to learn". If you want to learn, you have to learn, but you just don't want to learn.

Mother's "Well, then" should be a good family tradition and a family heirloom, which should be carried forward.

(Note that the article is a part of the chapter in Mothers: The Password to Teach Children Success and the Pedagogy of Rural Mothers with Fragrant Native Land.)

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