I would like to ask about the marriage custom of Lianjiang men and women.

Matchmakers arrange marriages, mostly by asking men to propose to women first. The matchmaker introduced the family and the situation of both men and women. The parents of both sides thought that the door was suitable for both men and women, so they agreed to propose. The matchmaker gave the woman's "birthday" to the man and asked the fortune teller to get married. Some people even write a woman's "birthday" on red paper and put it under the ancestral tablet or incense burner. Within seven days, there were no unlucky things such as broken bowls and dishes. Even if this marriage is basically certain. Commonly known as "marriage", later also called "marriage".

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After economic cooperation. The bride price given by the man to the woman is commonly known as "bride price" and later called "engagement". Even customs are divided into "the first half ceremony" and "the second half ceremony", and the number of bride price varies from place to place and from home. In addition to sending food such as meat and noodles to the woman's home, it is more important to hire money. Rich people also have gold and silver jewelry, silks and satins and other valuables. The first choice for engagement money is the number "three" (the homonym of "three" and "life" in dialect, including the meaning of early birth of your son), such as 33 yuan, 130 yuan, and 530 yuan, 830 yuan, 1 330 yuan and 3330 yuan after the founding of New China. The woman also gives the man clothes and fructose. After the engagement, both parties share candy with their neighbors and relatives to gain their approval.

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In other words, marriage has always been one of the most solemn ceremonies. First, the man chooses the auspicious day of the zodiac, informs the woman's home in advance, and delivers the second half of the bride price to the woman's home. The day before the wedding, Fengcheng area: The bride's family sent the dowry to the man's family, commonly known as "moving the dowry". Dowry mainly includes living room or bedroom supplies, suitcases, jewelry and clothes. In the past, the rich also owned land and real estate. In the old society, in addition to the dowry, there were 1 hen tied with a red line, which was called "red line fetters". Relatives, friends and neighbors watched like a flood, and some even opened boxes to see the weight of dowry products. Poor parents have the most pressure on dowry, and some even borrow money to prepare dowry (except mistresses and remarriages). Men also entertain guests on this day, which is called a "noisy hall". Women's families in Huang Qi also hold banquets for their relatives on this day. All relatives give them clothes and cloth, which is called "adding boxes", and give money and Wei a "stuffed bag".

On the wedding day, the groom hired a sedan chair to pick up the bride at the woman's house. Brides are usually supported by bridesmaids. In the old society, men were superior to women. In some places, as soon as the sedan chair is carried out, it is splashed with water, which means that a married woman can't turn back. When the sedan chair arrived at the men's house, firecrackers exploded, drums and music were loud and lively. When the bride arrives at the man's house, the main ceremonies are: first, to worship the heavens and the earth; second, to worship the ancestors; third, to worship the husband and wife; and then to invite the elders out of the hall one by one, and then to give her a "meeting ceremony", and then to be guided into the bridal chamber by a "dragon candle". At the same time. The newlyweds propose a toast to the guests when they leave the table, and the elders introduce the names of relatives. On the wedding night after the banquet, the atmosphere in the bridal chamber was particularly warm, and relatives and friends gathered together. In addition to singing lyrics and chanting poems to wish the dam, young people are also ingenious, taking out some small programs for the bride and groom to perform funny, and some are cheering and laughing until late at night. According to the old custom, the bride's first return to her family is 10 day after marriage, which is called "turning ten days". Since then, this custom has gradually gone out of fashion. Most of them return to Lu 'an on the second day of their wedding, and the newlyweds return to Ningning Yuejia, commonly known as "returning to the carbine". The Yue family gave a banquet to entertain guests, and the groom visited his parents-in-law, relatives and elders, saluted and toasted, and accepted the meeting etiquette. Go home at night (some villages are not limited to visiting relatives the next day). During the Republic of China, we advocated the reform of marriage customs and the replacement of banquets by marriage newspapers. In particular, group weddings are very popular, and the county magistrate or official presides over the weddings, but most of them are carried out among urban intellectuals and government employees, and the old customs still dominate in rural areas.

New marriage custom

1950 "Marriage Law of the People's Republic of China": After its promulgation, the old customs of marriage have changed greatly, and monogamy is strictly implemented. Advocate marital autonomy, encourage men to go to the woman's house, allow widows to remarry, oppose arranged marriages, and prohibit bad habits such as bigamy, concubinage and child bride. The bride's sedan chair is almost extinct, and new weddings have become a common practice for some time. Most of them don't accept bride price or hold banquets. The leaders of male or female units preside over weddings, hold tea parties, introduce their love to newlyweds and share wedding candy with relatives and friends. The ceremony was simple and frugal. Collective marriages are also held in rural areas. After the founding of New China, there were watches, sewing machines, bicycles and so on. In the mid-1960s, there was a resurgence of bride price in rural areas. In the 1970s, late marriage was advocated, but marriage was actually very simple. Many young men and women in China have group and travel marriages. Since the 1980s, with the development of economy, the cost of marriage has become higher and higher, especially dowry, bridal decoration, big banquet, courtesy collection and comparison. Dowry is increasingly developed to refrigerators, televisions, washing machines, motorcycles, jewelry and even commercial houses, and luxury cars are also used for weddings.

Marriage custom of She nationality

In addition to women marrying men, the marriage form of She nationality is more common for men to go to the woman's house, commonly known as "holding children", with equal family status and property inheritance rights. The wedding ceremony is simple, and most customs are similar to those of the Han nationality. However, before girls get married, the special custom of "being a cousin" is popular. On the wedding day, the relatives of the man will send the bride to the man's auditorium, and the whole family will take refuge except the groom. Worship the kitchen god and the kitchen god first, and then worship heaven and earth. After marriage 10 days. The bride and groom go back to their parents' home with gifts to recognize relatives and sing songs.