Aunt Du Chun won't let RoyceWong apply essential oil, and Chen Songling won't let her mother-in-law do the dishes. What is the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law?

The problem of "mother-in-law and daughter-in-law" is still a difficult problem to mediate. The variety show "Mother-in-law" also shows everyone that stars are as distressed as ordinary people.

It seems natural that two unfamiliar women are brought together by a man, and there are contradictions because of this relationship.

However, judging from the situation of several star families in the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, this contradiction is not only the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law; And dealing with this problem, the husband's intervention is not a good way.

Different experiences and different ideas are the basic reasons for the contradiction.

Du Chun's wife has been pregnant for several months, and her pregnant belly looks quite big.

RoyceWong said that Du Chun looked around for ways to prevent stretch marks, and he did find a good way. So, we saw in the video that Du Chun was smearing RoyceWong.

It looks quite warm! In fact, Du Chun is not the first husband to do this for his pregnant wife.

Before, Du Jiang once said in the program that during Huo Siyan's pregnancy, he applied anti-wrinkle oil to her every morning and evening, and didn't even let go of her heel. Huo Siyan thought he was exaggerating, but Du Jiangshan said, I can't let you get a tattoo.

However, when Du Chun carefully daubed it, his aunt came out of the room, and when she saw this scene, she was impulsive in an instant. She asked anxiously, "Is this essential oil? No! "

Aunt's reaction is understandable, because there are many skin care essential oils, pregnant women can't use them. Essential oils, in particular, have strong permeability, and she is worried that it will have a bad influence on the fetus.

However, RoyceWong's response does not seem to be in this regard. She explained: "Be sure to use it, or it will grow."

Du Chun and RoyceWong couldn't subdue Xiao Yan, and Xiao Yan couldn't successfully stop their smearing, so she habitually picked up her mobile phone and reported to Du Chun's mother: "Sister, I feel very scared ..."

In the concept of the elderly, it is natural that pregnancy and childbirth will lead to long stretch marks; In addition, pregnant women can't use these things at will.

But in the eyes of young people, the skin looks so dark and ugly. Besides, people now have products they can handle, so why not use them?

Everyone has his own ideas and persistence, which leads to an impasse.

Du Chunjia's situation is the same as that of Chen Songling's mother-in-law, and she doesn't need detergent to wash dishes.

Chen Songling wouldn't let her mother-in-law do the dishes because she didn't want her mother-in-law to be too tired. In fact, it is because my mother-in-law thinks that the detergent is unsafe and uses facial cleanser every time, which leads to the dishes not being cleaned. Chen Songling and his wife had to clean them again.

Chen Songling's mother-in-law thinks the detergent is unsafe. But she forgot that today's food is much more greasy than before.

In fact, these are just small things in life, just because they are magnified at home. Everyone thinks what I said makes sense, and they all want each other to follow their own ideas. This contradiction arises.

"I do it for your own good", is this sentence particularly familiar?

As a mother-in-law, what bad intentions can you have for each other? Although we can't treat each other as daughters and mothers, we are still family and relatives.

Many times, everyone thinks that my views and practices are for the good of each other, but they are ignored. Maybe this is not what the other party wants.

As soon as Chen Songling's mother-in-law comes, she will give them a general cleaning, which is also a wish of the old man. But her habit made Chen Songling feel uncomfortable. In fact, I can understand that she used to be used to how comfortable her home was, and her mother-in-law became so strange when she was together.

It is also a filial piety for Chen Songling to buy clothes and bags for her mother-in-law. But if the mother-in-law doesn't want it or likes it, then don't force it.

But if everyone doesn't take a step back, from the daughter-in-law's point of view, why does she think my filial piety can't bear it? From my mother-in-law's point of view, I don't want any. Why force it?

For the sake of each other, this starting point is of course good. But how to be good to each other, but we should think from each other's point of view.

In several pairs of mother-in-law and daughter-in-law relationships in their real programs, the relationship between them is different.

Eva Huang and her mother-in-law, on the one hand, have a really big age gap; on the other hand, they have been married for many years, but in fact they get along very well, and often break up after a big dinner.

Aunt Du Chun has always been a young aunt, not a mother-in-law; The husbands of Lin Yueyun and Patty Hou are mother-in-law and son-in-law, but they are different.

As long as Chen Songling is closer to her mother-in-law and ordinary mother-in-law.

But perhaps, Alina Zhang's approach is more instructive.

Judging from the situation that Alina Zhang shared "holding hands" with her mother-in-law at the tea party, she did well in two aspects: one was to take the initiative to insist on the intermission, and the other was to take her husband out.

Between the daughter-in-law and the mother-in-law, there is the most important person, and that is the identity of the husband/son. When Chen Songling couldn't handle the problem, she asked Zhang Duo to handle it. But Alina Zhang, she insisted on dealing with it in her own way.

In fact, it is precisely because she does not take the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law so seriously that she will wisely take the initiative to adhere to the appropriate interval and deal with it in some seemingly unconventional ways.

She told me about the scene when I gave my mother-in-law a red envelope, especially when I had differences with my colleagues at work, and I used this way to ease the atmosphere after sticking to my own opinions.

Caring is confusing, often because there are too many emotional elements in it, and we can't handle it wisely.

Because they are the closest family members, they are often the most relaxed at home, so that some feelings are released without reservation. In fact, if we show an attitude towards our work partners, colleagues and even strangers, the relationship may be easier.

There is a saying called "Don't always leave your smile to outsiders and your bad temper to your family", which tells the true meaning of getting along with your family.

Therefore, don't take "mother-in-law" as the opposite of nature, they are just one of many family relationships.