Under depression-everything has cracks, which is the source of light.

Perhaps, sensitivity has become your brand, paranoia has deeply affected your life, and anxiety is making you lose hope, but I hope you can remember: everyone has cracks, that's where light comes in. Everyone alive deserves to be treated gently by the world.

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Regardless of nationality or status, more and more people suffer from depression.

British Prime Minister Churchill, star Leslie Cheung, artist Van Gogh … and ordinary people around him.

Depression can happen to anyone, even those who look happy.

It is estimated that one in every 15 adults suffers from depression, and one in every six people will experience depression at some stage in their lives.

In fact, the glamorous actors in our eyes may live like snails in their shells, occasionally sticking out their tentacles carefully, being touched, and then hiding back in panic.

However, if you shut yourself in a dark corner, people will be bad.

If "broken" people can no longer be understood, they will slide into an endless abyss of pain.

They are suffering in their hearts, but they still have to play a "normal person with stable emotions."

What we see is not necessarily true.

Depression is definitely not what we think of as melodramatic.

The causes of depression are very complicated, mainly divided into endogenous and exogenous.

Endogenous factors are caused by internal factors, such as family inheritance and brain structure.

Exogenous, caused by external environmental events, is the result of setbacks, unfortunate events in life, stress and other mental stimulation events.

However, the specific reasons are often difficult to distinguish even by psychotherapists, and are often formed by many factors.

To be sure, depression is not equal to weakness and affectation, and its psychological quality is not strong. It is a realistic psychological obstacle.

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In fact, there are many depression groups around us.

However, in life, there are many voices that stigmatize and marginalize people with depression. People regard people with depression as "heterogeneous", or exclude them, or disdain indifference.

Yao Ming has been diagnosed by the doctor, with a black and white diagnosis sheet in his hand.

But in some people's eyes, that piece of paper is just an excuse for patients to find their "fragile" psychological ability.

They think that depression is just a shield for patients to avoid their studies or work, and they are looking for a "just" reason for their laziness.

"You are pretending to be sick."

"It's just melodramatic. What's the big deal about this little thing? "

"The psychological endurance is too bad."

These harsh words may be the last straw to crush them.

At the same time, there is another group of people who use depression as a means to declare that they are "different".

It seems that I have depression, which is something to show off.

In their eyes, depression is not a disease that needs professional treatment, but a deep depression.

If you open Zhihu and search for "can depression be faked", you will see countless related questions:

They regard depression as a "tool", which also dispels the horror of depression.

Because of this, most people in society always hold a skeptical and critical attitude towards this group and cannot really understand and sympathize with them.

Because of this, depression can never be faced squarely, and people with depression always have a sense of shame.

They are afraid of publicity, even more afraid of admitting that they have been diagnosed with depression, and have to wonder if they are "pretending to be sick".

They vacillate in self-doubt and become the victims of alienation.

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Is depression really far away from us?

No, depression is not a small probability event, let alone a distant cry.

It really happened to us, to people we didn't expect.

My former colleague is a thin girl.

She likes persimmons very much, and she also likes to dress herself in the color of Huang Chengcheng in autumn.

"Persimmon persimmon!" We all call her that.

Persimmons wear delicate makeup at two o'clock and one line every day, which is no different from every young girl.

Until one day, a group of us were eating in a barbecue restaurant, and persimmon suddenly asked:

"If I say I have depression, do you believe it?"

Words just say that finish, and persimmon relationship best Alfred ha ha laugh:

"What ah, you won't because the meeting this afternoon was scolded by the boss, training out of depression? ! "

Ah Fu finished, and everyone couldn't help laughing. No one really cares about "persimmon has depression".

Who will really believe that a careless and energetic person will get depression?

Sometimes, we joke about the "depression" of persimmon.

Every time she just smiled and said nothing.

But gradually, we found that there were more and more medicine cans piled up on the persimmon table, and she had to rely on a lot of drugs to maintain it.

If the intake is not enough or timely, persimmon will have obvious somatization symptoms:

Squatting in the corner, it seems that all her energy has been taken away, and she is powerless and helpless. People can't even hear her name.

Later, we never saw persimmons again.

She didn't come to work

I learned from her family that one night, she chose to end her life.

In the last few lines left to the world, persimmon wrote:

"I chose to commit suicide, and it was not life that ended. I really can't stand the accumulated pain any longer. If there is not a day in my life, why should I wait for hope? "

Perhaps life is really an unbearable burden for persimmons.

After the persimmon left, we knew for the first time:

It turns out that depression is really not an affectation when you are depressed.

It will really take away a fresh life easily.

And ridicule and indifference are the evil hands that push them down the abyss of death.

Unfortunately, when it really happens around us, most people are always aware of its horror and indifference.

It is cruel to accept a "course of treatment" at the expense of a fresh life.

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I don't know if you have learned more about depression after reading this.

Here, I want to show you a few more sets of data:

Today, there are more than 350 million people with depression in the world. As of 20 19, the number of people with pan-depression in China has exceeded 95 million.

If you search related topics online, you will find:

Sina Weibo has read 450 million topics related to depression; Baidu's "depression" related posts reached 27 million; The word "depression" under the topic of Zhihu has attracted 820,000 people.

By 2020, depression will become the second largest disease in human beings after cancer, and about 1 10,000 people commit suicide due to depression every year.

These shocking figures warn each of us:

Don't despise depression, don't marginalize and stigmatize it, and don't ignore its seriousness.

Therefore, once you find that you may have a tendency to depression, you must pay attention to it.

You can search for "SDS self-rating depression scale" on the internet first and test it yourself.

At present, SDS is widely used in rough screening, emotional state evaluation and investigation of outpatients.

But it can only be used as a preliminary prediction of self-emotional state, not as a diagnosis result.

If the self-test result is not optimistic, you must seek medical advice in time, and the doctor's final diagnosis is the most authoritative result.

Don't worry that being diagnosed with depression is "different". The sooner you treat it, the sooner you can get rid of it.

At the same time, we must realize that:

Treating depression is a process of facing yourself. We can't rely entirely on outside help. Besides following the doctor's advice and taking medicine on time, self-healing is also very important.

Try to stay positive. It doesn't matter if you can't do it right away or for a long time. As long as you can find something that makes you feel better, go find it quickly.

In addition, if someone around you suffers from depression, please take all their confidences seriously.

"Don't suffer others, don't persuade others to be good."

So should people with depression. We have not experienced their pain, so don't persuade them to "relax" easily.

What we need to do is to be a good listener and help them gently and kindly.

Finally, Yin Yin wants to say:

If you are experiencing unbearable pain, please don't give up easily.

You have to believe that no one in this world is completely lonely, and there will be a helping hand at some point.

If someone around you asks you for help, please respond to their call.

Every little kindness you do will be a ray of sunshine to save them.