Jiangyin Ting Yun engagement marriage custom?

In the old society, the marriage between men and women in Jiangyin was the life of parents, but I couldn't make my own decisions. Marriage has the so-called "six rites", and the procedure is extremely complicated:

Na Cai: The male media proposed to the female, the female promised to propose, and the male prepared a gift to propose. Ask the name: the man asks the matchmaker to ask the woman's name and date of birth, which is called "asking the eight characters". The woman agrees, that is, asking the matchmaker to give the man a "Geng Tie" (the zodiac sign at the date of birth), which is called "giving the mouth". Najib: The man put his voice in the Kitchen God Hall, and his home will be safe within three days, and then ask the fortune teller to do the math. If the two sides are not in a hurry, he will choose a date to get engaged. "betrothal" is not limited to age, there are children, teenagers, even in the mother's belly, the so-called "refers to the belly for marriage." Marrying relatives: The man writes the names of three generations of grandparents and grandchildren on the "Geng Tie" and presents it to the woman in the wedding gift box together with the bride price (gold and silver jewelry, clothes). Swap the "three generations of big stickers" and the marriage will be settled. Date of invitation: Before the wedding, the man chooses an auspicious day, writes it in red paper, and prepares a "sticker" (gift money), asking the matchmaker to give the "Japanese book" to the woman. Usually after the third delivery, the woman will accept it. After the wedding date is fixed, give her a gift called "big money" according to the woman's request in case she buys a dowry. Wedding ceremony: On the wedding day, the groom gets married in person, the man prepares a sedan chair for the wedding, and the woman prepares a dowry for the wedding. The two sides prepared a banquet to entertain relatives and friends. Please ask "Quanfu people" (women whose husband and wife both have children) to make a new bed called "greenhouse". There should be two lanterns with the man's surname as the name of the hall, with the "Wang basin" as the leader. When a new son-in-law comes to the door, there is another bad rule. You have to "open the door to reward" to let him in. "The sedan chair went to the door and cost half a cow." When entering the door, parents should invite their daughter to dinner, and her daughter must eat some leftovers for good luck. Before getting on the sedan chair, change clothes and wash your face, and cry goodbye to your parents. When the sedan chair gets up, the bride's family pours water for the bride to freshen up, which means "splashing water after marrying a daughter", and the bride's family will leave it alone. The man will send someone to wait for the sedan chair halfway, and when he sees it, he will fire a gun to welcome him. The sedan chair stopped at the man's door, lit fireworks and had a reunion in the firecrackers. With the help of her mother-in-law, the bride stepped on a cloth bag (symbolizing family blood) and rice firewood (symbolizing gold bars) and entered the door of her mother-in-law's house. Then, the bride and groom should worship heaven and earth, their parents and even each other, which is collectively called "meeting the bride". Holding red and green sweat towels, a pair of boys and girls holding red candles led them into the new house. The groom holds the square towel on the bride's head with the weight to show "satisfaction", and the husband and wife get married and drink a glass of wine. Then entertain guests and build new houses. After the guests leave, the whole family will have a "family reunion", and the bride will leave the food on the table. This is called "leaving rice for hoarding". After that, the couple ate jujube longan (symbolizing the early birth of your son), lotus nut walnut (symbolizing the happiness of heart to heart) and five eggs (symbolizing the graduation of five sons) in the new house. The next morning, the bride was introduced to her parents by her mother-in-law The bride gives tea to the elders, and the elders give them red envelopes. On the third day after the wedding, the groom brings gifts to accompany the bride back to her mother's house. This is called "double doors", and the woman gives a banquet to entertain guests. The new son-in-law called on the woman's elders and received "meeting money". The woman made cakes and steamed buns, packed them in boxes and brought them back to her husband's house to be friends that day. After the Revolution of 1911, the feudal marriage system and the red tape of the wedding, which were characterized by the man bearing the cost of the woman, were impacted by progressive intellectuals who advocated free love and civilized marriage. The bride and groom are accompanied by the best man for the wedding. Both parents and references were present, and local celebrities were invited to witness the wedding. The ceremony included playing music, singing, witnesses reading marriage certificates, couples bowing to each other, printing marriage certificates and exchanging decorations. The officiator, introducer, newlyweds and guests spoke to express congratulations and encouragement, and the newlyweds also expressed their gratitude. The ceremony was warm and grand, but it did not change much in the countryside.