The contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is prominent, will it affect marriage?

Marriage is like a drama, there are always many emotional episodes, not only love has stood the test, but also parent-child relationship and mother-in-law relationship.

Both husband-wife relationship and parent-child relationship have love or blood relationship, and some things can always be attributed to minor problems. But the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is not maintained by love and blood. In the face of contradictions, it will only intensify.

The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is like an inconspicuous lever. If it is not well managed, it is easy to shake the marriage sometimes. If the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is not handled well, the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law will also rise to the contradiction between husband and wife, which will affect marriage.

The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law will affect the mode of getting along with husband and wife and the happiness index of marriage.

Managing the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is also particularly important in marriage. The disharmony between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law will destroy the happiness between husband and wife, while a good relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law can also promote the feelings between husband and wife.

Managing the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law depends on the joint efforts of three people, mutual respect and understanding, and sincere communication. The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is a mirror in marriage, which shows the extent to which men love women.

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Women enter marriage because of love, and also have children for men because of love. But in marriage, love is not as beautiful and invincible as women think.

My reader Chen Lan told me a story about her marriage. Chen Lan married her husband Zhan Hao at the age of 24. At that time, Chen Lan thought that if she married love, everything in the future would be bright. But happiness is always so short, and love is so fragile.

The story begins with Chen Lan giving birth to two daughters. When Chen Lan gave birth to a second child, her mother-in-law always paid attention to her daughter-in-law's eating habits and which foot to take when entering the door, so as to judge whether her daughter-in-law was pregnant with a boy or a girl.

Chen Lan was pregnant with a second child, and her mother-in-law deliberately went to a fortune teller to calculate. When her mother-in-law came back, she happily said to Chen Lan and her husband, "The fortune teller said that her daughter-in-law must be pregnant with a big fat boy."

The husband was also very happy when he heard this. Only Chen Lan can't be happy, because what her mother-in-law believes is groundless. Looking at her husband's family, who are so eager to have a son, Chen Lan is under great pressure.

Later, my mother-in-law was disappointed to see her daughter-in-law give birth to another daughter. She also said to Chen Lan, "It looks like a boy, but how can it be a girl?" . I told my son long ago not to marry such a woman and go home. At first glance, he just can't have grandchildren. "

When Chen Lan was confined for the first time, her mother-in-law took care of her reluctantly, and even chanted to her several times a day: "Daughter-in-law, you have to promise me that you will have a second child in one year.

During Chen Lan's second confinement, her mother-in-law always pretended to be ill and didn't take good care of Chen Lan's confinement. She said, "I gave birth to two girl films for our Zhan family, and you still want me to wait on you."

She always knew that her mother-in-law was "patriarchal", but she didn't want her husband to let her mother-in-law make trouble. Her husband also said to her: "You can't have a son to make my mother happy, which is unfilial. If she is in poor health, you have to take good care of her. "

Chen Lan's delivery only lasted 10 days, and her mother-in-law is urging her husband to have three children, or divorce Chen Lan and marry a woman who will have a boy. In order to persuade her husband, the mother-in-law simply packed her bags and went back to her hometown.

In the second month, Chen Lan not only had to take care of her two daughters, but also took care of the family. Chen Lan asked her husband to take her mother-in-law home, but he lost his temper with her. Finally, Chen Lan had to call his mother and ask her to take care of him.

With her mother-in-law's noise and her husband's connivance, Chen Lan thoroughly saw through this marriage and her husband's family. Some love is as fragile as an eggshell. Finally, Chen Lan put forward a cold divorce.

Chen Lan gave birth to two daughters, and her husband's family preferred sons to daughters. The injustice suffered during her imprisonment led to her divorce.

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After Chen Lan and Zhan Hao divorced, they took their two daughters back to their parents' home. In order to support her two daughters, Chen Lan had to leave them in the care of her mother, and then she found a job and worked hard to make money.

Sixteen years later, the eldest daughter was eighteen and the youngest daughter was sixteen. Chen Lan never dreamed that her former mother-in-law would come to see her.

My mother-in-law pretended to be sad and said to Chen Lan, "Daughter-in-law, my son passed away. Now, you and your daughter are eligible to go home. It used to be mom's fault, but you have the final say in the future. "

Chen Lan was shocked by the news of her ex-husband's death, but she found her mother-in-law even more ridiculous. At first, I didn't like her and her children. Now that my son has passed away, I think of my two granddaughters who have grown up.

Chen Lan said, "These two daughters have nothing to do with your Zhan family. When your son and I divorced, our two daughters got the consent of their ex-husbands and changed their surnames to mine. In recent years, I have been making money for my children to study, and I have worked hard to raise my children. I won't let you take my children, and I don't want to go back to that home. It will never be my home. "

The mother-in-law refused to give up and said, "The blood of our Zhan family is flowing in the child's body. Besides, they have grown up, and they have the right to choose. They should be allowed to choose for themselves. "

Both daughters are very sensible and have always understood their mother's hard work. In order to support them, neither mother remarried and grandma was too tired to take care of them.

When Chen Lan asked her daughter if she wanted to live with her grandmother, both daughters looked at their strange grandmother in front of them and said to their mother, "I only have my grandmother, but I don't have one. I will always live with my mother and grandmother. "

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I feel sorry for Chen Lan's unhappy marriage. Fortunately, it's all over. Chen Lan told me that now, she has two daughters to accompany her.

I am deeply touched by Chen Lan's marriage story.

Whether a mother-in-law has a good attitude towards her daughter-in-law depends not only on her mother-in-law's acceptance, but also on men. Whether the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law can be alleviated depends on her husband's attitude.

In the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, the mother-in-law is unwilling to take care of Chen Lan's second month, as well as chanting. In fact, it is partly because of Zhan Jie's connivance and acquiescence.

Zhan Jie didn't love Chen Lan enough and protect Chen Lan enough, which made her mother-in-law more unscrupulous. When her mother-in-law was in trouble, Zhan Jie even said to Chen Lan, "You can't have a son to make my mother happy, that's unfilial. If she is in poor health, you have to take good care of her. "

Instead of defending his wife, the husband stood by his mother and made Chen Lan suffer injustice in marriage and imprisonment. Finally, the marriage broke down and ended in divorce.

It seems to be just a contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. In fact, it is more from men's indifference and love for their wives.

Mother-in-law can't help her daughter-in-law when she needs help, and her daughter-in-law is even more reluctant to take her children back to her husband's house after divorce. Only women who are deeply hurt will change their children's surnames in divorce. In fact, she wants to get rid of her ex-husband and in-laws completely and let herself and her children have nothing to do with them.

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Marriage should carry the aura of love, go all the way forward, and be full of an infinitely beautiful life. However, the loveless marriage is gradually crushed by trivial life.

The management of the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law actually depends in part on men. A man loves his wife and defends his wife in the face of the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. When a mother-in-law sees her daughter-in-law's position in her son's mind, she will take care of her son's feelings and accept her daughter-in-law.

Marriage is like a machine, which needs to be maintained by both men and women.

When a man maintains his marriage and wife, he is actually managing the mother-in-law relationship between his wife and his mother. In marriage, a man's attitude determines a woman's happiness in marriage.

Women are the most vulnerable when they are in confinement, and they are also the most eager to get care and love. A woman can best see a man's love for her and her mother-in-law when she is in confinement.

Women's grievances in the second month will make women see through marriage and fragile love, and even choose divorce because of chilling.

When a man maintains his marriage and gives a woman enough love and care during her confinement, she will have more courage to go on with him. Or you'll break a woman's heart. When divorcing, all women can think about is how to get rid of the relationship with men and in-laws.

Marriage is not easy, love is fate, so cherish it!