Sammi Cheng's father died: The most painful thing for middle-aged people is to cry when they lose their parents.

Many people say that when people live to a certain age, they will look down on life and death. But I think the real pessimism is not just to stop being afraid and accept all changes calmly, but to learn to cherish the present and cherish every day of life.

It is human nature to be born, sick and dead, and we all have to face it; No one can avoid where you will go, so we always tell others that we are sorry for your loss, or: the dead are like this, but the living are strong.

Everyone understands these truths, but once they really fall on themselves, they may not be so open-minded None of us want to experience this kind of pain, but we have to. Therefore, the best attitude is to cherish the present person and accompany him as much as possible, so that the other person or himself will have less regrets.

On February 20th, 2020, at 65438, singer Sammi Cheng took a photo with his father on the social platform, saying that his father had passed away last month. In the past more than a month, my brother and I have been quietly preparing for my father's funeral, comforting my mother and taking care of her.

She wrote: My mind has been haunted by my father's figure, wrapped in ruthless and endless thoughts. Although very sad, but also helpless, my father is no longer suffering from illness, can rest in peace.

She also said that her mother was stronger than she thought and lost her wife who had been with her for decades. She is also sad and disappointed, but because of her faith, she has become extremely strong.

Seeing this news, netizens have said: It's too sudden. I hope I'm sorry for your loss.

Yes, many things in life are very sudden, and life will not suddenly give us a heavy blow when we are ready, so in the face of sudden injuries, the most important thing is to stabilize our emotions.

I don't know why. Looking at Sammi Cheng's words, I have an impulse to cry. Although she didn't show too much collapse and negative emotions in her speech, I was still wrapped in a great sadness. The thought that my relatives around me will leave one day makes me feel desperate and have nowhere to hide.

But in any case, we should control our emotions and try to restore our calmness. Instead of worrying about things that have not happened, it is better to cherish every day now, which is the best fulfillment for yourself.

I feel really helpless. When people reach middle age, the most painful thing is to lose their parents. There is a saying: when parents are here, there is still a place to go in life. When parents are gone, there is only a way home in life.

No matter how old we are, as long as our parents are around, we can live like children. Parents are watching from behind. Their eyes are the driving force of our efforts and the source of our sense of security.

But if our parents are gone, we will lose this psychological dependence. We can no longer be willful, but we should try our best to be a role model for our children like parents.

If parents are our shelter, then when parents leave, we are our own shelter for our children.

Sammi Cheng was born in 1972 and is 48 years old. Once upon a time, she was Bai Yueguang in many people's minds. Since 1988 debuted in the rookie singing contest, the global record sales have reached 25 million, and the music works have won numerous awards, which is known as the cross-century queen of Chinese music.

Sammi Cheng not only has great influence in the music industry, but also has a place in the film industry. Many of her TV dramas have become classics, such as Blind Detective, Temporary Cohabitation and Prenuptial Contract.

Many people say that Sammi Cheng is the memory of a generation, and many post-90s people have special feelings for her. She represents an era and grows with us all the way.

However, time has never been kind to us. Today in 2020, the oldest post-90s generation is over 30 years old, and Sammi Cheng, born in 1972, is 48 years old.

In the face of his father's death, Sammi Cheng set a good example for us, although he collapsed, felt sad and gave up. It took her more than a month to adjust her body, mind and state, and then she accepted it frankly and went on with her father's love and blessing.

It is also her attitude that reminds us that everyone has to leave one day. In the face of this parting, what we should do most is not to sink into grief, but to move forward better with the wishes of the deceased.

As long as you have faith in your heart, love will not go out. Even if yin and yang are separated, they can still watch each other. As Sammi Cheng said: My father is gone, but his love will be with me. Looking at my dad in the photo, I miss him with a smile. Miss him is also a kind of happiness, because we have each other's happiness.

When I look up at the sky, among the infinite stars, I always feel that my father is among them. The stars twinkle, just like my father winks at me and tells me: Tianjia is so beautiful, daughter, you should live well, keep working hard and make continuous progress.

Some time ago, I have been reading The Three of us, a collection of essays written by Mr. Jiang Yang. For a while, I couldn't help crying, because I read the story of the death of her husband Qian Zhongshu and her daughter Qian Yuan.

Mr. Jiang Yang died at the age of 65,438+005, and her husband Qian Zhongshu died at the age of 88. That is to say, after her husband and daughter died one after another, she spent 18 years alone. When writing about the three of us, she stood aside and recalled the life of a family of three.

I miss the time when we were alone. This is the most tearful sentence in this book. It is hard to imagine how much grief an old man in his late nineties will bear in the face of the successive deaths of his husband and daughter.

But it's not her pattern to fall into sadness. Although she later said that she was desperate and wanted to go with them, she let herself out later.

She began to study philosophy, and Pedro was in Plato's memoirs, and she firmly believed that the soul could not die.

She feels that her husband and daughter have never left, but exist in a different way. Everything she did, they were watching. She lives alone with the dreams of three people. Only by living well and being as happy as possible can they truly feel at ease.

Sammi Cheng said that he would continue to work hard and make continuous progress with his father's blessing; Jiang Yang said that he missed three people alone and lived with their dreams.

They are undoubtedly our role models. Let's face where you are going and be as open as possible. Perhaps the best way to miss the dead is not to be sad blindly, but to fulfill their wishes and move on better.

When people reach middle age, the greatest pain is losing their parents, but it is inevitable and will be faced sooner or later. If possible, I hope that day will come later, and I hope that we can give them as much care and companionship as possible while they are still alive. Only in this way can we make life less regrettable.

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