About the eight-character marriage-do couples watch the fire and water in Jin Mu in a year, or on their respective Sundays?

Marriage is one of the important contents of traditional eight-character prediction, which has a very wide influence. Nowadays, people who ask for marriage meet from time to time. Can marriage be combined? If so, how? To understand this problem, I am afraid we must first understand what marriage is. Marriage is to put the eight characters of two men and women together and let the forecaster see how their marriage quality is and whether they can grow old together. This "combination" is for forecasters, a forecast, not a "manufacturing". However, in the common people's minds, there is a misunderstanding on this fundamental issue: they mistakenly believe that a happy marriage can be "made" by the combination of forecasters.

There were several ways of marriage in ancient times: one was the method of gods and evil spirits, which was the so-called combination of gods and evil spirits according to the fate of eight characters. In the eight characters of male life, there is a god who is a wife, and women cannot marry; There is a certain Shakefu in a woman's eight characters, and a man can't marry her. This marriage law has basically disappeared except in a few rural areas. The second is the zodiac method, which is based on the relationship between men and women. It is said that the marriage of men and women for many years cannot be hurt, urged or punished. Third, the annual column method, that is, using the relationship between the two words of the annual column to see whether a man's marriage is auspicious. Nianzhu and marriage are in harmony, auspicious and fierce. The fourth is to use the divine method. The marriage of mutual help between men and women is good with God, and mutual help is evil. This is fate.

Combined with forecasting practice, these methods must be resolutely abandoned. In short, it's useless and harmful! Whether those eight characters can be married or not. I think it's ok to call it marriage, but we need to change the connotation. Getting married is by no means to say that someone's marriage is unlucky. Ask the predictor to get married, and it will become lucky. No forecaster in the world has such superb skills. The combination is a forecast, not a "manufacturing". If someone does ask the predictor to get married, and the marriage is really good, it is his or her marriage, not the result of marriage. If you want to change your destiny, what you can do now can only increase or decrease people's good or bad luck in a limited way. It's impossible. So how do we get married when we usually predict? My experience is based on the following principles:

1. Look at the horoscope of two people. As long as their horoscope and year luck show auspicious information in their marriage, their marriage is definitely good. You can bet that they are a good marriage.

2. If the marriage information displayed by both men and women is fierce, they can no longer solve their own marriage disaster. The purpose of marriage is not to divorce. China people pay attention to growing old together. So what should we do? There are several situations here: two young people come to get married, and their feelings are inseparable, but according to fate, they want to divorce at the age of 40. What shall we do? You can't persuade them not to get married or get married after 40. At most, tell them that they have emotional turmoil after the age of 40, and then pay attention. If two young people come to get married and see that they are going to get divorced, we might as well persuade them to get married in the worst year, or we can make it clear. As for what others do, that's their business. It's good that the forecaster can do this.

In the prediction, I often meet the question: Can I marry him (her)? Am I related to her (him)? In fact, no forecaster can tell from the eight characters whether the person represented by the eight characters is married to Zhang San or Li Si. At most, you can talk about some characteristics of each other. If you encounter such a problem, you can use whether the two eight-character marriage information are synchronized. If two people have a good year and a bad year, and their feelings are good, it is naturally destined. If the information is very inconsistent, there is absolutely no chance And having an affair. We should also judge according to this principle.

Zodiac marriage method

The law holds that a man and a woman should not get married if they punish, hurt and conflict each other in the birth year, but if they are born together, they should get married. If ugliness is punished, ugly people are not suitable to marry people born in ugly years; If children don't hurt each other, children born that year should not marry people born that year; Meridians collide with each other, so children should not marry people born at noon; Yin and the sea are in harmony, and those born in Yin should marry those born in the sea. This method is obviously one-sided, rough and inadequate. It simply starts from the annual support of the four pillars of both sides and ignores the overall cooperation of their destiny.

Magic marriage law

This method is represented by the marriage law of ghosts and gods in Lv Cai in the Tang Dynasty, and marriage is based on ghosts and gods of both men and women. This law has long been controversial in the field of life science. Zhang Nan in the Ming Dynasty, in particular, refuted his pain and said, "Only the number of men and women's lives is called marriage, which brings out the best in each other. It is absurd to take Dr. Tiancai as the first marriage, the wandering soul as the middle marriage, and the five ghosts and fugitives as the next marriage. Encore men and women only live for two years, who can talk about marriage? If there is a reason, then all the people who discuss marriage in the world choose the first and second marriage, and choose the next one to give up. The method is simple and easy, and is suitable for all widowed women and widowed men. Honey, why are there orphan frost patients in the future? Although it was decided in ancient times, it was also due to the uncertainty of marriage negotiators. However, the ceremony of marriage and the end of human nature cannot be sloppy. What is the reason? But looking at men's lives, which are on a par with each other and rob money, we must choose the life of a woman who is injured and the life of a woman who eats heavily. If a woman's life hurts an official and eats too much, she should choose a man's life to match her shoulders and rob her of her money. How can this excellent marriage have Lv Cai's theory that three marriages have no roots and one's marriage has no foundation? Lv Cai's fallacy is not convincing enough. "But a rebuttal is a rebuttal. Today, there are still some people who criticize the method of Shandong cuisine, and there is still some accuracy in some aspects, which shows that this method is more or less worth studying. Although there is some truth in Zhang Nan's method of matching food with injuries, it is too simple and rough, and needs to be supplemented and improved.

Other methods

1. The stems and branches of the annual column or solar column on both sides should be matched (it should be healthy and harmonious, and should not be rushed).

2. Husband and wife star match (positive wealth with officials, partial wealth with seven kills)

3. Age and life matching (listening to each other is appropriate).

Both methods have some advantages, but they are not perfect. It is precisely because of the defects of the above marriage rules, coupled with the limitation of the technical level of those who approve marriage, couples who are not suitable for cooperation are often tied together, while couples who are suitable for marriage are ruthlessly separated. The tragedy caused by the wrong marriage will follow the fate of the Lord through the painful marriage journey. How can it be a joke?

Perfect marriage method

The purpose of marriage is to make both parties as lucky as possible to avoid misfortune and improve their marital fortune to the greatest extent. To achieve this goal, we must rely on reasonable marriage methods. As mentioned above, the essence of marriage is the intimate combination of the five elements of men and women. In order to make marriage have a good numerology effect, it is necessary to make this combination of the five elements of the human body beneficial to both sides. The five elements of qi are invisible and intangible. How can we judge whether it is beneficial or harmful? This can only be analyzed from the overall situation of the fate of both sides. From the perspective of numerology, marriage should try to meet the following standards:

(a), after the fate of the two sides, it will not hurt the other side in the fate of the other side.

(2) One party's life is best to avoid immortals and become the favorite immortals of the other party's life; Second best, envy of one's fate can be restrained by the fate of the other.

(3) The power of the favorite god in one side's life is insufficient, while the five elements in the other side's life can just benefit it.

(4) After the fate of both parties is combined, they will not harm each other's original wealth and longevity.

(5) After the fate of both parties is combined, the original actress who does not hurt each other.

(6) The transportation of both sides should complement each other.

(7) The two sides do not seek the same personality, but seek mutual communication.

(8) The age and life span of both parties can basically match, avoiding the tragedy of middle-aged widowed.

The above eight items can be inferred from the fate bureau, which is a marriage in the sense of numerology. Of course, other numerology factors should also be considered in the marriage between men and women. Such as ethics, folk customs, laws and regulations, emotional foundation and so on. (These belong to the research scope of sociologists and are not the focus of this article. )

In today's society, most marriages are independent and free, and most marriages sprout from the love between men and women. Love is a prelude to marriage. Different people have different views on love and marriage, but generally speaking, most of them are considered from the aspects of feelings, lust, material desires and customs, and few people consider the reasonable degree of marriage from the perspective of numerology. Inviting people to get married, the feelings of both sides have matured and they have the will to combine with each other. I'm afraid this time is not the best time to get married, because if numerology thinks it is suitable for marriage, it is happiness; If numerology thinks that it is not suitable for marriage, the two sides will fall into the contradiction between emotion and numerology-reluctant to break up, afraid of bringing misfortune; Lovers in love are often desperate for love, even if it is reasonable numerology advice, they will ignore it. Violation of the Five Elements Law will inevitably be punished by the Five Elements Law. Such a couple, no matter how deep their feelings are, can't escape the tragic ending. Therefore, it is best for both parties to seek the appropriate answer from numerology through the marriage at the time of first love. The purpose and function of marriage is to use the law of fate to avoid misfortune and improve the fortune of marriage. The choice of numerology and love are sometimes out of sync. You can't have your cake and eat it. How to choose depends on the decision of the parties themselves. In this sense, marriage is in our own hands to some extent.

The dilemma of eight-character marriage

At present, because the eight-character marriage has also brought many problems, it has fallen into a dilemma. There are four situations:

The first case:

The parents of the other party found it inappropriate and resolutely disagreed with their children marrying their relatives.

The second case:

Parents find it inappropriate and resolutely disapprove of their children marrying the people they love.

The third situation:

After eight characters, both men and women don't agree that their children will marry their beloved.

The fourth situation:

The parties themselves have a certain knowledge of numerology (in fact, they only have a half-knowledge of the zodiac), and when they see someone with Xiang Chong's life, they directly refuse.

In other words, the first three situations are more, and the fourth situation is relatively less.

Poor people carry on the family line, and parents have worked hard to raise their children, hoping that their children can have a happy marriage. This kind of mood definitely deserves respect and understanding. But children will suffer, especially in the case of misjudging the eight-character stick to hit Yuanyang. It's unfair that two people have a good relationship and break up just because their parents care about the incompatibility between the two zodiac signs.

In the first case, the refusal of Party A's parents is undoubtedly correct. In fact, even if parents don't object, the two sides will not be together for other reasons.

Note that there is a paradox or an infinite loop: eight characters or fate doomed two people to be unsuitable for marriage. After reading Party B's eight characters, Party A found that both parties were unsuitable for marriage, and then refused to get married. In this way, this refusal just proves or fulfills the fate of the eight characters. Is it a little roundabout? In this case, it is difficult to distinguish who is responsible and who is responsible, but it is certain that it is impossible for these two kinds of people to get married in nine cases out of ten, unless one of them has divorced and other special circumstances.

In the second case, Party A's parents reject Party B, which is unfair to Party B. Think about it: your own children are doomed to divorce, and nine times out of ten they will find another person who wants to divorce. Do you have any reason to refuse or dislike each other? But many parents don't understand this truth (that is, a character who wants to divorce will find another person who wants to divorce)

For the fourth case, I think it is understandable. In order to avoid future troubles (such as parents' opposition), it is even worth promoting.

Although many parents, including some fortune tellers, simply get married according to the zodiac, although this method of getting married by using the zodiac is not comprehensive, and sometimes it is even misjudged as "manslaughter", although people born with Xiao Chongke may not have problems when they get married (but they are more likely to have problems, especially middle-aged and elderly people), if this collision can be avoided from the beginning, why not? ?

Unless you two really fall in love at first sight, you must swear to each other; Or your parents are very open-minded and don't care about this; Or your personality (including financial ability, etc. ) Independent enough to successfully convince your parents or get rid of their influence. When two people first came into contact, there was no deep friendship. At this time, it is better to pull back from the cliff than to stop the marriage by the bitter opposition of parents or by breaking off the relationship or threatening death.

On the rationality of "eight-character marriage" from the prediction of Zhouyi

"Eight-character marriage" belongs to the category predicted by China Zhouyi. China's prediction research has a wide range of objects, including the prediction of celestial motion and its laws. For example, in 1933, western astronomers discovered Pluto, which proved the accuracy of China's "Nine Planets Theory"; It also includes the budget and measurement of geographical space, which is confirmed by a large number of map data of Qin and Han dynasties excavated by archaeology and the architectural geomantic omen of Yin and Yang Mansions circulated by the people so far. In addition, the prediction of "national luck" is often a hot spot for the DPRK and the DPRK seekers, and few people care about it. What has a broad mass base is the "fate" of life, which is the main content of this study. Based on the grasp of fate, focusing on family and marriage, this is the "eight-character marriage" in China's traditional marriage prediction method. The objects of prediction are past, present and future, familiar or unfamiliar, men and women with gender differences, people of different ages and birth regions. Of course, the forecast targets are mainly China people and social groups in Korean, Japanese and Southeast Asian Han cultural circles.

According to the corresponding relationship between Yin-Yang, Five Elements and heavenly stems and earthly branches, the life numerology operation foundation of the trinity of heaven, earth and man is mapped. On the basic point between the congenital number of "pregnant in October" and the fate of "born the day after tomorrow", the life numerology pattern and running track in a specific time and space are determined. Combined with the evolution of time and space, we can verify and predict the wealth, poverty, likes and dislikes, gains and losses of fate. The four pillars and their basic numerology patterns have many changes in the equation formed on the basis of Ziping method: the year, month, day and time of birth are calculated by heavenly stems and earthly branches's "Sixty Flowers and Jiazi", and the four pillars have eight characters, so this is the origin of being called "Eight Characters"; There are twelve months in a year, more than thirty days in a month and twelve hours in a day. In addition, if you push it carefully, there are eight hours in an hour. According to the permutation and combination method, there are generally more than 500 thousand basic numerology models. The pattern with "wealth", "official" and "seal" is called "positive pattern", and the pattern without it is called "abnormal pattern". Only the sun column is dominant, and when combined with the other three columns, there is a change of 654.38+029,600; Coupled with the geographical location of the place of birth and the variables of the year, month, day and time when forecasting, there will be more than 654.38+0.4 billion different forms of symbol changes in people's life; And considering the fate of "big Sunday" and "small Sunday", it is really several universes. If we really understand and grasp the structure and laws of the complex combination of these symbols "genes" and understand the contradictory relationship between them, it will not only be a game to predict the fate of life, but a multi-dimensional three-dimensional world beyond the two-dimensional space change of Go. Imagine what will happen to the composition of a family, a group and the whole society? From this, we can see that there are three flavors in the profound understanding of Yi-ology: endless exploration, scientific understanding and theoretical simplification, namely, the ease of "change", the ease of "difficulty" and the ease of "simplification". Therefore, it is very appropriate to call it "cosmic algebra".

"Eight-character marriage" is only one aspect of China's prediction; It's just one of many ways to get married. There are several versions of specific forecasting methods and basic contents. Xu Chaochao, a tutor of eight-character numerology in China, once analyzed this problem in several levels: firstly, "four pillars represent life", and according to the heavenly stems and earthly branches number of year, month, day and hour, he found that the hidden figure in the pier represented "three talents" and observed the ups and downs of its five elements. Combined with the inference of fetal elements and fetal interests, we can know that "the core monument of life" is probably; Then "push the Universiade", according to the birth year of men and women, determine the order of months, and then calculate the lucky year according to the seasonal change; Secondly, combined with the "fleeting time", for the sake of gain and loss, the trajectory of life has changed; In addition, the basic principles and theorems such as "Six Parents Rise and Fall", "XiShen Cluster", "Dialectics of Evil and Evil", "Life Pattern" and "Numerology Poetry" together form a complete and ever-changing method system according to specific conditions. Xu Chaochao divided heaven, earth and human beings into three systems, namely, cosmic system, macro system and micro system. Through the transformation of Yin and Yang, five elements and solar terms in spring, summer, autumn and winter, as well as the growth laws of the east, west, south, north and middle azimuth space and nature, he formed a world view of a dynamic three-dimensional system, which also provided a methodology for China's prediction. If the four-poster constellation prediction is regarded as the macro prediction research system of fate, then China's prediction is its cosmological prediction research system, and "constellation marriage" is its micro prediction research system.

From ancient times to the present, the main topic to be discussed in Mastering Destiny is not only to discuss one's own situation, but also to study five aspects: finance, officials, learning, printing and comparison, which are the source and foundation of life. "Wealth" is also called "wife wealth", which means that in private ownership society, wives and property belong to private property. Under the monogamous marriage system, the wife and property still cannot be classified as public ownership. Especially in the feudal society where men are superior to women, actively seeking ways to marry the United States has promoted the development of the study of "eight-character marriage". "Eight-character marriage" is also the main study of "wife wealth". The folk custom of "changing posts" is an activity in which unmarried men and women exchange "eight characters". The two sides predict the fate and temperament of men and women according to the four pillars and eight characters, and then get engaged and even get married. "Choosing a spouse" is to seek mutual harmony and complementarity according to the ups and downs of Yin and Yang and the five elements, which are the core monuments of life. If there are six words that match, it is a match made in heaven in previous lives. "Getting married by knowing luck" is to find the best time to get engaged and get married according to the luck of both men and women. "Inferring the birth year by year" means inferring the birth year of the target party according to the birth year of one party. The principle is that it is difficult to get married if heaven and earth "merge" or "merge", "merge" or "harm each other", and divorce will soon occur if they succeed. "monthly positioning" is to calculate the birthplace of the target party according to the birth month of one party; "Japanese understanding of temperament" is to predict each other's emotional relationship according to Japanese columns, whether it is mutual benefit or conflict; "Timing offspring" is to predict whether to have children after marriage and whether the offspring are reliable according to the strength of the time column.

Whether the above predictions are effective depends mainly on whether the forecaster has a solid foundation of easy learning, good understanding and rich practical experience; Of course, there is a premise that the time, place and sex of birth provided by the predicted person are true and accurate. Otherwise, why talk about "marriage"

Research value and significance

"Eight-character marriage" is an integral part of the traditional marriage system in China, which has a long history and a broad mass base. It is not only a kind of metaphysics, but also a prominent metaphysics. The old countryside can also speak eight characters, and the dignitaries who are officials don't doubt it. It can be seen that it is a piece of jade in China traditional culture, despite the defects of "feudal dross" and the fear of "superstition"; It is a mineral deposit of social and family marriage problems in China, which needs to be developed to serve today's people and future society. "We seem to live in a world surrounded by lust, passion, promiscuity and marriage. Traditional virtues are lacking, social norms are out of order, and interpersonal relationships are alienated. ⑥ To discuss the substantive issues of its social value, we must return to the macro system of understanding life and destiny.

First of all, what needs to be answered is whether there is "fate"? There are many people who deny the existence of fate, and there are also various criticisms. The simplest thing is to deny its existence. If we recognize its existence, we must answer whether it can be recognized. This is a basic philosophical question. Mr. Xu Chaochao, a famous numerologist in Nanjing, bluntly said: "How to know is a complex system engineering problem, and the right or wrong of knowing is a question of knowing the technical level." What needs to be pointed out here is that ambiguous disjunction and completely clear judgment arbitrariness are two prediction modes and styles in China's traditional prediction, both of which are based on experience. The reasons for "disconnection" are: first, people are not sure about their own predictions, and they are often trapped in rivers and lakes and are not convinced; The increase of arbitrariness, especially the accurate determination of the occurrence and existence time and space of things experienced by strangers, will make people feel "effective" and "magical", so the prediction of what will happen in the future will become "superstitious".

Secondly, the problem that must be solved is whether "fate" is made by heaven or by people. The "destiny view" of "life and death depend on fate, wealth is in the sky" is the main thought that Confucius is often criticized. In that particular era, the relationship between man and nature decided that Confucius' level of understanding reached a relatively high level. Only when people fully understand their own destiny can they better grasp life. "Man proposes, God disposes" has become an important law of later generations. "Destiny" and "human life" are both opposite and unified. The innate destiny trajectory is closely combined with the acquired human efforts. It can also be said that fate is determined by heaven and cannot be violated; People make plans, people make plans. Fate prediction is called "the knowledge of persuading people to be good" for a reason.

Third, the symbol of fate prediction and its coding genes. Today, with the development of network information, it is of great scientific and practical significance to study this ancient and traditional problem in China. "Binary", "decimal", "decimal" and "sexagesimal" are all used in necessary ways. It is their application that makes it possible to accurately predict a specific time and space, a specific fate trajectory and temperament.

Finally, I have to talk about its academic significance. The study of "eight-character marriage" will be the inheritance and development of China traditional culture in the new era, just like the morning fog in winter; Its research has also opened up an ancient and brand-new field for family sociology, just like exploring the source of the long river of history; Its research discusses the benign operation of marriage and family in the real world, just like lovers in the world get eternal blessings on their wedding anniversary.