Marriage custom of Jing nationality

The marriage custom of Jing nationality is a kind of marriage custom of Jing nationality in China. In the past, it was mostly arranged by parents. Since 1949, most young Jing people have jumped out of the barriers arranged by their parents and embarked on the road of free love and marriage.

Jing ethnic group is one of the ethnic minorities with the least population in southern China, the only coastal fishing ethnic group in China, the only marine ethnic group in China and the main ethnic group in Viet Nam. In history, the Jing people were called "Yue people" and called themselves "Jing people". 1May, 958, with the approval of the State Council, China, it was officially named "Jing Nationality". In Vietnam, the Jing nationality is the main ethnic group. Among the 54 ethnic groups in Vietnam, the Jing nationality accounts for nearly 90% of the total population of Vietnam.

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Characteristics of wedding customs of Jing nationality

Young men and women in Beijing have a unique way of love. When young people love a girl, they will sing to each other. If the two sides are congenial, they will go to "Lan Mei" (the matchmaker) and ask her to sing a love song for each other. They will also send a clogs with colorful patterns such as flowers and plants. When "Lan Mei" begins to sing, if the colorful clogs sent by both men and women happen to be a pair or so, then the couple is even formed in "God's Will". If clogs are not paired, they are considered as "destiny takes a hand" and they are "outdated".

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The Jing people are monogamous, and intermarriage between cousins and within the family is forbidden. Jing people attach great importance to engagement and marriage, and they are also very particular about customs and habits. They have to go through many links, such as testing the eight characters, deciding the bride price, deciding the bride price, "seeing off day", "crying at the DPRK", "opening a face", welcoming relatives, visiting the DPRK and returning to the palace.

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Sacrifice to God on holidays, and prepare pigs, chickens and fish to worship ancestors. Boiling pork to worship ancestors is still a ceremony for Jing women when they get married. Every year, on Haji Festival, all men over the age of 16 should buy chicken, wine, glutinous rice, betel nut and other sacrifices for Harting. Only after the worship is over, can men be counted as "joining the group" (that is, entering adulthood) and allowed to participate in singing Haji Festival before they can participate in fishing production.

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When young Jing men and women are engaged, the man will give the woman a certain amount of pork and cakes as gifts, and poor families will also send a small amount of sugar, glutinous rice, tea and cakes as wedding invitations. When getting married, the man should prepare 100 Jin of pork, 200 glasses of wine (each cup is equal to 200 grams), seven measures of rice and other gifts for the woman. Three days after the wedding, the bride "returned to the tide", and the couple returned their two trays (about 6 kg) of red glutinous rice, two pieces of pork and two chickens to their parents to thank them, and the wedding was over.

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The love style of Jing nationality

Kick sand and throw wood leaves.

Young men and women who are evergreen all the year round on the three islands of Jing nationality are enthusiastic and unrestrained. Every festive season, especially in the grand national traditional festival "Ha Festival", they all gather in Chengdu to sing, express their feelings and sing with each other. They sing about the motherland and a better life with their unique folk songs. At the same time, through folk songs, we can simply find our beloved missionary puppets and satisfied objects. Whenever the Jing youth finish singing, they walk in the moonlight in twos and threes and come to the seaside or the jungle by the sea. At this time, the boys are the most sharp-eyed and profitable. They stared at the girls, and if they found the right girl, they slowly approached the girl and lifted the sand to each other with their toes. Or break a branch, tear the leaves into strands and throw them at the girl. If girls are interested in boys, they will still kick sand back to each other with their toes, or throw konoha back to each other to show their acceptance of love. At this time, lovers will leave the crowd, or sit on the beach, or quietly lean against under the greenwood tree, singing a song full of tenderness.

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Lan Mei preached to Hua Dong.

If both men and women are interested in each other by kicking sand or throwing leaves, they will go to Lan Mei and ask her to sing a love song for each other. At the same time, I also sent a clogs with colorful patterns such as flowers and plants. "Lan Mei" in Beijing means "a matchmaker who guides feelings". Not full-time, as long as the parties feel that she is suitable for their own love songs, ask her for help.

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Lan Mei has gained great trust, so it is busy for both sides. When "Lan Mei" sang the leading role, the colorful clogs sent together happened to be about a pair, so the couple was considered "heaven". If the colorful clogs sent by men and women don't match at all, they are considered "unwilling" to meet each other and can't become life partners. In the distant era, "antithesis" was sacred and mysterious, and neither side cheated or leaked information in advance, so it belonged to the nature of "providence". But this custom is different in inheritance. In the story of Ji Shu, a clever figure of Jing nationality, there is a story about Ji Shu's "smart flower tile", which allows a flower on the left to be exchanged for a water treasure on the right. In this way, no matter "Lan Mei" gets any one from both sides, it must be in pairs when it comes to flowers. This custom has changed from "God-made" to "man-made" in the inheritance. Lan Mei matched it. When it comes to flowers, it will inevitably be paired; If the woman's parents don't get involved in this marriage, they will also take this form as a flexible social way and dismiss the matchmaker without hurting their feelings. In the 1980s, the concept of "divine determination" became weaker and weaker, and "Lan Mei" spread songs only as a traditional form of national love. Young people regard it as a process of love, and it doesn't matter to them whether the clogs match or not. Many young people simply gave up this scene. After love songs and clogs, "Lan Mei" chose to "unite with relatives" during the missionary period.

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"Ritual Plate" of Marriage

During the "joint logistics", the man always asks the prestigious "head" or relatives and friends on the island to help set up the "ceremony plate". Please send the "gift plate" to the woman's house by a smart and changeable man and woman who are good at singing. The woman's family is also looking for two outstanding male and female singers to meet "the ritual plate". Gifts are light and heavy, family gifts with good life are heavier, and family gifts with poor life are lighter. Among them, the necessary things are two kilograms of sugar, two kilograms of glutinous rice, and second-hand wilting (ten pieces per hand); There are two packs of tea, second-hand clams, two cakes (weighing six catties), and red dates, black dates, betel nuts, tea leaves, rock sugar and other things in the heart of the mountain. The printed cakes are folded into festive patterns. In the process of receiving the gift plate, both sides spoke with songs and competed for talent. The two sides sang and answered, and their feelings were lingering, as if both men and women were singing love songs. When the two sides sang to the fullest, the singer of the woman's family took the "ritual plate". At this point, the marriage between the two sides is a foregone conclusion.

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The marriage process of Jing nationality

Fixed color head

In the past, the marriages of young men and women in Beijing were arranged by their parents. Although a few people are free to fall in love at work, they must get their parents' consent before they can get married. The process of engagement is very complicated. First of all, you should use the age of both men and women to tell your fortune. If the life is near, the man will save the age of the woman. Otherwise, he will give it back to the matchmaker and the woman. This practice is called "contract life". Then put Niangeng on the box of Gongzu God to test good luck or bad luck. This is the so-called "fixed lottery". If there are livestock casualties or dishes destroyed during the inspection time, it is considered unlucky and the young men are returned to the young women; If nothing happens, it is considered auspicious and you can get married.

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There are many ceremonies.

On the wedding day, the groom dressed up and went to his wife's house to worship his ancestors first and then his parents-in-law. After the ceremony, the groom took out betel nuts to pay homage to his parents-in-law, uncle and aunt. The uncle gave him a red envelope and went home after the ceremony. When the groom goes home, he can send two men and two women to the woman's house to pick up the bride, or he can send a child to the woman's house to announce the wedding ceremony. At this time, the bride wore a dress and covered her face with red silk, and was carried out by her brothers. Then, two men and two women from the woman's house contracted two men and two women from the man's house to pick up relatives and accompany the bride to the man's house. When the bride arrives not far from the man's house, the man's house lays a mat in advance, lets the bride walk on it, and then pays homage to her ancestors, which is also called "meeting the bride". Bye-bye, into the bridal chamber. In the evening, the bride is accompanied by one or two sisters of her own. On the third day of their wedding, the bride and groom took red glutinous rice, two pieces of pork and two chickens to visit their parents-in-law's house and stayed for one night before returning to the man's house. This is called "returning to the DPRK". At this point, all the marriage procedures are over.

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Jing nationality divorce

When Jing people divorce, as long as both parties agree, the man can write a divorce letter and give it to the woman for acceptance. You can't write a divorce letter in the house, you should write it on the lawn outside, and throw away the pen and inkstone together after writing. You think it's unlucky to keep it, and you're afraid of getting divorced later. If the woman files for divorce, she will refund all or part of the expenses that the man "donated" to the man; If the man asks, the woman does not need to return it, but needs the man to issue a divorce certificate, so she can either go back to her parents' home or remarry. If a widow remarries, she must return part of her fortune to her in-laws or uncles, otherwise people will not dare to marry her. If you remarry, you can't go out from home. You must wait for the wedding in the market or in the Woods to avoid anything ominous at home. In the 1950s, due to the promulgation of the Marriage Law, many rules and regulations in the traditional marriage of the Jing nationality were gradually abolished, and many customs and etiquette disappeared or changed with the changes of society.