What is the five clothes that the ancients often said, and how is it calculated?

In our countryside, a complete family needs blood relationship to maintain. Many rural families, some family members are huge and people are United. Visit each other on holidays, often get together and support each other. Many of these families are prosperous, which is a manifestation of family unity and cohesion. With the development of the times, the kinship of clans has gradually faded, and interests have become an important factor affecting interpersonal relationships.

As the saying goes, "Uncle menstruation is not a relative. He took five clothes and became a passerby". The meaning is simple. Uncle menstruation is not a real relative, but if he takes five clothes, he will become a passerby. This proverb describes that the world is indifferent. No matter how close your aunt and uncle are, they are all outsiders. No matter how hard the relationship within the five clothes is, the relationship outside the five clothes will fade. Of course, the situation in different regions and different families is different, and it cannot be generalized, but it is the case in most cases.

Cousins are derived from the relationship between father and mother. Compared with other relatives, they are still very close, but they are not reliable when they encounter major events. There are two main reasons: First, menstruation is not a family, and his blood relationship with the family is weak, so he won't really try his best to help, but the menstruation family will be closer than his uncle's; Second, the aunts and uncles' families are different. It is estimated that they can't even take care of their own affairs, let alone other people's affairs.

Five clothes are actually five kinds of mourning clothes for funerals at home. Refers to the mourning clothes worn according to the five mourning system and the relationship with the host family. Five kinds of mourning clothes specifically refer to "Ban Shuai", "Cui Zi", "Dagong", "Hong Xiao" and "Ma Zhu", and different relatives and friends wear different mourning clothes. Although there are only five kinds of mourning clothes, they involve nine generations. These nine generations are great-grandfather, great-grandfather, great-grandfather, father, self, children, grandchildren, great-grandchildren and great-grandchildren. After these nine generations, five clothes were produced.

Generally speaking, it will be almost a hundred years since the fifth ancestor, and everyone can get together to go to the grave and be regarded as relatives. If any relative has five clothes, it is really not a relative. Because it is too far away, some people may not even be familiar with their names, so it is very reasonable for the ancients to say that "kissing is not enough." Although the "five clothes" culture is slowly disappearing, it is a part of China traditional culture after all.