Sir, is it appropriate to get married after having children?

Marriage is more about protecting the rights and interests of families, including children, than just the relationship between husband and wife. Moreover, it doesn't take time to get a license. If the baby is going to have a baby and doesn't get married, what is the possibility of getting married in the future?

Lovers who have been together for a long time may need to run in for several years before they can transition to a stable state after getting married and having children. Some families have a baby that needs too much running-in, and many of them are divorced. What's more, if there is no certificate and no wedding, the cost of separation is lower. Marriage is actually to ensure the stability of family relations through social relations.

Maybe you will say, I imagined the chaos after having a baby. Considering the relationship between husband and wife will be good, but imagination and reality are two different things. With a baby who can't wake up every day and can't finish trivial things, several adults will turn around the baby every day, which will inevitably lead to conflicts. Can your relationship be good enough to be unaffected by external factors?

Besides, the relationship is so good that it is unnatural to get married with a license.

Be carried away by sweet words, but live rationally.

If it's in-laws', my understanding is that they don't take you seriously. What matters is the child, and it is possible to tell whether it is a boy or a girl. In some places, boys are born before the wedding. I don't know what the atmosphere is like in your hometown, just take a wild guess, don't mind!

If the two sides fall out, your child will become an illegitimate child. You will be an unmarried mother and have an illegitimate child (just in case).

Moreover, if you have a bad opinion of the woman, everyone can look down on you because of this matter, including but not limited to: the man's family, colleagues and friends who know you but are not familiar with you, relatives and neighbors in their own families. What men say is terrible.

And it's different to have a wedding after giving birth to a big girl. Whether the families of both men and women can participate in the grand event smoothly depends entirely on the personality of the husband's family. Anyway, if you want to get married and have children, you have to marry if you don't.