Explain why 8-year-old children have a big temper towards psychology.

The root of people's temper lies in self-centered pride.

1, self-interest is greater than everything. Once your own interests are damaged, you must fight back. It is my right to vent my depression when I feel unhappy; So he let it out regardless of hurting others.

2. Self-righteous and proud judges. Think others are wrong and you are right. Have the right to be responsible for mistakes; So I was outraged and lost my temper.

To put it bluntly, it is caused by human sin.

People will not lose their temper unless they are not proud, self-righteous, selfish and truly modest.

Only when people know the power of God and give up on themselves completely can they be humble.

Only by truly putting yourself in the position of a sinner and repenting before God can we not be self-righteous;

Only by obeying God's will, loving your neighbor as yourself and pursuing the blessings of the kingdom of heaven can you not pursue your own interests.

I try to tell you in the simplest words:

To understand anger, we must first understand value. Value is a measure of what you care about or your mental state. If you care about one thing, a state, it is valuable in your heart, such as your beloved collection, personal dignity, girlfriend and so on.

Speaking of anger now, physiologically speaking, it is the product of chemical reactions in your brain. It is entirely accidental that this function of animals evolved, but our race did not perish because of anger, so we will still be angry today. Physiologically, it is.

Psychologically speaking, anger is a reaction that urges you to protect yourself. This kind of self-protection is not limited to your body, that is to say, not only will you get angry when you are beaten, but this sense of protection will also extend to anything valuable to you, because these things maintain the balance of your life. You know, in primitive times, breaking your fragile life balance may lead to your death. For example, you have a little food to eat every day, but today your food was robbed and you missed a meal. As a result, if the tiger can't run, you will be eaten ... In order not to be eaten by the tiger, you will be angry at first when someone grabs your food, and you will use the threat of force in anger to avoid possible injuries in actual combat (in primitive times, these injuries may also be caused).

As a result, our angry human beings survived successfully, because we were angry to protect our own interests, to fight for something of value, and because in most cases, one side would compromise, so we avoided many conflicts and saved ourselves. This is how anger works as a protective mechanism.

You will say that some people are not easy to get angry. Yes, with the development of civilization, we have enough life support. We will not die because we miss a meal, nor will we live badly because we miss a commodity. We don't have to fight by force within the population, so for some people, the scope of value has narrowed, but it doesn't mean that these people won't be angry. A calm man who is in love with someone else, you hit on his girlfriend.

Everyone has something of value to himself. If you touch them, his protection mechanism will start and he will get angry. This is why there is "provocation" in Sun Tzu's Art of War.

As long as it is a person, there will be emotions.

Of course, the reason and degree of losing your temper are directly related to your personal accomplishment. Losing your temper is not a good thing, it hurts your body and hurts other people's feelings. So you should improve your self-cultivation and be calm in everything.

Losing your temper should be just a tool, and you should use it when you need it.

Incompetent people often prove their ability by losing their temper. I think losing one's temper is an emotional experience when a person thinks something or a phenomenon violates his inner norms or beliefs.

Each of us has our own belief system and value system. For example, I think it is right, what others should do is right, what I should do is right, and so on. Once others or some of our actions violate these standards, we will lose our temper.

So it is inevitable that you will lose your temper, and it is true. It's just that there is a difference between losing your temper and difficulty.

The more tolerant a person's standards are, the harder it is for him to lose his temper. The size of your thoughts depends on the size of the things you are angry about. A person who is prone to lose his temper is because the scope of his belief system and value system is too narrow, so some actions of others or himself can easily violate his rules and make him unhappy and lose his temper. In fact, others may have done nothing wrong at all. Of course, whether others have done something wrong is also evaluated according to his belief system, so there is no objective standard for others' right or wrong, which depends entirely on the evaluation of the recipient.

In fact, there is another point, that is, a person who is not easy to lose his temper has a more tolerant belief system, and he also has a belief that he can directly avoid anger, that is, empathy, that is, caring for others. Although he doesn't agree with other people's views or behaviors. But he can understand that if this can be done, the number of tantrums will be reduced by about 80%.

There is also a belief that you can minimize your temper. That is, when you can't agree with or understand other people's behavior, you can say that you think he is completely wrong. Tell yourself at this time that losing your temper is to punish yourself with other people's mistakes. With this article, it's hard for you to lose your temper.

So it's the same jargon: losing your temper is an attitude and a choice, depending on whether you want it or not, it's none of others' business. Never say who made you angry or who made you lose your temper. Losing your temper is entirely your choice.