Love: Love is a long road to self-cultivation.

The person you love may leave, may wait for you, or may stay.

"Love" is the latest masterpiece of director Zhang Aijia. Since its release, its popularity has continued to rise. Now being nominated for seven Golden Horse Awards is also an affirmation of the film.

For a long time, literary films have been in an embarrassing situation of applauding and not being a hit, and "Love and Kill" is no exception. It was released 10 days, and the box office was tens of millions. Compared with the films of the same period, it is really unsatisfactory, but Zhang Aijia himself doesn't care much about it.

It can be described as "sixty obedient" and "seventy obedient". Zhang Aijia, who is in the transitional stage, has a quiet and peaceful power because he "listens to bad words and has no intention of breaking peace".

Different from the past, she aimed the camera at mainland women in small towns and let them find and improve themselves in the trivial and friction of life. Love and Intimacy, similar to the previous works, still focuses on the female perspective. The difference is that she no longer tries to break and prove it in a loud way like when she was young, but examines and corrects herself by looking back on the past. Although sparse and ordinary, it is the truest appearance of life. Therefore, it is not so much a drama or a literary film as a documentary about life.

The film takes moving the grave as a clue, involving three generations of old, middle-aged and young people and three periods of love in different times. After a series of trivialities and rushing about, three generations began to re-examine their love, leaving people with a lot of thoughts.

First, can waiting be exchanged for love?

Azu (Wu Yanshu) is my grandfather's original match and the victim of institutional marriage. She waited for her husband all her life, looking forward to it all her life, but in the end she only waited until her husband died and went home. Lonely in old age, one person, one house and one coffin, so sad, it is precisely because of the original paper engagement.

Just like the chastity memorial archway standing at the head of the village, Azu has always adhered to women's morality. She lost her life because of that marriage reputation that had no legal effect. This is a tragedy created by the times and environment, not only for her, but also for most rural women in that era.

The traditional pedantic concept is deeply rooted, and Azu has been living for others all his life. Wei Wei (Lang Yueting) once asked her why she didn't go to the city to find her grandpa. She didn't answer at that time, but later told the truth: she would stay in the country, take care of her family and provide for the elderly. Maybe she thought about being desperate, but her sense of mission and belonging didn't allow her to do so. So when Vivian said I wanted to run away with him (her boyfriend Ada), Azu agreed without thinking. In fact, this is a true portrayal of her heart. If you can start over, Joe will never wait like this again. Unfortunately, there is no if. ......

Besides guarding the tomb, Azu is also trying to prove his marriage relationship. I don't have to wait. If they don't even have a birthright, then her waiting is completely meaningless. Cruelly, for Yue Zifu, she has neither the reality of marriage nor the foundation of love. In short, he doesn't love her, just compare the letters he wrote.

In grandma's letter, he said, "The epiphyllum in the yard is blooming, so beautiful ...", but in Joe's letter, there are only a few words, mostly money exchanges. Vivian told her that this is a letter from home, not a love letter. Azu retorted in a hurry: "No, he sends money home every month, never less." Male ... he also sent me five dollars to make a dress to wear. I made a coat and took a photo and sent it to him. " For Azu, Yuezifu is everything to her. She doesn't know love and family, and family will never be love. ......

When she saw the portrait of Yue Zifu, she stood on the chair. She looked at it carefully and said it was not very similar. As far as I can remember, his forehead is not so wide and his chin is not so round. She also saw her husband's wife, and their photos were hung on the wall together, standing side by side. The deceased is great, and Joe bows.

If Azu was moved at that time, it was the photo that really discouraged her. Ada (Song) took a photo when he left, bringing Azu and Yuezifu together. Unexpectedly, the photo was caught in the rain, and Azu rubbed Yue Zifu's face. After all these years, she still can't wait for him and can't even leave a photo. Joe collapsed and cried.

Finally, Joe agreed to move the grave. She said to Yue Zifu's ashes, "I don't want you." At that moment, she was relieved. She finally understood the difference between affection and love. She used her whole life to prove to us that some waiting is doomed to be fruitless.

Second, can triviality erase love?

Huiying (Zhang Aijia) is the daughter of her grandparents. In order to satisfy her mother's wishes, she decided to move her father's grave into the city and be buried with her mother.

Unlike Azu, Huiying and her husband (Yin Xiaoping) are in free love. When she was young, Huiying went forward with love. Her lover has gone to the army, and she is waiting while reading. His mother disliked his poverty, but she persuaded him and proved that this was her persistence and effort in love.

After her mother died, she put her ashes in a conspicuous place in the living room. She said that she understood her mother's thoughts. She went to the countryside to sweep the grave and was stopped by people from all directions. Coupled with her daughter's incomprehension and her husband's lack of support, Huiying strengthened her determination to move the grave. Vivian asked her father if her mother was so unreasonable when she was young. Father replied that she was just afraid, and grandma left. Aren't they the next wave?

Indeed, Huiying's series of behaviors are all due to her anxiety about life. Because she was dissatisfied with her mother's "second room" status, she visited various government agencies to prove her mother's identity; Because she didn't want to leave her daughter, she had a big fight with Weiwei, who helped her pack, and told her not to come back when she left. I am persistent because I value it, and I don't give up because I care. In the final analysis, everything just stems from her maintenance of her marriage and her persistence in the whole family.

In the busy days of moving the grave, Huiying complained that her husband couldn't help, and she had to rely on herself. He is also very close to Mrs. Wang, who is learning driving upstairs. Although that's his job, after living for so many years, she is tired of aesthetics and everything is used to it. The triviality of life makes her more and more impatient. Because she knows too much, she becomes boring.

Just when she was angry and annoyed with her husband who came back from drunkenness, she found a gift he had prepared for her in the drawer. Looking at her sleeping husband, her heart moved and a long-lost sweetness welled up in her heart. She smiled and kissed him secretly.

Finally, she sat in her husband's newly bought car. Like other women who have spent most of their lives, Huiying asked how much the car was as soon as she got up. It was not until her husband mentioned their promise when they were young and went out for a walk together after retirement that Hui Yingcai realized.

"I dreamed of a man's face. I can't remember who it is, and finally I know that it was when you were a child. " Then she cried and annoyed Mrs. Wang and asked him why he was always so happy when she was angry. "Because I know you care about me." Her husband hummed "Flower Girl" and drove the car farther and farther. ......

Just like the movie said, "Even if you live together for a lifetime, you can't prove that you love each other", but if two people love each other from the beginning and live for a lifetime, they really should cherish it. In a word, life is a trivial and noisy day with messy chicken feathers. Living together is not easy. Don't waste your days and love.

Third, can ideals give up love?

Wei Wei is Huiying's daughter. For a girl, she has a stable job and a good salary, but her boyfriend is just the opposite. Like today's young people, Vivian and Ada's love is gorgeous and beautiful, but they are facing many problems.

Ada is a wandering singer who pursues her dreams. He has talent and dreams. He wants to travel to Beijing. I visited a friend in Henan, but I didn't expect to meet Wei Wei. His pace was put on hold and stayed because of love.

Ada is very happy, and Ada is also very entangled. The ease in front of him made it difficult for him to calm down. It can be said that his life is not satisfactory. When Wei Wei went to see him for the first time, he looked tired. She asked him what was wrong. His friend said nothing, so he sang "Broad Sky" twice. With a passion for music, he stopped here. He hasn't written a song for a long time ...

When he saw Joe's coffin, he lay in it curiously. At that moment, he had mixed feelings and sobbed, as if it were not so terrible. Nothing in this world is insignificant except life and death. Ada decided to pursue her dream bravely.

Paradoxically, Wei Wei doesn't want to go or go to Beijing. She keeps saying she doesn't regret it, but the test of reality makes it difficult for her to calm down. Facing Athena Chu (Sitar tan), who is also talented in music, she is both angry and timid. Seeing them sitting together singing and playing the piano tacitly, she felt out of place. Anxious, she desperately tried to catch her lover.

Nevertheless, she didn't have the courage to despair. She asked Ada how much money was left, and she said how to get married without money. Just as she used "my mother will never agree" as an excuse for her feelings, in fact, she is not sure how long they can go.

Until her mother said to her, "Don't put the blame on me. I said nothing about you and the singer. Can you stand this pain yourself? " At this time, Wei Wei realized that whether it was "parents' obstruction", "rival in love's provocation" or "lack of material", these were just the results of her imagination and obstacles set by herself. You know, if you really love someone, the decision is only in your own hands.

Finally, Vivian let go. She doesn't want to make her lover unhappy. She asked Ada to pursue his dream. Before leaving, she said to him, "I won't wait for you." I really won't wait for you. " It seems that these two people who died for no reason may also be a new beginning, because who can guarantee that Weiwei will not go to him?

In short, love is an instinct, and love will make you close. Just like the English title of the film "Education of Love", director Zhang Aijia explained love to us through the questions of "three generations", and he also shook hands with himself.

I want to say here that life is not easy and full of thorns. Who doesn't grow up by groping? The road ahead is long. I hope everyone can understand and cherish it in time. ...