The love between Lu You and Tang Wan touched future generations, but they suffered all their lives. Do they deserve it?

In the 14th year of Shaoxing (AD 1 144), a boy named Lu You 19 years old married his cousin Tang Wan 16 years old.

"When you, my love, ride a bamboo horse, trot in circles, throwing your childhood. We live together in an alley in Changgan, and we are all young and happy. " Lu You and Tang Wan are such a pair of childhood friends that others envy.

Lu you was born in a scholarly family, and his talent is high, which goes without saying. Tang Wan is also familiar with poetry books, piano, chess, calligraphy and painting since childhood, and he is proficient in everything. In their spare time, the young couple are tired of singing and painting, and play the piano and sing together. When it comes to happiness, they laugh together. Married life is sweeter than honey and more intoxicating than wine.

"Being drunk in spring is a deep sleep, and gambling books are so fragrant." Just like this poem by Nalan Xingde, people who want to spend their lives with themselves can not only read their own poems, but also read their own hearts. Is there anything more beautiful in this world than this love?

However, happy times are always short-lived. Lu You's mother is bent on making her son get ahead and make a fortune for the family. After Lu You got married, he took Tang Wan to travel all day, either reading some casual books or writing some miscellaneous poems, and his mind was not on reading.

In mother Lu's view, Tang Wan is a woman who doesn't know the general situation. All she knows is having an affair with her son, poetry and wine, which has delayed the bright future of Lujia. This Tang Wan is the biggest stumbling block on Lu Jiafu's road.

Once, Lu Mu went to the temple to tell Lu You's fortune, hoping to see when her son would win the top prize. As a result, the nun in the temple solemnly said that Tang Wan's eight characters did not match Lu You. Under the questioning of Lu's mother, the nun simply made a noise and said that Tang Wansheng was her husband's life.

This time, Lu Mu was angry: "No wonder my son Lu You has had such a bad career since Tang Wan got married. It turned out that this husband killed him! "

When Lu mother returned home, she immediately sent someone to call Lu You and forced him to divorce Tang Wan. It was an era when filial piety was worse than heaven, and it was also an era when women were treated like dirt. Facing his mother who threatened to die, Lu You finally divorced Tang Wan on the grounds of "no retreat", and the loving couple parted ways.

In their divorce agreement, there is a saying: never say goodbye is happy. However, for Lu You and Tang Wan, can they really be "happy" to end such an unforgettable love?

After Lu You divorced Tang Wan, she married another girl, Wang, according to her mother's arrangement, and Tang Wan remarried to her relatives.

Five years later, Lu You entered the official career and became the main book of Ningde County. Tomb-Sweeping Day returned to Shaoxing from Fujian and went to Shenyuan for fun. Cheng Xiang met Tang Wan and her current husband, Zhao Shicheng.

Caught off guard, Lu You only felt the emotion surge, a thousand words stuck in his throat, but in the end he couldn't say anything, only tears blurred his eyes. Lu You didn't know when Tang Wan left and didn't remember what she said.

When he woke up, there was only a silent attendant in front of him, holding several boxes and an altar of yellow wine: "Lu Xianggong, this is the dining table that my mistress specially ordered me to bring you." Lu you had mixed feelings in his heart, and looked up and drank the altar rice wine. With the surge of wine, he raised his pen and wrote a poem "Hairpin Phoenix" on the wall of the Imperial Academy:

The first part of this word traces the difference between the past and the present, and the second part says goodbye to the suffering of lovesickness.

And "red crisp hands" refers to people with hands, which clearly describes Tang Wan's beautiful face, but expresses the poet's love; "Yellow rice wine" is a metaphor for wine. On the surface, it is the official brewed yellow rice wine, but it implies the attentive state of the wife holding the wine to persuade the wine. The description of a scene makes the poet's thoughts fly back to many years ago: once upon a time, loving couples went to the park hand in hand, but now, the spring scenery is still the same and the personnel are completely different.

Some people say that this sentence is written in real life. Shaoxing was the companion of the Southern Song Dynasty, so the palace wall willows can be seen near Shenyuan. It is said that the "palace wall" implies Zhao Shicheng, who is of royal blood. His existence is like a palace wall, blocking the possibility of getting back together with his beloved wife. All love, who is on the other side of the wall, can only keep memories alone and feel dejected at the wall.

"East wind evil, celebrate thin. A melancholy mood, I haven't seen the rope for several years. "The second sentence suddenly turns, and the gentle spring scenery can no longer conceal the sadness of love. "The east wind, which could revive the earth and everything, is cold and heartless here. Aren't all people who destroy a good marriage like this? " Wrong, wrong, wrong "is three times, blood and tears came out of it. Whose fault is this? Is it yourself? Is it Tang Wan? Is it the mother? There is nothing to say here, just calling heaven and earth, mixed with grief and indignation.

Spring remains the same, but people with feelings are getting thinner. Tears washed away the rouge on my face and soaked all the thin silk handkerchiefs. The peach blossoms are gone, the pool is overflowing, and the vows of eternal love are still in our ears, but we have become the most familiar strangers, and even writing letters has become a great hope.

"Although there is a mountain alliance, it is difficult to believe in the brocade book." Love is like a rock, and infatuation does not change, but the sincere heart has nowhere to write. In a flash, there was love, hate, pain and resentment, plus the pity caused by seeing Tang's haggard face and sad expression. It's really mixed feelings. An arrow goes through the heart.

"Mo, Mo, Mo!" Water under the bridge. There's no turning back. What do you want it to do? What's the use of it? Better cut the gordian knot-just, just, just! Obviously, the words are not finished, the meaning is not finished, and the feelings are not finished; However, it happened that it was going to go away here, leaving the poet with emptiness and sadness, and also leaving readers with infinite aftertaste.

Soon, Lu You wrote this poem "Hairpin Phoenix" in Shenyuan, which spread all over the city. Tang Wan heard that it was difficult to restrain his feelings at the moment, so he wrote a poem "Hairpin Phoenix" next to the first word of Lu You:

I thought I had put all my troubles and grievances down. It turns out that you have always been an unhealed wound in my heart. The world is cold and the heart is cold. Our love is so pure and happy. Finally, like peach blossoms on branches, it is inevitable to be blown away by wind and rain.

Where is the east wind evil? Evil is human; Where is the goodness of human nature? The fickle is secular. "Rain sends flowers at dusk" was originally a sentence of Lu You, but Tang Wan used it to imply his tragic situation. Can everyone resist the wind and rain like plum blossoms? Affectionate, perhaps, is a person's greatest weakness. Once love is broken, people will inevitably wither like flowers.

More than once, I wanted to write all my thoughts on the stationery and send them to you, but when I raised my pen, I couldn't write anything, so I could only lean against the railing sadly. Lu Lang, Lu Lang, this life is really too hard, too hard, too hard!

Things are different, so far away, I was trapped by love all day, and finally got sick for love. Every long night that I can't sleep because of missing makes me feel cold all over. But I don't want to be seen by others, so I have to swallow my words and smile. I am full of worries, and I can only hide it from my family, myself and you.

After Tang Wan's death, Shen Yuan became an eternal pain in Lu You's heart. And with the passage of time, this kind of lovesickness and regret will become stronger and stronger.

In the following 40 years, Lu You first went north to resist gold, and later moved to Sichuan and Sichuan to work. However, after decades of red dust storms, he still can't get rid of his persistence. At the age of sixty-three, Lu You wrote two extremely sad poems, "I feel sad when I come back to sew a pillow bag with chrysanthemums":

These two poems say: That autumn, Lu You happened to pick some chrysanthemums on the mountain the following year and sew them into chrysanthemum pillows. This reminds him that when he was twenty years old, he once wrote a chrysanthemum pillow poem.

These two poems can be said to be Lu You's reminiscence of the past. This memory impressed Lu You so deeply that he was still crying years later.

Twenty years later, Lu You, who was 75 years old, realized that time was running out, so he asked the court to become an official and bought a house near Shenyuan, intending to spend the rest of his life with Tang Wan. Looking at the familiar and unfamiliar Shen Yuan, Lu You burst into tears and began to write down two poems of Shen Yuan:

Today, there are neither cicadas nor horns in the Shen Garden, only a dying old man is left, staring silently at the ruins. Tang Wan, my love, you have been dead for more than forty years. This long time is enough to kill everything in the world, and the only thing that can't kill time is memory. Why else is there nothing in this world except you?

Eighty-one-year-old Lu You is getting worse and worse. She hasn't gone to Shenyuan for a long time. I think about it every day, but I dream at night. One night, he dreamed that he had become a teenager and returned to the original Shen Garden, but he couldn't find Tang Wan.

Lu you woke up and found that the pillow was wet with tears, so he wrote "Sleepwalking in Shen Yuanting on December 2nd":

Spring came very early this year, just like the year we got married. Your favorite plum blossom is in bloom. Why can't I find you? Oh, I remember, you have already turned into spring scenery, and even the song "Hairpin Phoenix" I wrote on the wall of Shenyuan Garden in those days was covered with thick dust. ...

Friends who like Lu You's works know that there are two themes left by Lu You's poems to future generations, one is his patriotic feelings till death, and the other is his endless love for his ex-wife Tang Wan.

Lu You's love for Tang Wan has never changed for decades. It has touched himself, touched future generations, and made him suffer all his life.

Some people say that Lu Mu is too unreasonable and Lu You is too opinionated. It is precisely because he listened to his mother's words, chose to be a mother and divorced his wife that he suffered all his life and died in his mind. He chose all this himself, and he deserved it!

Some people say that Lu You's family is loyal and talented. It is a pity that he will lose his ambition and ambition if he persists in immersing himself in the love for his children all day. Therefore, his mother did the right thing. Fortunately, he listened to his mother and made later achievements.

What do you think of this problem?