What does it take to get married? What are the procedures and precautions?

"Three Books and Six Rites" is a traditional marriage custom in China, but the continuation of the traditional marriage custom has actually been simplified a lot. The wedding procedure usually begins with a ceremony, so what is a wedding ceremony? What does it take to get married? I believe many young couples don't understand. Let's take a look at the items needed for the wedding ceremony, the wedding ceremony process and matters needing attention.

What is a wedding?

Gift-giving, also called big engagement, is one of the traditional wedding etiquette of Han nationality in China. The most solemn ceremony in the engagement process is probably 15 to 20 days before marriage. The man chooses an auspicious day, and portable gifts and various gifts are sent to the woman's home. ?

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What does it take to get married?

So how to spend a big gift? Let's talk about the items and significance that men need to prepare for gifts. If you are smart, you can certainly understand them at a glance.

1) Gift money: rich in price and frugal.

2) Gift cake: one load.

3) Seafood: There are four, six and eight styles, which are rich in style and quantity. Usually each style is divided into two bags, regardless of weight. Besides Nostoc flagelliforme (homophonic: making a fortune), other optional items include abalone, oyster sauce, scallop, mushroom, sea cucumber, squid, dried shrimp, shark's fin and fish belly.

4) Three animals: two pairs of raw chickens, two males, two females (if the parents are not complete, one pair is enough), three to five kilograms of pork, flying in pairs (that is, one piece is connected and two pieces are separated).

5) Fish: big fish or shad, with fishy smell.

6) Old Coconut: Two pairs (if the parents are incomplete, use one pair), indicating that there is a grandfather and a son.

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7) Wine: There are four kinds of foreign wine or rice wine.

8) Four fruits: dried litchi, dried longan, dried walnut and raw peanuts.

9) Result: Take exuberance.

10) tea, sesame: tea must be planted with seeds, and a son is willing to plant it. It also means that once a woman is engaged, she will never go back on her word, which is also called "Ma You Tea Ceremony".

1 1) postboxes: there are two pairs of lotus seeds, lilies, green shoots, arborvitae, areca nut, sesame seeds, red beans, mung beans, white beans, millet, candied dates, red dates, raw peanuts, walnuts and longan, as well as red bean ropes, gifts, gold ornaments, dragon and phoenix candles and couplets.

12) Others: copper coins, couplets and happy characters.

13) key point: if you don't want to use it in the future, you should pay attention to it consciously and collect it ~

Wedding process

The first step of "Li Guo" is that the matchmaker sends the man's birthday to the woman, and the woman's eighth birthday to the man. Some superstitious parents think that they are responsible for their children's marriage, and often ask the fortune teller to calculate after receiving the red post to see if the "date of birth" of both parties is consistent, if not; Marriage will be reconsidered. Fortunately, most modern people don't believe this, so even if red posts are exchanged, they are often just a form, and some even avoid the form of changing posts.

After "changing posts" and "matching eight characters", the matchmaker should choose a good date and get engaged with the man as a gift.

Giving gifts is a big deal. Generally, the active person (male or female) who gets married should give each other a heavy gift. The gift should at least include a pig elbow, a pair of wine, a chicken and a duck, and a suit for other parents. A pair of shoes and socks, a package, and some things for girls. How much money to seal in the envelope and what engagement gift to give the girl are generally negotiated by the matchmaker in advance, not as much as the man (or woman) can give. Of course, the parents of the man or woman should also try their best to think of each other, strive to be frugal and accept less dowry.

After the ceremony, both men and women can agree on a date to go to the local government for a marriage certificate and formally confirm the marriage relationship. Modern laws and regulations stipulate that both men and women should go to the hospital for premarital examination before getting a marriage certificate; There are also some areas (mainly cities) that require premarital classes. These are all effective measures to ensure prenatal and postnatal care and ensure the quality of the population, which should be followed.

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Matters needing attention in wedding

1, all gifts, cakes, gifts, etc. Must be an even number, which means in pairs. Guest red cloth. In addition, the most important content of traditional marriage customs should be bride price, which is the "sign" in the "six rites". One is to show sincerity, the other is as compensation for the loss of labor force in the woman's family, and the third is as alimony for the woman's parents. This is an essential element of gift-giving, so the numbers should be both auspicious and shabby, and of course we should do what we can.

The most important thing is to remember to bring "three books", [letter of appointment]: the list of books given to the woman by the man when the man and the woman are engaged, which is used to confirm the engagement. [Gift Book]: A letter from the family when the man gives a gift, detailing the items and quantity when giving a gift. [Welcome Book]: On the wedding day, the man gives the woman a book list. These three books are essential for men and women to pay tribute to each other in the whole wedding procedure. )

2. The man's family will send the betrothal gift (commonly known as bride price or tea gift) to the woman's family according to the agreed conditions. On that day, the man's family will invite two or four female relatives (must be well-off, that is, both husband and children, parents-in-law and parents are present) to the woman's house with the matchmaker, bringing dowry, bride price and a lot of gifts. The work of receiving gifts must be done by female elders. In addition to giving the bride price, the man will choose two or three auspicious days first, and let his wife set the wedding date on the day of the bride price. After the bride price of the man is delivered, the female guests of the man's house will open the gift box, select some gold ornaments for the bride to wear and say auspicious words. After that, everyone congratulated each other and congratulated each other, and the gift-giving ceremony was completed.

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Other comments

After the big gift, there are holidays, dowry, bed making and so on.

1, the man chooses to go to bed one day, more than two days before marriage.

2. Sprinkle all kinds of happy fruits on the bed, such as red dates, longan, four classics and Li.

3. Before the renovation of the new house that night, the cloth can let the children eat happy fruit in bed, which is called "pressing the bed", which means that the children and grandchildren are full.

Above: 1. When choosing an auspicious day before the wedding, the man will spend more than 5 minutes/kloc-0 than the woman in the morning. A couple should wear new silk pajamas and underwear. 3. Order a dragon and phoenix candle and a column of incense. 4. Prepare three bowls of lotus seeds, red dates and soup balls (6 or 9 capsules per bowl) and other fruits, barbecue and chicken, and sincerely visit heaven. 5, descendants ruler, double-sided round mirror and red handle scissors, that is, "faucet mirror, scissors ruler." The above sentence: (a comb) a comb to the end; (Two combs) Two combs are given to Qi Mei, who is white-haired; (Three combs) Three combs are for children and grandchildren.

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