Those abandoned babies in the' 80 s

The 1980s and 1990s were the most stringent period of family planning in China. Most of the families born in those years were two children, and the mother's household registration was in the countryside. If the first child is a daughter, another child will be born. If the first child is a boy, it can't be regenerated, otherwise it will be fined. Mother is registered in a town or has a fixed job (institution). Whether she is a boy or a girl, she can only have one child. If she has a second job, she will be fired. Rural families want to have boys, and if the second child is a girl, abandonment will occur. Good-hearted people will throw away their children directly, and good-hearted people will find good families to send them.

There are many such abandoned babies around me. After my sister-in-law gave birth to her first daughter, she gave birth to four more daughters to give birth to a son. The two daughters in the middle were given to others, and the last one was not sent away. Because I am old, I really don't want to give birth, and my family conditions are poor. Later, I heard that the third daughter was raised to death by others, and the second daughter was still there, but the family conditions were not good. She knew that she was sent and wanted to know who her biological parents were, but her sister-in-law didn't want to drag down her children because of poor family conditions, so she never dared to admit it. My husband's aunt did the same, giving birth to four daughters, sending away three and finally giving birth to a son.

One of my classmates was also sent to the current adoptive parents' home by others. As a child, she knew that she was adopted. She was adopted because her foster mother was infertile. She is a particularly hot personality and can't be bullied by others. People often point fingers behind her back, and she will throw stones at her in a vicious tone and refuse others. Her adoptive parents treat her like their own, and in our family's words, they are used to raising her. Her adoptive mother is obedient to her and even talks back to her often, but this does not affect her love for her adoptive mother. The relationship between mother and daughter and father is also very good, and she also regards adoptive parents as biological parents. Later, I recruited a son-in-law and lived happily. At this time, her biological parents suddenly came to recognize her, and she insisted on refusing, claiming that she had only one parent. Finally, after a lot of persuasion, she recognized her parents and left as a relative at home.

In the past, it was popular that children were afraid to recognize their biological parents, fearing that they would eventually leave with their biological parents. That's because children will recognize their biological parents only if their adoptive parents are not good.

There is another way of adoption, that is, the adoptive mother does not know who the child's biological parents are, and no one will recognize them. A distant cousin of mine, an abandoned baby, put it directly in his hallway. I brought it home, and it's fine, too. She has never been adopted, and she also claimed that everyone should not disclose any information, so this daughter never knew that she was picked up. I was used to raising her when I was a child, and I was jealous. I really think she is so happy. Finally, I married well.

At that time, because if the first one gave birth to a son, there would be no more births. If the family conditions are not bad, such families will release news and introduce them to anyone who has a daughter.

When I was born, my grandmother helped me find a good family and prepared to send me away. I have a sister. If I stay, my parents may never have a son again. This willing family has only one son. Later, I didn't know the specific reason. When I was a child, my aunt said that she was going to be my daughter. How nice it is to be my daughter!

There is also a changing child. This is more about brothers. The elder brother has two sons and the younger brother has two daughters. If the second child is about the same age, they will change one, so that both families have sons, born from the same root and related by blood.

Children are often curious about where they are from, and sometimes they ask their mother, where am I from? Nine times out of ten, mom will tell you that you picked it up from under the bridge or in the vegetable field. At that time, children would really be found under the bridge.

At that time, children, mainly from the countryside, especially girls, were really like cats and dogs. You can send it at will, throw it at will, and throw it outside. If no one answers, you can only die slowly.