My parents are superstitious about fortune telling, saying that my boyfriend's life is short, and he doesn't agree with us.

Your parents probably have a shadow over your brother. It is unreasonable to be superstitious about such things. Marriage without parents' support is not the happiest after all. Both options are up to you.

1, they have enough strength to get rid of their parents' control (at the cost of losing their parents' blessing and care)

2. Listen to your parents (this will make you lose a unique person)

No one can help you with this kind of thing. Choose for yourself.

To follow one's inner choice, family and love are equally important, and there is no light weight.

I wish you happiness