Short-sighted, regardless of priorities, how much impact does it have on your life?

First, short-sighted people don't get along well.

There is an aunt Wang in our hospital, who is very capable. Everyone praised her for her good quilt. By the way, I forgot to mention that she runs a cotton shop and has a job every day. She is very busy. In my opinion, she should actually have a good life. Actually, it's not. Just enough to eat and drink, the house has not been decorated for many years. Worse than ordinary families. I want to change a big store, and I haven't changed it. Her family always pays her debts when she earns money, and her son is also very naughty and always makes trouble. She lost money to others everywhere. She used to go to fortune telling, and the fortune teller said that her fortune was good, but the eight characters were too fierce and easy to break, so her life was not good. It wasn't until 20 14 that I heard that her son was going to fight with others at the barbecue stall, beat others badly and went to prison, that I gradually understood why her life was bad. Her children are clever since childhood, but naughty. The teacher always tells her to go home and take care of her and do a good job in family education. But she always said that she had too much work to take care of the children. This is the teacher's business, otherwise she needs a teacher. Her husband worked in Shenzhen all the year round, and her children became wild children in our hospital, and no one was in charge, "growing up freely." In fact, all her financial failures are traceable. If the lock is broken, she can't control it, so she becomes a thief. She was too tired to eat, so she got stomach trouble, spent more money on medicine, her waist was bad, and her joints still hurt ... So, her bad karma was not because of any horoscope, but because she only cared about the present and ignored the long term. However, many newly graduated college students will make this mistake, only paying attention to the high starting salary, but ignoring the development prospects of this industry. Can this team and this boss get along? Slowly, the gap opened. As the saying goes, people who have no long-term worries will have near worries. If a person is too short-sighted, his life will not please you.

Second, it is those "important things that are not urgent" that really widen the gap.

Anyone who has studied management knows the four-quadrant theory: emergency is important, emergency is not important, emergency is not important, and emergency is not important. If these four things are arranged properly, your life will not be bad. Urgent and important things, such as graduation thesis, serious illness hospitalization, business negotiation, etc., need to be done at once. Things that are not important or urgent, such as following plays and playing games, are generally optional. What fascinates us is often "urgency is not important" and "importance is not urgent". Urgent, unimportant things, such as your best friend calling you to go shopping, suddenly throwing over a message that needs to be changed. Important but not urgent things, such as reading, running, learning a new skill, and spending time with children. However, most of us ordinary people put aside important things that are not urgent and do unimportant urgent things. If you are always held back by urgent things and ignore important things, then in the past, important things will gradually become particularly urgent, and you have to spend a lot of money to make up for it. Or, nothing can make up for it. Therefore, important but not urgent things are the key factors that determine the quality and height of life of students three to five years after graduation.

Third, don't be the one who has been sawing wood.

How to judge whether a thing is "important or not" or "urgent or not" That is to think about whether this matter will affect your life in ten years. For example, a part-time job at university weekends can earn a little money, but the money is insignificant for people ten years later. Taking CET-4 and driving test will have a great impact on your work and life. Receive one more customer, do more business and earn more money. Ten years later, the money will mean little to you. Protecting your health and educating your children will affect your life. Therefore, spare more time, do more long-term and real things, study, exercise and improve your skills, so that the first half of your life will be difficult, but the second half will be easy. There is a story about a man who saws wood desperately. Before the old ones are finished, new ones are delivered, and more and more people work overtime. Someone reminded him that your saw is too dull, sharpen it quickly! He said that the work can't be finished and there is no time to grind. A friend asked, when will you grind it? He said, after I saw it. Therefore, we can't be wood sawers. Sharpening a knife is not a mistake for a woodcutter.