40-year-old middle-aged men often feel lonely and afraid. Why?

What are men afraid of in middle-aged crisis? Middle-aged men are most afraid of loneliness.

If a person's life is simply divided into four stages, namely: childhood, youth, middle age and old age.

In childhood, learning social rules and knowledge is a process of constant socialization.

Youth, for most men, is a stage of constant struggle for "getting married and starting a business". In this process, external desires and goals become the focus of attention, and success means houses, cars and beautiful women.

The society's expectation of men is relatively simple, and men don't need to bear too many responsibilities of bearing children, let alone find a balance between family and career. It seems that men are qualified, even excellent, as long as they do a good job and earn enough money. This kind of social expectation, almost from kindergarten, has become a subtle teaching, integrated into the blood of the little boy.

However, Jung, a famous psychologist, believes that when people reach middle age, men's achievements are basically a foregone conclusion, and their bodies begin to decline and they begin to feel overwhelmed. Therefore, men who have been pursuing external success by their own strength only gradually realize the passing of strength in middle age: their bodies are fat, their hair is thin, and more importantly, their sexual ability as male characteristics begins to decline.

After all, one of men's greatest achievements is that they can conquer women sexually. A middle-aged man, maybe he will find that he can't be as irreversible as a young man in his early twenties. Physical changes will bring psychological frustration.

Almost everyone will say that men are late bloomers. This is not only reflected in the fact that little boys' intellectual, emotional and physical development is later than that of girls, but also in the fact that most men pay less attention to the spiritual world than women. For a long time, the pursuit of fame and fortune abroad has neglected the spiritual world, which makes middle-aged men feel uneasy when facing the next turning point in their lives. This turning point is: physical decline, responsibility for children, responsibility for elderly parents, lack of emotion.

When the wife is no longer the young girl in the past, but the mother who takes care of the children wholeheartedly, where is the position of the man? A person is born a child. But when the child's mother is completely old and he is going to grow up, he will feel lonely. After all, this kind of loneliness is what middle-aged men fear most.

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