What should I do if my personality is too tangled?

Kindness is a quality that everyone must have, but kindness does not mean cowardice, and cowardice does not mean entanglement. True kindness is a kind of wisdom, and cowardice is a manifestation of lack of "mind". Many people, when they are timid and entangled, will regard cowardice and entanglement as a kind of kindness in a self-deceiving way. This self-deception really bothers them. In fact, don't they know their cowardice? I just can't find a solution to my cowardice. Today is to tell you what to do when you are weak, hoping to help you.

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Correctly understand the difference between kindness and cowardice

As we said just now, kindness also needs wisdom. For example, when others need our help, we can distinguish between good and bad, whether to help or not, and be firm. Cowardice and entanglement are just the opposite. Even if you can distinguish between good and bad or help or not, cowardice can't be firm. Often when you refuse in your heart, you are constantly helping others, even if it is to put yourself in danger or embarrassing situations.

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See yourself clearly and don't deceive yourself.

This is the greatest performance of a cowardly and entangled person, that is, he likes to deceive himself and others very much. I know clearly in my heart that that person can't help or that thing can't be done, but he did and helped because of face or other reasons. Think about it yourself, you will be wronged or unfair, but you will deceive yourself to achieve a psychological satisfaction. So if you want to change your cowardly and tangled character, you must learn not to deceive yourself.

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Set yourself a bottom line.

No matter how you behave or do things, just on what occasions, no matter who you are facing, set a bottom line for yourself first. As long as it goes beyond your bottom line, no matter who it is, you should refuse or resist accordingly. Maybe at first, you will feel a little embarrassed, but as long as you do this once, twice and thrice, you can learn to dare to refuse and resist.

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Think about what you have suffered on weekdays.

Of course, almost all people with weak and tangled personalities are hard to become brave at once, and they will always struggle between rejection and acceptance. Then, on weekdays, think about the losses you have suffered because of cowardice and entanglement. This is a very strange psychological phenomenon. When you are immersed in a very angry thing, those emotions such as anger and injustice will only get worse and worse. It is precisely the intensification of this emotion that gives you the courage to change your cowardly and tangled character.

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Speak your opinion boldly.

Cowardly and tangled people hardly dare to express their opinions on any occasion, whether they speak freely or others ask for your advice. At these times, they will be very weak and entangled, preferring to keep all the words in their hearts and not dare to say them. Afterwards, I regretted it. Then, if you want to change your cowardly and tangled character, please learn to speak bravely, speak boldly when making suggestions, and don't be silent when defending. Over time, you will love this bold expression.

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Learn to refuse, learn to say no.

Why are people who are weak and entangled always so weak and entangled? Are they stupid? Don't they have high IQ? Or are they low in emotional intelligence? Actually, it's not. On the contrary, people who are weak and entangled tend to have high IQ and EQ, but what is not high is courage. Please learn to say no to unfair people and things. Just say no once and you will be braver.

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Give no face to anyone.

Think for yourself on weekdays. When have people who wronged you ever given you face? When have they considered your idea? When have they ever considered whether you have been wronged? Besides, do you owe them? If you don't owe each other, why should you wronged yourself to satisfy others? So, remember, you don't have to give everyone face.

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Work hard and be yourself.

The more cowardly and tangled people are, the more they should try to be themselves. There is a saying that artists are bold. If you have good abilities and your own advantages, no matter who you face or what you face, you will not be afraid, let alone do things that are wronged and perfect.